Fed my PFB cookie! AIBU?

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Last night, my husband's grandmother (82) who lives with us (long story) fed crumbs of cookie to DS (you know one of those Millie's cookie things) while I had my head turned. He's 6 months and has so far only had a few spoons of pureed veg.

I snatched DS away and said can you NEVER do that again before flouncing leaving the room to calm down. Feel bad because she is lovely, DS adores her and she is elderly, but she is completely with it and knew well what she was doing (she was being deliberately sneaky about it). I was still seething over breakfast this morning. Husband thinks I should let it go.

PFB thoughts I am having (just to amuse)
Did the cookie contain nuts? What if DS is allergic?
HE COULD HAVE CHOKED!!
What else have you been sneaking him when I haven't been around?
What if it upsets PFB's tummy?
What if PFB rejects my home cooking now for all eternity
Will it have any harmful effects?

Seriously though, am really fucked off. Gah...would you be similarly annoyed if this happened?

my MIL let dd crawl into the downstairs loo, and I caught her sucking the toilet brush

See if I caught my MIL sucking a toilet brush I'd consider that completely normal for her.....

I think the OP has had an undeservedly hard time on this thread. People forget that when you look for advice on weaning in books and in RL, a lot of of emphasis is put on the importance of first tastes, avoidance of refined sugars etc and it's normal to absorb that expert advice and try to apply it. I don't think there's anything inherently laughable or ridiculous about that: just one mum trying to do her best, as we all have done and do.

When my DD was trying her first carrots etc, I remember DFIL's hand sort of hovering over her holding a cake and to me it seemed unbelieveable that he was even contemplating offering it. There was no confrontation: I just said, "she's still a a bit young for that" and he said "yes, I suppose so" or something along those lines and that was the end of that. If he had then sneaked it to her, I would have been upset.

Anyway, OP herself says she over-reacted, understandable IMO. The suggestions to simply explain and excuse her reaction to the granny are the most constructive. That's the obvious thing to do. Apologise - but also ensure that the granny understands wheer's she's coming from and will leave this sort of thing for another while 'til baby is older.

Worra, if there was any chance at all that the bog brush might have been in contact with red wine or brandy, my MIL would suck it like a shot!

Saggy You'd think, but apparently not. So no honey roast parsnips or carrots are on the menu until 12m+ either.

My DFather gave my 6 month old a crumb of Jaffa cake on Monday, tbf he did look at me for the green light (once it was in his mouth!) and after the initial, this isn't right feeling, my main worry was he enjoyed it so much how do I stop myself giving it to him all the time!

I've thought abt my initial reaction since and I think I do want my DS to have treats, it's a great part of being a kid, so am justgonna chill when the GPs give him things I wouldn't

DP fed my 4.5 month old, EBF PFB crumbs of a TWIRL chocolate bar. Luckily we all survived.

At 6 months mine were chomping all sorts of things!! Poor Granny hope you apologised to her she must be really hurt. However I do sort of see where you coming from but over reaction.

Saggy, so would I!

There were 33 recorded cases of food borne botulism in the UK in the 30 years between 1980-2010, and 26 of them were in a single outbreak linked to yoghurt.
So if you want to talk risks of botulism, yoghurt (eaten by most babies) is far riskier than honey.
Does anyone warn of the dangers of yoghurt and botulism?

Not to mention there was probably no honey in the cookie, if there was it was probably pasteurised, and it was only crumbs anyway. There was more chance of an asteroid falling on the house than contracting botulism.

Modern parents risk perception is as bizarre as it is arseways.

PMSL at some of the comments on here.

I think you over-reacted and need to apologise to your granny. We sort of understand where you come from, but the fact that a cookie (and a Miss Millie's cookie at that!) features so prominently in his first tastes list is min bogglingly unimportant.

Ds2's first taste of solid food was an onion bhaji fed to him by his brother

WhatYouLookingAt - there have been at least 3 cases of infant botulism linked to honey in the last couple of years, so actually honey is a risk, probably more than yoghurt.

WhatYouLookingAt Whilst I completely agree with the bonkers conclusion on risk assessments people have -neither pasteurising or cooking at the temp a cookie would get would likely kill botulism spores (the cooking might, but it's a close thing).

But as you say infant botulism linked to honey is stunningly rare, and almost completely treatable. Also if you've not kept your child in a bubble of anti-bacterial content most would have already developed the stomach barrier to prevent it (that's why 1 is the limit, because there's really really small chance by then)

As you say risk perception is really bonkers. OP please apologise to your granny she did absolutely nothing to harm your baby, but also feel free to explain that you want to choose things she's fed. Relax though, there's absolutely nothing wrong with a cookie.

This is a joke yes?

YAB extraordinarily U.

Mind bogglingly so.

It's a COOKIE. Not methamphetamine.

Bizarre.

Rubirosa The 3 cases were two 8week olds and a 15week old - much younger than the OP's baby and at much higher risk, it's even rarer after 6months (I don't believe there have been any in the UK since the link was found and tested for and only a tiny number in the US)

This is really making me want a Millie's cookie!

YABRiduculous OP, but Inthink you know that now

I suspect that you know that you were being Unreasonable, at least a little bit.

As the wise MrsDevere almost said, let those of us who have never displayed PFBish behaviour cast the first fruitshoot.

Go apologise to poor old granny.

Actually there were 3 in one year and then none, and as reports say there aren't usually any since its so rare, the risk is vanishingly small. And one of them was 15 weeks old so what they were ding feeding him anything is anyones guess, let alone honey.

YANBU to be annoyed at her going against your wishes and being sneaky about it (implying that she knew it would bother you and did it anyway), but I think your reaction sounds completely over the top.

By six months my PFB had already eaten organic grass and earthworm (from the garden), inorganic chalk bits, lint from the lint roller and so on. Millie's cookie is not crack.

YABU.

YABU. You need to chill OP.