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AIBU?

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Original poster

Fed my PFB cookie! AIBU?

142 replies

AvoidContactWithEyes · 05/09/2012 08:12

Last night, my husband's grandmother (82) who lives with us (long story) fed crumbs of cookie to DS (you know one of those Millie's cookie things) while I had my head turned. He's 6 months and has so far only had a few spoons of pureed veg.

I snatched DS away and said can you NEVER do that again before flouncing leaving the room to calm down. Feel bad because she is lovely, DS adores her and she is elderly, but she is completely with it and knew well what she was doing (she was being deliberately sneaky about it). I was still seething over breakfast this morning. Husband thinks I should let it go.

PFB thoughts I am having (just to amuse)
Did the cookie contain nuts? What if DS is allergic?
HE COULD HAVE CHOKED!!
What else have you been sneaking him when I haven't been around?
What if it upsets PFB's tummy?
What if PFB rejects my home cooking now for all eternity
Will it have any harmful effects?

Seriously though, am really fucked off. Gah...would you be similarly annoyed if this happened?

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fuckityfuckfuckfuck · 05/09/2012 08:14

yabu. It was a cookie, not crack

emsyj · 05/09/2012 08:14

Hmmm, well yes I probably would have been similarly annoyed - but DD is now 2,3yo and has eaten a lot of cookies/chocolate etc in her time but still eats 'normal' food too (including my home cooking!) so I would be astonished if this has any effect whatsoever.

Would you let her help you feed DS with 'approved' foods in future? Maybe she just wants to be involved...

CumberdickBendybatch · 05/09/2012 08:15

PFBtastic! :)

Rubirosa · 05/09/2012 08:16

Crumbs? You are being utterly ridiculous.

savoycabbage · 05/09/2012 08:16

No yanbu to be upset.

My mil used to sneak my dd1 coke (a-colaGrin) when she was a baby because she thought we were unkind not to give it to her. I was really pissed off.

Rubirosa · 05/09/2012 08:16

Crumbs? You are being utterly ridiculous.

SoupDragon · 05/09/2012 08:17

Sounds like a typical PFB over reaction TBH. Perfectly natural and we've all done it :)

Yes, all your worries are valid to some degree but it was crumbs of cookie not, as I found PFB DS1 eating, dried cat food spilled from the bowl.

Your DS will be fine :)

Merrylegs · 05/09/2012 08:17

If this was in Parenting I would probably be kinder, but since it is AIBU...

  1. Is he allergic? Did he have a reaction?
  2. Did he choke?
  3. Dunno. Gin?
  4. Did he puke?
  5. No
  6. No. Apart from possibly frosty relations with Grandma.

'Husband thinks I should let it go.'
That.

MrsPnut · 05/09/2012 08:17

What are you going to do when he starts moving independently and stuffs his face with worms, soil, snails and cat food?

I'd let it go. It's only because he's PFB that it's a big deal, if he was second or third child then he'd have been fed goodness knows what by his siblings already.

hopenglory · 05/09/2012 08:17

Crumbs of cookie? Shock

Original poster
AvoidContactWithEyes · 05/09/2012 08:17

I just hate that his list of first tastes now reads as follows

Banana
Broccoli
Sweet potato
Millie's Cookie

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SoupDragon · 05/09/2012 08:17

Get some baby biscuity things for your GMIL to feed him.

SoupDragon · 05/09/2012 08:18

DDs first taste was the inflight magazine on a long haul flight, followed by sand from the beach. Not the locally picked fresh banana I had planned.

Rubirosa · 05/09/2012 08:19

6 month olds should be having finger foods anyway, not just purees. He needs to chew.

savoycabbage · 05/09/2012 08:20

My friend dropped a cadburys button on her nipple when feeding her newborn...

Original poster
AvoidContactWithEyes · 05/09/2012 08:21

welcome BLW police, how can we help you today

(FFS we only started this week! Don't worry he won't be on slop till he's 4)

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ZombiesAreClammyDodgers · 05/09/2012 08:22

YABU. A little. She's 82. Cut her some slack. And ask her not to feed cookies again.

Hopeforever · 05/09/2012 08:22

I think it is wonderful that you have your grandmother in law living with you, how amazing.
I can see why you feel as you do, the pressure of 'getting everything right' for your first born while coping with another generations needs.
Yes, you do need to let it go, for your own sanity, if nothing else.
Good Luck with chatting through why you are weaning as you are.

ladymariner · 05/09/2012 08:23

YADNBU (I suppose) if you have been monitoring your dd's food......

BUT YABVVVVVVU to snatch dd away, shout at your grannie (assuming you shouted seeing as you've written it in bold) and to flounce!!!! Fgs how old are you?

Pagwatch · 05/09/2012 08:23

Give him some hummus, olives and spelt bread and you can dilute the fast food moment and get right back on track with the whole organicPFBosity.

sawseesaw · 05/09/2012 08:24

Pfb festival of pfbness, but I think you know that already! I'd have been the same - possibly without the flounce Smile
Crumbs are unlikely to cause any probs at all. I would have a calm quiet chat just to explain your approach and to make sure she isn't feeding him big chunks of anything.

AnitaBlake · 05/09/2012 08:24

Now, at 21m I can't even really remember what PFB DDs list of first foods was. Am pretty sure cat biscuits is right up there with couscous at sub-six months and a petit filous my mum insisted she had for dessert one day. No.2 is on its way and god only knows what it'll get as I remember DN fed DD a shortcake biscuit at less than four months!

Honestly, he hasn't reacted so its unlikely he'll be allergic to anything in the cookie and it could have been way worse!

ThePigOnTheWall · 05/09/2012 08:25

Unclench! Grin

Rubirosa · 05/09/2012 08:26

You know they can have things containing nuts from 6 months too?

All this fuss about some cookie crumbs. I thought this thread would be about a 6 week old Grin

Original poster
AvoidContactWithEyes · 05/09/2012 08:32

OK IAB (a bit) U!

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