AIBU to expect ex to have son on a weekday?

[PandaSpaniel]

Myself and my ex have a 6 month old son and are struggling to agree to where, when and how much contact.

Long story short, I suggested he has him overnight fri one week then Thurs the next as well as some evening contact. He has said yes to overnight but not on a thurs as ..... he works!

I have pointed out that it is only one night every 2 weeks and that I will be a full time student, getting two children ready and dropped off at school and nursery before college but in his words "Its not the same as work and you don't have to drive".

Ok he has a 40 min journey to work but so do countless others with children. I feel really frustrated, it would be fantastic to have a decent nights sleep once in a while and I think he is being pathetic. AIBU??

good luck

ds and i are just fine and i get on ok with the ex most of the time. i found the less i expected of him the less i got upset. i hate that i have to expect so little for ds he deserves more but ds is happy and i am less stressed

Spot on Freud!

He live with his gran? Ask gran to have your ds one week night.

sashh Its not fair on his gran, she is in her 70's and wouldn't be able to cope with a little baby.

freud Just so disappointed that someone who | thought would be there for me and be a good dad has let me down so badly. I feel worse that this is the second time this has happened. DS1's dad was the same. I can't believe I have made the same mistake again. :(

Yanbu, my dp has a baby in the house that sometimes keeps him awake, but he still works! As do I!

The op is not asking him to take time off work people! Just to have him overnight on a school night, like the op and most if us I'm sure, do every night!

shavingPrimateRyan Excellent name by the way.

His brother lives two streets away and he often takes baby there. His Gran, who he lives with lives a bit further away but only a 5 minute drive away. I would drop lil one off with her but she is getting quite frail and I doubt she would be able to look after him very well. Its not fair on her anyway, she brought up her grandson (my ex) as his dad is an idiot too. Thats another story tho.