to find proper real grown up life excruciatingly tedious?

[icecold]

i was really really good at being a teenager and a 20-somefink......now Ive had kids, have been in the same job career for 6 years, have been maried got divorced, have a mortgage......

Its rubbish

My life was quite transient before marriage/kids..it has been an internal battle to 'settle down'

Its crap

I dont want to talk to people about the ins and outs of child rearing/ mortgages/ pensions/ holiday destinations/ feta cheese.

In 2 years i will be in a position to be able to travel and work. would i be a terrible mother to disrupt my dcs childhoods because im bored and restless?

How the fuck do you all get through every day?

You just do because you have too

I ride my full grocery cart through the parking lot to my car.

I moved a lot as a kid, it didn't come near to killing me.

Having a miserable Mom would have been worse.

becuase we're all trapped in the capitalist machine man.

YABU, life is what you make of it.

You can't just have children then mess their lives around just because you find you're not suited to that lifestyle

I'm pretty shit at being a grown up but manage to hold it together to get through the day, then the week, then the month

How? By being a non grown up for at least a part of the day. A sneaky glass of wine. Meeting up with non parent friends and so on.

I feel your pain

custard

That's the nature of being a parent and trying to provide a stable environment. However, if you have enough money and or support you can do whatever you want.

Wait

I have 3 kids

Was I supposed to be a grown up at some point too?

you need to do something a bit naughty i think.

what do you enjoy doing?

Video games. Today I changed nappies, fed ds & then killed a dragon.
I also bloody love soft play places.

Monster has the right idea, nothing beats riding a shopping trolley around!

Yanbu; 'proper' adults are not my sort of thing. I don't want to talk about your amazing discovery of the organic yak milkshake stand & hedge funds, I'd rather know if you'd rather live outside & banned from ever being inside...or inside but banned from going outside & why?

i do do naughty stuff. it gets me through
i dont feel like me though
its not enough
i feel like i live behind an acceptable facade
this is the kind of shit you are supposed to go through in your 20's huh?

OOOOOOooooooo horse

outside definitely

why? why? its not even a choice; you couldnt live inside

I would love to jack it all in and take the DDs off travelling YANBU

When we have some money coming in I won't be held back from fun!

its not the kids that are the problem btw. i bloody love my kids. and i love being their mum

I fee your pain OP, I used to have a life.

On the other hand I know one couple who bought a yacht, he is well known international sailor and ecologist, and they have sailed constantly for 30 years, 4 children born at sea and brought up on the yacht.

So if you want to rebel and be different, go for it. Service and diplomatic kids manage to adjust to 2 year postings.

I was afraid to click on this thread because I know what you mean.... I am single mother to two children at primary school, their father is resolutely determined not to pay maintenance. We are broke. The house is tiny. There are always so many jobs to do...... I love my kids but I'm NOT sure I love being 'a' mum. but i have to be, especially as they have no father really. NOt really.

Do you mean in 2 years you could transfer abroad with work, thus taking the children? I don't see what's wrong with that.

DD will definitely have to get used to us moving around, DH and I get itchy feet about every 4 years.

You sound just generally hacked off at the moment and we all go through those periods, especially when there is no bloody sunshine.

softly ...and i aint going to pretend that i want to do it so the kids will benefit from some amazing cultural enrichment blah blah blah.....it would just be fun

I've been feeling that trapped feeling too
Had another cry about it too
Trappedby lack of money really. Can't afford to up sticks and do anything.

It sounds like you need to have some fun & that is possible whilst also providing stability for your DC.

As an earlier poster said, life is what you make it. Hope you are able to sort yourself.

YANBU. I hate having to be the sensible one. The one worrying about bills. I am dreading the mummy brigade at the school gates next week.

I dont care about half the shit "normal" parents care about. All I really care about is that I dont completely fuck DDs life up and that she will still love me when shes my age now.

I struggle with the 'groundhog day'ness of it all.
The same boring housework jobs. I do it. It needs doing again. Pah.

horse If I chose to live inside, would I be allowed to let outside air in through the windows?
If so, I choose inside.

You're right it's very dull if you just focus on the kids.
Sign up for some evening classes - perhaps art or pottery or a new language - get stuff happening in your life again - you have the power to do this. All you need is a good babysitter.

cheshire no i mean short term contracts. i like moving

havent really thought it through...would need to facilitate education obviously. that would be unfair

hoops that sounds like hell....imagine constantly preventing toddlers from toddling overboard [even more tedious emoticon]

olympia we are in the same position. maybe it is lack of support and lack of disposable income that makes me sooooo disatisfied at the moment

we've had a wicked summer holiday (around me working) Just come back from a wind swept camping trip in Devon, with friends. All day everyday on the beach. Good company. Lots of laughter. And i know every day can be like that

AAAArrgghhh....nooooo.... chugga I DONT want babysitters and evening classes.

I dont I dont I dont.