HELP! Mad woman on a night out!

[melonandpapayaandmango]

Oh gosh ... I've wanted to post this ALL DAY but no time and wanted to be on the laptop.

I had an awful experience last night, I had gone out with an ex colleague from work and she also had two friends with her to celebrate her birthday, I knew one of them vaguely but hadn't met the other one at all.

I had been drinking but was not drunk, I had had two and a half glasses of wine at this point!

The thing is, I cut my hand, quite badly, I didn't notice at first because it was in the fleshy part where my thumb is. It didn't hurt so I only noticed as I stood up and quite a lot of blood gushed out and went over the woman (the one I didn't know's ) top.

I apologised really nicely and said I was so sorry and she was all "this is brand new, it's dry clean only" and she was quite aggressive but I put it down to being upset over a new top, and I said look, get (friend) to send me the bill, I'll pay.

Then she went psycho, she said, "it cost £99 and you'll pay for a new one bitch!" and jabbed me in the chest! I do not do confrontation and my heart was HAMMERING but I said "I will pay for it to be cleaned but I am not being spoken to like that!" (okay I probably squeaked it, I was upset!) friend told this woman to calm down but then told me I should just withdraw the cash from an ATM and give it to her then we could relax and enjoy our night ... I said I haven't GOT £99! This woman was all "well you'd better fucking find it!" and I am ashamed of this but I RAN out mainly as I was crying but also just panicked. I got a taxi home and my phone has been going mad with messages from "friend" and her friend (she must have given her my number) and I've also had horrible Facebook messages. I rarely use Facebook, I've blocked & deleted and managed to set things so people I'm not friends with can't send me messages though.

But I'm scared! Could I be arrested for criminal damage or something?

and also, wibu to run out ...

[Summerisle1]

Into the darkness for nearly 3 years, presumably.

[hobnobsaremyfavourite]

Why the fuck would some bring this
ZOMBIE FUCKING THREAD
back to life

[3chickens1dog]

I would have told her no and walked off.

[CuriousMama]

Agree fuck 'em. You cut yourself it's not as if you threw wine over her ffs! What selfish cows they both are. And downright weird

[LynetteScavo]

Not a lot shocks me, but I am actually shocked that someone who is enjoying a drink with a few other women would be so incredibly horrible to someone who was bleeding. < just to show how shocked I am.

A normal person would show concern, pretend they weren't bothered about the top, and go and ask behind the bar if they had any plasters.

Your "friend" told you to give this woman money from the ATM to placate her? All very odd.

I don't think you should give any money for the dry cleaning, but I probably would offer, because I'm wet and want people to like me like that. You certainly should NOT pay for the whole top.

[VivaLeBeaver]

Stain devils do a blood removing product which costs about £5 and works well.

I would say its total bollocks that the top cost £99. She's trying it on.

Tell her to fuck off.

[Latara]

Don't send money for the dry cleaning - getting blood on that woman's top was a total accident; & she has been a complete bitch about it.

If she gets money for dry cleaning then she may feel like it's ok to bother you for more money for a new top.
Or she may try being friendly to see what she can get out of you from that approach - don't fall for it..

Don't contact them again; if they keep contacting you then (i know i keep repeating this) call the police on 101 - because it's harrassment.

I bet that she wouldn't have made a fuss if an equally hard-faced woman (like herself) had spilt an entire glass of red wine over her... but she's trying it on with you because you are a nice person & she easily intimidated you.

[WhereYouLeftIt]

" I know that I probably "should" contact them to send a cheque "
You most certainly should not! She lost any right to your consideration when she behaved so horribly towards you.

[bringbacksideburns]

Yes i would contact a Dry Cleaners and ask for a price. Then i would contact your 'friend' and tell her you will send this amount to her to forward to the nutjob.
I would also let your 'friend' know this other woman was incredibly aggressive and intimidating and you fled because of this and you do not want her contacting you ever again on your number.

Then i would ditch the 'friend' and never text or engage with her again.

[holyfishnets]

Your ex work friend shouldn't have given out your number. It hasn't been dealt with in a fair and reasonable manner, you are being bullied! Find out how much it will cost to dry clean the top and forward it in cash to vile woman - with a witness. Write everything down as you go along and contact the police with any threats.

[Latara]

OP - you are much more restrained than me.
If i still drank alcohol & a bitch like that jabbed me & was aggressive - then i would have had to leave very quickly out of fear...


...that i would smack her in the face


Luckily i don't drink alcohol now so no risk of getting angry with horrible people on nights out!!
Now i deal with situations assertively but calmly....

(Can i also add that before i stopped drinking i'd always managed to walk away when i got angry in those situations. Even when drunk i was still sensible enough to know that bullies really annoy me so i avoided them.)

Just continue to ignore her.

Don't be scared - as i said before; she's a bully & she will soon get bored & find someone else to pick on if you ignore her; if not then the police should go & have a word with her.

[randomness]

£99 was probably the original price marked on the TK Maxx label.

She sounds like a loon, ignore ignore ignore.

[slartybartfast]

i would nto contact them either. how horrible, hopefully in tghe ocld light of day/sober - she will regret her actions.

[Schrodingershamster]

Fuck em. Dont even bother i wouldnt after someone called me a bitch !

[Noqontrol]

I wouldn't continue to offer anything after she called you a bitch. She sounds deranged. If she continues to harass you I'd report her to the police.

[shockers]

What did they say in their texts? Did your 'friend' apologise for the other woman's behaviour at all?

[melonandpapayaandmango]

I haven't heard anything from them so I'm being very brave and responsible and pretending it never happened , I know that I probably "should" contact them to send a cheque for dry cleaning but I really don't want to talk to them!

[griphook]

Hi op, have you sorted out the top situation

[RosesAreBetter]

I was implying that if this happened in a situation between normal people that would have been the expected response, but since the woman behave compleatly irrationally and unreasonably it was not a normal situation and the OP had nothing to feel guilty about.

Sorry I clearly didn't explain it well.

[ApocalypseCheeseToastie]

You need to find new friends.

[OhChristFENTON]

Exactly, Pag, - - "are you okay ?" is the normal thing to say to someone who's just cut themselves, not "get to a cashpoint, bitch"

[PedanticPanda]

Roses, I think we're reading different OP's, you've missed out the part where OP apologises, offers to pay the dry cleaning and the other woman calls her a bitch and jabs her in the chest, then the OP (quite understandably) ran out, they then started sending her harassing messages and then the OP turned her phone off.

Do you still understand why the other woman acted like she did? Because I don't unless she has some serious problems.

[Pagwatch]

Rosesarebetter.

I don't really get your logic. Why are people who spend £99 on a top likely to behave differently from anyone else?

I spend £99 on tops often. I never shout at people. People who shout "bitch" at other people after n accident stand very far outside the realms of 'normal people'
The normal reaction to that situation is "goodness, are you ok? Don't worry about my top, we can talk about that late. Let's get you cleaned up"