PFB first day at school parents ignoring the schools request to NOT accompany their PFB into the cloak room.

[D0oinMeCleanin]

If you are one of these parents FUCKING STOP IT! FFS!

The cloakroom is built to comfortably hold 60 children, 2 teachers and 4 TAs. Not 60 children, 2 teachers, 4 TAs, 30 mummies, 20 daddies, 10 sets of grandparents, 6 toddling siblings and 3 babes in buggies.

20 fucking minutes it took me to convince my yr1 child to go into her cloakroom because she didn't dare push past all the fecking imbecile parents. Do you realise how daunting it is for a 3ft something child to have to force her way through that lot!?!

And to the mummy who shoved past dd2 to get to her whimpering child - shame on you You'd better hope you don't me in small, crowded space. You'll be the one going face first into the fucking wall. I can guarantee you that.

tbh I think the OP was having a justifiable rant. I am sorry her child got hurt. I find it amazing that parents do not think that their children will be safe with the staff of the school, that they think the child will be left to flounder in the cloakroom with no assistance or help. If a school has asked parents not to come in they will have made arrangements to steer the children towards the correct peg etc.

I think those who are getting in a twist over the tone of the OP are the people that went into the cloakroom with their dc when they started school. The thing is, it may be appropriate to do so in a different school with a different amount of space available, but clearly not in the school mentioned here.

Aww LtEve, can your DH drop off my DS too please?

Oh well.......

D0oinMeCleanin didn't 'do her in' ffs.

She let off steam (with swear words) on an internet forum.

I upgrade upset to fucking fuming.

I rather regret that my DS won't be in Doin's DD's class. We could get together and form a covern an alliance.

Her first day in year 2 today . She never got to meet her new teacher last year so today will be the first day. She was upset and anxious last night about meeting her. I'm gonna be in that cloakroom today unless that teacher is standing at the door and greeting her with a smile.

Well she got in okay today. We got there very early and she waited right by the door until it opened so she was one of the first in. She told her teacher she was going to take her coat off really quickly and run to the classroom before all the mummies and daddies came.

Her nose is okay. There is a tiny scratch on the end of it, but it's not that noticeable unless you know it's there.

Yes I got very pissed off. I don't deal with crowded spaces well myself and I couldn't help to think that if I felt that uncomfortable and I am 5ft9, then how bad does a tiny 5yo feel, who is swamped by people three times their size? It's quite shocking to see your child just shoved out of the way by another parent. I think anyone one on here would have felt just as pissed off about it all as I did.

The school did seem to be dealing with it better today. I saw one mum being turned away when she tried to get in with her child.

Wrt other schools welcoming parents in, well that's great. I'd have no problem with parents going into the school if they'd been asked/encouraged to and the set up was made safe to do so, but the fact is our school has explicitly asked parents to stay out, several million times over in fact. There is simply not enough space for all of those people. It is not safe to cram all of those adults into a space that small when there are small children here, there and everywhere.

The school do work well with parents, but in different ways. At the end of last term all parents, not just those of new starters were invited to "wine and nibbles" night to meet their child's new teacher and see where/what they were learning.

Parents and new starters are invited to opening evenings to meet the teacher and see the class and to be shown where to go.

All pupils including new starters spend a day with their new teacher making an "all about me" booklet and meeting their peers. New starters are invited in for lunch with their parents.

They do lots throughout the year that include parents. There are some weeks I feel like I spend more time at that bloody school than I do at work. The HT has an open door policy between 9am and 10am for any parents who have concerns as does the school liaison officer. The SENCO makes herself available for an hour after school time.

The school deal with new starters and moving up into the next year very very well imo. There really is no need to ignore the rules. The children already know where to go. They've already made friends. They already know their teacher, as do the parents. Children with extra needs are accomadated for.

Is this the wrong time and place to mention that for the first time ever I don't have to go into the primary school in the mornings. DD and DS1 are in secondary now and DS2 has just started to let me drop him at the school gate in the car! Yay! Hurrah! Break open the champagne...... I can't tell you what a relief it is after 11 years.

As you were .

We were 5 minutes late every morning, with the teacher's blessing, in order to avoid the kind of ruck the OP describes, as were a couple of other children.

This was until the school changed their open door policy (or rather implemented it more sensibly). Every report time (when we gave feedback to the school about them, as well as they to us about the children) I brought this up and I know I wasn't alone.

It is far, far kinder to allow children (small and not so small) to enter a calm environment. Kiss and hug in the playground, then send them in to a welcoming, comfortable classroom/cloakroom. The teacher-mobbing must have been insufferable for them too; I get the impression they were grateful for mine and others' pleading to keep parents, for the most part, out, and let them get on with their jobs.

My DS's school brings the reception children in a day earlier just for a few hours. That way the YR parents can have their first day at school emotional moments (that was me last year with DS2) but it doesn't disrupt anyone and the YR get a chance to find their feet.

We were all allowed to pop into the classrooms today to say hello to the teachers but from what I saw of the Yr1 parents, none of us lingered.

Orm

That was me last year Orm. Back home in double quick time.

Glad it was better today D0oin. I understand your point totally. Parents need to abide by the rules too.

Glad your DD was ok today.

My DD was in nursery last year. There was a mum who used to volunteer to help at the school whenever she could and even when there was nothing going on she would engineer a way to get into the school . Great, you may think, but the only reason she did it was to be able to go and collect her DS from his class instead of queuing in the playground with the other parents, because 'it made her child feel special'. What about our children, are they not special? One of the other boys would often be crying when he came out whenever this happened, because his mum didn't ever collect him early from class.

Luckily, her child is not starting reception on the same day as mine. I think there will be a real scene when she has to leave him all day, and I'd rather not witness it.

YANBU. I'd have kicked off there and then and demanded an explanation.

And this is why DDs Dad will be taking her to school when she starts.

I read this thread yesterday and remembered it this morning, as I dropped my DD off for her first day in Y1 - yes, there was an almightly scrum in the cloakroom (which is in fact a rather narrow corridor), yes, there were whole families, including grandparents, and blow me down if several parents were not also carrying bloody scooters, instead of leaving them outside - this is not a school were scooters are likely to be stolen and even if people were worried about that, you would have thought that one of the entourage could have stayed outside with the scooter, while the others accompanied the child inside....