for wanting to tell this old woman to sod off??

[EverybodySayHumf]

I joined weight watchers yesterday and it was an old lady signing you in.

During the meeting the leader was talking about 'ways to get moving more' Not really the gym or classes just doing things in everyday life to up your day to day movement.

Now I don't have a car so I walk and move around alot.

The leader said 'does anyone do their shopping online?'

So I said 'Me'

And she made the point that I should try and do the shopping in person as walking around the shop pushing the trolley is better than sitting at the PC.

I pointed out that I walk EVERYWHERE including a full 2 HOURs a day doing the back and forth school run and that it would be difficult getting the shopping as I don't have a car.

So the old woman who signs you in chirps up at this point shouting 'Well I don't have a car, I get up and get on the bus!! its not hard to carry shopping lovey'

Cue laughter.....

and me feeling stupid :(

but I have a family of 7!! and when i do the online shopping I start with five 2litre bottles of water!!

So how the hell am i supposed to get weekly shopping for 7 people, on the bus, with a one year old AND a 3 year old with me alone???

She made me feel really stupid and lazy but It just WOULD NOT be possible for me to get my shopping on the bus with my kids :(

I don't even think the old woman meant to be rude. She might have her own anxiety about being the oldest in the group and keen to prove that she's entirely capable. She would probably be horrified to think she'd upset the OP to this extent.

Which posters should be ashamed?

YANBU. She was being a rude cow. I would have been pissed off.

WTAF is all this ageist shit. Is it ageist to describe an elderly person as old now?

What Tyranno said.

The OP explained that she didn't mean to disparage the elderly. She also posted that she was upset, distressed, suffers from depression and anxiety.

Stop picking on one part of her post and harking on about it.

I AM NOT ASHAMED

GRANNY BUGGINS SHOULD FEEL THE SHAME

"Gosh, I'm not ageist, I am a primary carer for my 70 year old nana and visit 2 elderly neigbours regularly on our street to go shopping for them" - because some of your best friends are old people are they?

Don't they recommend you online shop if you're trying to lose weight? You can bypass the cake aisle that way. Tell em that next meeting.

Make that lazy spiteful granny do your shopping

does "youthfully challenged" make the grade then?

it's one of those 'shit i wish i'd said that' ignore her, don't let it put you off,you are starting a big change with potentially massive benefits for you and your family. fuck her.

"Coffin dodgers" of over 60!

Had you ever thought how old the mumsnetters you are chatting to are? Do yu imagine thm all to be 25?

She was trying to help you. Bless her, she got it horribly wrong. The people were laughing at her not you, the irony of being told to walk to the shops and her saying she uses the bus!!

'Youthfully challenged'' i like it!!

You should have sat on her, she wouldn't have been so witty then.

Yanbu to be upset. I joined ww about 6 months ago. The leader at the first meeting asked me how many children i had and how old i was (you know in the bit where they introduce you to the rest of he group)amd of course i answered with 5 children and 29. All of the other womenn were much older a i live in an area with alot of elderly people.
Every week from then on people were incredibly rude and bitchy. One week for example i walked in and the group chatting in front of me immediatly started talking about how awful it was that "young mothers have large families and rely on the state" and about how easy it was to have children these days compared to how awful it was in their day. After a few weeks of this i did point put that i was in my twenties when i had my first child,im married, dh and i work and run our own business abnd that we dont in fact live a high life, we dont bathe in money because we have 5 children.

This didnt matter they were just bitches, i lost 2 stone and left. Fuck them.

Sometimes, people are unable to look beyond their own circumstances when making judgments on other people's decisions. Whether it's an adult without without dependent children judging you for internet shopping, a car driver wondering why her next-door neighbour still uses a pushchair to push a walking toddler four miles and back, or anything else, it's annoying.

I don't blame you for feeling picked on. Cultivate some witty answers and go back next week. You probably won't need the retorts, but you'll feel better for having them, just in case.