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HELP! Mad woman on a night out!

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melonandpapayaandmango · 31/08/2012 17:55

Oh gosh ... I've wanted to post this ALL DAY but no time and wanted to be on the laptop.

I had an awful experience last night, I had gone out with an ex colleague from work and she also had two friends with her to celebrate her birthday, I knew one of them vaguely but hadn't met the other one at all.

I had been drinking but was not drunk, I had had two and a half glasses of wine at this point!

The thing is, I cut my hand, quite badly, I didn't notice at first because it was in the fleshy part where my thumb is. It didn't hurt so I only noticed as I stood up and quite a lot of blood gushed out and went over the woman (the one I didn't know's Blush) top.

I apologised really nicely and said I was so sorry and she was all "this is brand new, it's dry clean only" and she was quite aggressive but I put it down to being upset over a new top, and I said look, get (friend) to send me the bill, I'll pay.

Then Sad she went psycho, she said, "it cost £99 and you'll pay for a new one bitch!" and jabbed me in the chest! I do not do confrontation and my heart was HAMMERING but I said "I will pay for it to be cleaned but I am not being spoken to like that!" (okay I probably squeaked it, I was upset!) friend told this woman to calm down but then told me I should just withdraw the cash from an ATM and give it to her then we could relax and enjoy our night ... I said I haven't GOT £99! This woman was all "well you'd better fucking find it!" and I am ashamed of this but I RAN out Blush mainly as I was crying but also just panicked. I got a taxi home and my phone has been going mad with messages from "friend" and her friend (she must have given her my number) and I've also had horrible Facebook messages. I rarely use Facebook, I've blocked & deleted and managed to set things so people I'm not friends with can't send me messages though.

But I'm scared! Could I be arrested for criminal damage or something?

and also, wibu to run out ... Sad

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pictish · 31/08/2012 17:59

Omg - they started messaging you? Both of them?! Shock

Um...wow - I don't know what to say! Wtf??

Salmotrutta · 31/08/2012 18:01

No - you won't be arrested for bleeding on a woman's top! The police would not be interested in an accidental blood-related staining incident.

She sounds a bit .. erm ... annoyed.

Poor you! Tepid salt water will take blood out if it is a fabric that can be washed?

... mind you I'm intrigued to know how you could have cut yourself badly enough to be gushing blood and not have noticed? Confused

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VenusStarr · 31/08/2012 18:02

Oh my goodness! What a horrible woman! I think you did the right thing by leaving. You offered to pay the dry cleaning bill. She was conpletely overreacting!

I don't think you'll have the police knocking your door. Good on you for blocking her. Ignore the texts. What has your ex colleague / mutual friend said? To be honest if she didn't stick up for you during the confrontation I'd be rethinking my friendship with her.

I hope you're ok now. In summary, YANBU :-)

fugglinfuggler · 31/08/2012 18:02

You have offered to pay for it to be dry cleaned. That should be the end of it. If not call the police.

Feminine · 31/08/2012 18:03

That is really awful Confused

I'm sorry , I have non idea what you can do.

I think I'd do what you have done though, and lay low for a bit.

Oh, and don't pay for a thing!

VivaLeBeaver · 31/08/2012 18:03

You can't be done for criminal damage.

LadyBeagleEyes · 31/08/2012 18:04

How did you cut your hand?

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melonandpapayaandmango · 31/08/2012 18:05

Pink, what don't you believe? I'm quite upset by that to be honest.

It was the part of my hand where my thumb was and quite a fleshy part, it wasn't a particularly deep cut and in all honesty I'm not hugely sensitive but there just seemed to be a lot of blood. I was sitting with my hand resting in my hair and then I stood up to go to the loo and put my hand down as I stood and I guess that's why it came umm spurging out.

By the way I'm talking maybe 2 spots of blood but it was a cream top, I know it must have been upsetting if it was new & expensive but honestly I would have paid for it to be cleaned. I didn't leave her looking like a scene from a horror movie Blush it was just a couple of drops of blood very small but yes I will concede noticeable as the top was light and flimsy fabric?

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melonandpapayaandmango · 31/08/2012 18:06

Lady, I think it was on the side of the table but not completely sure.

by the way noticed my op says a lot of blood, I meant relative to the cut, it was a small cut but there was quite a bit of blood as it was such a small injury. Sorry babbling!

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Salmotrutta · 31/08/2012 18:07

and quite a lot of blood gushed out - but only a couple of spots on the woman's top? Confused

Chubfuddler · 31/08/2012 18:07

I'm always injuring myself and not noticing, even when stone cold sober. She and your friend sound mad. Block on fb, tell her you have offered to pay for cleaning and that's that, if she's not prepared to accept she can do one.

Salmotrutta · 31/08/2012 18:08

Well, if it was actually only a couple of small spots she sounds a bit over the top.

Was it silk or something that can't be washed?

lavenderbongo · 31/08/2012 18:09

did nobody ask if you were okay?

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melonandpapayaandmango · 31/08/2012 18:09

Oh dear, don't all start doubting me!

Salotrutta, it's so hard to explain without being there but I was sitting down and I had my elbow on the table and my chin resting in my hand, then I stood up, because I stood up suddenly it caused blood to gush out and a couple of drops went on the lady's top Sad I am sorry if I've not been clear, I know what I mean, but obviously I was there!

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melonandpapayaandmango · 31/08/2012 18:10

chudfubbler me too, I bruise as well and don't know how i got them Blush

I'm ignoring my friend, to be honest we're not close but I was trying to force myself to be more sociable ... think I'll stay home with DCs in future!

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Salmotrutta · 31/08/2012 18:10

I'm just confused by the "gushing" but it only being a couple of spots - not being there probably doesn't help!

Salmotrutta · 31/08/2012 18:11

Best just to ignore really - they sound a bit rabid if they are messaging you and stuff!

GhostShip · 31/08/2012 18:12

I'd have wiped a bit more on for good measure if she spoke to me like that

And your friend is not a friend :(

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melonandpapayaandmango · 31/08/2012 18:12

Well it gushed but I was moving so it was only a couple of drops that went on her - most of it went on my arm, as when I saw the blood I lifted my arm to see what I'd done and a couple of drops sort of fell. Grin waited for the laptop as I was worried I'd make no sense on my phone and I am not making any sense anyway!

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madwomanintheattic · 31/08/2012 18:13

Not me, guv. I was tucked up in the attic.

Sounds bizarre. Just reply and reiterate that you are willing to pay for the dry cleaning.

But I am a leetle bit bemused by the gushing, not noticing, and only two glasses. Grin

Are you all, like, 18?

I went to a posh ball once in a new silk gown and within twenty minutes some blighter (friend of now-dh) accidentally up-ended an entire pint all down the front of said frock. I looked like I'd pissed myself, but really, it was an accident.

We all got over it without screeching, running, and Facebook.

NameChangeGalore · 31/08/2012 18:13

What a cow! Sorry, I know I shouldn't, but I'm giggling at you running out and getting messages...It sounded very Miranda-ish..

Anyway, doesn't blood come out in a dry clean? Why did she want a new top? I think she sounds unhinged, and maybe she was jealous of you? I can't think why anyone would do this to someone they don't even know!

maddening · 31/08/2012 18:13

Yanbu, now ex friend and her psycho pal are bu, I would maintain that you are willing to clean the top but any further harassment will be directed to the police

SilverSixpence · 31/08/2012 18:16

Poor you, story sounds believable to me not sure what people are doubting. I certainly wouldn't pay for the top although offering to pay for it to be cleaned was reasonable. I would just message the 'friend' and tell her that you will send £20 for the cleaning through her but that you will not accept being threatened and bullied. Hope you have some nicer friends to go out with in future.

LadyBeagleEyes · 31/08/2012 18:17

Your friends sound like loons.
Are they still harrassing you now they've sobered up?