Fed my PFB cookie! AIBU?

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Last night, my husband's grandmother (82) who lives with us (long story) fed crumbs of cookie to DS (you know one of those Millie's cookie things) while I had my head turned. He's 6 months and has so far only had a few spoons of pureed veg.

I snatched DS away and said can you NEVER do that again before flouncing leaving the room to calm down. Feel bad because she is lovely, DS adores her and she is elderly, but she is completely with it and knew well what she was doing (she was being deliberately sneaky about it). I was still seething over breakfast this morning. Husband thinks I should let it go.

PFB thoughts I am having (just to amuse)
Did the cookie contain nuts? What if DS is allergic?
HE COULD HAVE CHOKED!!
What else have you been sneaking him when I haven't been around?
What if it upsets PFB's tummy?
What if PFB rejects my home cooking now for all eternity
Will it have any harmful effects?

Seriously though, am really fucked off. Gah...would you be similarly annoyed if this happened?

She'll need to exchange him for one that's untainted by the taste of cookie goodness

We gave our PFB a small amount of chocolate cake when he was that age. Wasn't even a home made one

I can't believe some of the replies on here being so hard on the OP!

YANBU to not want your PFB to be given cookie. I wouldn't have wanted my DS to be given any cookie in his first week of weaning either. Because the grandmother lives with you I think you also need to make it clear to her not to do it, the time will come when she can give him treats soon enough.

Otherwise I think you'll have an ongoing problem with this. My mum gives DS all sorts of stuff and heaven only know what my gran would have thought was a good idea if she was still alive! It's ok indulging grandparents in this if you only see them now again but it's a different story if they live with you.

You are however, BU if you really did flounce (and you aren't being tongue in cheek about that bit) and made poor old Granny feel too awful.

Can you have a kind and polite word with her about waiting until he's up and running with food before he gets treats? I think she's only trying to be kind so don't be too hard on her :)

wow, you are a bit bonkers. Is this a joke thread following on from Realitys one?

How many of you who are so fast to criticise the OP have your Grandmother in law living with you all the time?

If you do, do you also have a baby or toddler?

The OP is a saint in my book

YAB a bit U and PFB, but you know that. And I was exactly the same. With DS1. DS2, pah. I think his third taste of anything was of some cheap chocolate icecream that his older brother helpfully blobbed in his face while I wasn't looking.

82 yr old grannies may be unaware of feeding guidelines in the 21stC. Educate her gently. If you're living with her FT, kudos to you, I bloody well couldn't do that!

Not sure how old I was, but it was def less than six months. One day, the health visitor came to visit. Apparently, as she approached me a look of shock, followed by suspicion came over her face. She asked Mrs RainbowRabbit why her daughter smelled so strongly of garlic. Mrs RainbowRabbit cheerfully informed her that I had had spaghetti bolognaise for my lunch and that it was my favourite. I also liked chilli con carne and chicken curry. The nice health visitor didn't quite know what to say... Needless to say, I am fine. And I still love garlic.

I can't really help on how bad biscuits are, but OP's question made me smile as I remembered the story! Granny sounds nice too, mine used to sneak me Tizer when my mother wasn't looking. I was a bit older than six months by that point! Still, your baby, your choice what she eats.

Actually I think totally reasonable. Not about the cookie particularly, but about deliberately going behind your back. You can't have someone who lives with you thinking she can go against your parenting decisions whenever she feels like it. Specially someone that age. Parenting methods have moved on quite a lot since she had kids, and some of the things she might think normal we might now think dangerous.
But even with the cookie. Suppose baby had a reaction to something in the cookie. You wouldn't know what it was, cos cookie probably had gluten, dairy, maybe nuts, other things, none of which baby had previously tried. Or what if you hadn't turned round, then baby was ill, and you didn't even know a food reaction was a possibility? But sounds like all was well on that front, and if no harm has shown so far sure it's fine.
The main point is she has to understand that your decisions go.

YANBU. Okay, the cookie won't hurt, but the "sneaking" it bit would have pissed me off, and left me with a little less trust for that person.

My dc were having biscuits at that age

the OP is one thread wonder. HTH

At 6 months my brother was trying to feed my DD penny sweets and chocolate buttons, so cookie crumbs aren't really too bad.

My mum keeps trying to feed my PFB DS sugary biscuits and when the intelligence of this is questioned, she says 'Don't worry, they're organic!'

So I guess it's ok to mainline sugar as long as it's organic sugar

Grannies. They have a special aptitude for bonkersosity.

Grannies. They have a special aptitude for bonkersosity.

Actually I think it's mums who have a special aptitude for being nuts with PFB...I'm sure I will too!

I really wouldn't be making such a fuss about it, as long as you have told her not to then don't go on about it. You shouldn't have reacted so badly at the time, just should have told her it wasn't suitable for babies and left it at that but I am guessing you know that otherwise you wouldn't have posted on here!

My dad gave my 8 month old a Magnum ice cream - he only meant for him to try a tiny bit of the chocolate but DS decided he'd snatch it so my dad let him - dad's punishment was the fact DS turned green after finishing it - he was quite worried then - I was just disappointed he wasn't sick on him as they would have taught him!

BTW I know someone who fed her DS pureed food until him was 3.5 so you may joke but people actually do that.

My DCs both ate their own poo when they were babies. Not routinely, obviously. I wouldn't have worried about cookie crumbs.

I think I would be cross at the fact that grandma was sneaking things that arent allowed. That is a bit naughty. However, you have got to have a rational, reasoned conversation with her. I.E, Listen Granny, I didnt mean to sound so cross last night but I really do not want PFB eating cookies until he is much bigger. Then you need to let it go. One of the battles I have accepted I have to lose are the 'grandparents spoiling my dd with food' battles. It is different for me because my dd is 13 months so is able to have the odd cookie. Plus both my mum and mil do give healthy snacks as well as treats. However, after a day at either one of her grandmas she NEVER eats much of her tea because she has not stopped grazing all day (not on crap I should add, my dd is a fruit fiend and knows how to play the grandparents when she sees something she wants in the fruit bowl). When she gets bigger I will introduce the 'no treats before tea' rule to the grandparents, but at the moment, I cant see the harm in letting them spoil her a bit.
You are allowed to worry about these kind of things, but perhaps need to listen to hubby and find a bit of perspective.

Love the fact she is a rebel Granny sneaking biccies to pfb... soon it will choc buttons "sshh do not tell your Mother" You child will love her !!