To be angry at this??

[Yummymummyyobe1]

So I sorted out the family wardrobes and placed the items in various carefully selected charity bags and placed them outside the front of the house. On coming back into the lounge there is a women stood in my front garden pilfering items from the bags (mainly baby clothes and bits). Anyway I go out and ask her what she on earth she thinks she is up to and to return said items as what she was doing was theft and trespass. She reluctantly handed the items back and I said I was more than happy for her to purchase the items and then money go to the charities in question.

She asked how much an item and I said 20p for the vests, 30p for the babygrows (there were some still with the labels on) and a £1 for everything else (about 60% had the labels on and cost a lot more than a £1). She walked off muttering.

WIU to refuse to let her take the items for free as they were things we no longer wanted. I felt that it was paramount to theft from the charities we had chosen not to mention from us.

catgirl2012 why the sad head shake?

shelleyboobs you just made my day!

Although if I asked them very nicely, do you think they'd let me pay full price for it anyway, despite being in the sale?

angeltattoo - I'm sure you could find lots of other nice things on their website if they won't let you pay full price for the jacket.

There's this lovely blanket, too.

D&G blanket

OP you lay yourself bare with these threads of yours. I worry for you a bit.

I think you sound like your doing well anyway yummy.

Remember you are laying off the shopping and doing more simple things..

And don't buy nice clothes from 6 months as you will be weaning and they will get ruined!

Don't worry pickles I'm sure emile et rose do some lovely bibs to take care of that.

Me too Ivana, wonder if some posters realise you've had a few problems op.

I'm a bit worried as this thread is similar to your older one when you didn't feel you were doing so well.

There is nothing wrong if a person has the money to buy the things, my sister was a single mum working pt and she spent a lot on clothes. She liked them and it made her happy, even if a lot of people think its a waste of money.

Because I feel sad for you Yummy.

Going off your other threads I feel you don't actually have any money, but for some reason you construct this on-line persona where you buy expensive things and have a certain life style. (I think that because generally, people who do have money don't need to start threads making sure they are constantly telling other people that they do.)

I think you believe this makes people look up to you and admire you, but the truth is rather different. It makes me worry for you as I think you must be very lonely to do this and I feel even sadder as, if the aim is to impress people and make friends, the way you post just doesn't obtain that effect.

Even if I am wrong and you do spend £££ it smacks of either a shopping addiction out of control and probably funded by credit or one just fueled by something missing in your life.

You seem to want to construct this MC fantasy but you come across as either a fantasist, or Hyacinth Boquet, missing the mark by miles or possibly someone just trying to fill some sort of void in their life. Whichever it is it is very sad.

I think you are really trying to "fit in" with some sort of group you percieve exists on here but it isnt' working and it feels sad to me. I bet you are a lovely person and if you were just yourself you would make loads of MN friends rather than alienating people by starting odd threads.

I hope that doesn't feel like an attack. It really isn't meant to be. I have genuine concern for you because I have seen you start a lot of threads along these lines and I really feel that you are a bit lonely or unhappy with your real life.

I may be totally wrong, and honestly, I hope that I am.

If I'm not though, just try starting some threads in chat or some area of interest and be yourself. Your real self. You don't need to do this and people who are worth making friends with don't care what brand of baby clothes you buy.

How desperate must you be to take clothes from bags outside someone's house.

I would have been more than happy to see them go where they are needed.

I agree op it would be nice to start a thread just to chat and not really about the things you have got for your ds.

There isn't anything wrong with having nice things, but I bet there is a lot of other stuff you could chat about too.

You do leave yourself open to these type of threads, I know you don't really mind the comments but a chat would be nicer.

this desperate ?
this desperate ?
this desperate ?

I once dealt with a woman so desperate that she pretended to be the authorised collector for Poppy Appeal collecting tins. Desperate for heroin and crack cocaine, that is. She was so desperate she roped her 10 year in son to do it with her.

Maybe i've been around crooks, thieves and fraudsters too long to have a single shred of naivety left.

I get the impression the OP is very 'considerably richer than yow'

How old is your DS OP? Is your first?

I have one PFB - He is 9 months old tomorrow

Good luck to her. If she feels the need to brag about that to a bunch of strangers on the internet then she has my pity

She isn't bragging. I have seen no bragging.

I know its not my life and maybe I am unlucky with DD, as the boys weren't like this, but she seems to have at least 1 exploding nappy a day.

What on earth is the point spending over £90 on an outfit that is likely to get poo and sick on it??

I also recognise the OP has had problems, hence my last comment. This thread would have been much better received had brand names and monetary values not been explicitly mentioned. Several times. Along with the statements that OP can afford to waste this kind of money.

I'm surprised at the way this thread has gone.

OP I put some charity bags out recently and went out to put something in the bin whilst waiting for them to be collected. There was a white van stopped in the road and a man jumped back in when he saw me and the van drove off.

It just seemed odd so I went to the end of the driveway and one of the bags was gone and the other had been opened and rifled through.

They obviously weren't the charity concerned or they wouldn't have driven off so suspiciously, spoke to hubby who said there are gangs who drive round and collect the bags to sell the stuff. They also apparently take any scrap metal they can take to weigh it in.

This has now put me off leaving the bags outside as they are not the charity I was leaving it for. I now make sure I drop them off at the actual shop to make sure that they get the benefit.

Have read the thread and realize that the OP is not bring serious .

Of course the woman could be stealing but she may be genuinely desperate . I would rather help someone in case they are in genuine need. I would not like to live a life in which I distrusted everyone,

IvanaNap I do leave myself open to attck a little and thank you

Thank you PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot I'm trying very haird at the moment and enjoying the simpler things in life such as DS laughing when we play peek-a-boo with his muslin cloth it is so much fun. I'm quite a socially shy person and find chit chat very difficult espcially as my freinds are all oh look at what we have also and it is difficult to break the cycle/friendships espcially given we moved to a new area last year and I know very few people locally.

catgirl2012 thank you perhaps I try a little too hard but that is due to my early life and the need to please. I was brought up with everything and feel a faliure every day that my DS would be socially excluded if he too did not have everything. He is our little blessing and I am greatful for him everyday. I would never spend what I didn't have as it is unfair on my family. We are very lucky indeed and for that I'm greatful to say the least. I'm 32 and DS is our PFB and will be 4 months old next week. 9 months seems an age away but I bet it sneeks up and taps you on the shoulder saying Hello.

captainhastings I would have given her things had she knocked and just asked.

Fingers crossed McKayz we have yet to experiance the exploding nappy. I see your point about the price thing I really do but it is hard.

Thank you Rollersara I will hold my hands up and say it is not the smartest thing to do mention cost etc I will try harder to make a point without the perceived bragging.

I know that Poundstretchers used to do scented bin liners (think they were about £1.49 a roll) - I think they did vanilla ones...

Not that I ever bought them, flimsy things that they were. I prefer my bin bags to be strong enough to carry a full load of rubbish.

But to the original point, as someone else said, your rubbish/refuse is your responsibility until it is collected by the authorised person. We've had this argument with the local council when we arranged a collection for our old broken TV and they didn't turn up on the Friday to pick it up. DP rang them to and went nuts because if the screen had been broken and somebody had been injured by the broken glass, we would have been partially responsible for leaving a hazardous object on the pavement (couldn't get it back in the house - nowhere to put it). Collectors were round on the Monday afternoon after DP accused their bosses of allowing them to knock off early on Fridays and not doing their job properly. Even skip-diving is illegal.