I was at a birthday party yesterday for one of my daughter's friends from school. i didn't know any of the other mums so was pleased when one approached me and asked me to come and sit down for some tea with her.
Somehow we got onto the subject of my daughter having ASD. And i was really upset by the conversation.
It started with me saying something like, "i think i'll stay close and keep my eye on her incase she plays up. She's not too good with parties usually."
Woman said, "Oh is that because of the thing she has? What's it called again?"
I said, "Autism."
"What is autism? Will she ever grow out it?"
"Nope, as far as i know she'll have it for life." I explained about there being different spectrums, and dd is on higher functioning end.
Woman says, "Oh did something happen in your pregnancy then for her to have it? Did you drink a lot or smoke?"
I explained that no one knows what causes it, and i had a healthy pregnancy. She then made a face as if i was talking complete bollocks!
Then, for some reason, she started talking about Easties which then led on to special needs schools. 
She said that she doesn't think it right that SEN children are put into mainstream schools. It's extra work for the teacher plus the SEN kids will get bullied.
I said it's wrong to lump all SEN people together. You have to see them as individuals. If they can cope with mainstream, then let them go there. I reminded her that my daughter is classed as having SEN yet she's doing great in mainstream. She then argued that she knows what she's talking about as her sister works in a special needs school and comes home with bruises everyday from the pupils attacking her.
The woman saw me with my phone out, and said, 'Let's have your number and we'll get a girls night in organised this weekend. Get a babysitter and i'll pop round with a bottle of wine."
I've literally only just met her! I don't like wine and didn't particularly like her. I said i'm busy this weekend, but gave her my number (don't know how i could politely refuse tbh). She then said, "What about next weekend?" I said I'm busy. She wasn't taking the hint. "What about the next weekend?" I said, "Maybe." But she seemed to take that as a yes.
She then started telling me about her situation with her ex and wanted to know mine. She stayed glued to me for the whole party. Whenever i went to to talk to another mum, she made a face.
Since i got home last night, the woman text me five times in the space of an hour about random rubbish e.g. watching tv, bathing dd etc. She didn't even wait on me replying, she just kept texting.
i've avoided her in the playground today and rushed right back home so i don't have to speak to her.
Am i being unreasonable in thinking this woman is odd and ignorant?
Or is she just being friendly and i'm the odd one?