To be angry at this??

[Yummymummyyobe1]

So I sorted out the family wardrobes and placed the items in various carefully selected charity bags and placed them outside the front of the house. On coming back into the lounge there is a women stood in my front garden pilfering items from the bags (mainly baby clothes and bits). Anyway I go out and ask her what she on earth she thinks she is up to and to return said items as what she was doing was theft and trespass. She reluctantly handed the items back and I said I was more than happy for her to purchase the items and then money go to the charities in question.

She asked how much an item and I said 20p for the vests, 30p for the babygrows (there were some still with the labels on) and a £1 for everything else (about 60% had the labels on and cost a lot more than a £1). She walked off muttering.

WIU to refuse to let her take the items for free as they were things we no longer wanted. I felt that it was paramount to theft from the charities we had chosen not to mention from us.

Bleeding nora!!!! How much??? On clothes that last a few weeks. Wow

There is a difference between liking/enjoying spending money (that you have to spare) and feeling that you need to; in order to thrive on the feeling of 'having new things'. I hope you are the former, OP. I suspect from your previous threads that this may not be the case though :(

Placing value in monetary things is often a 'stable' thing in a 'less that stable' time or place. If that makes sense.

Of course, you could just have money to burn :)

Stealing from a charity is deeply, deeply unpleasant. I don't care how poor you are.

In our area there has been a huge problem with comercial people stealing from bags left for charities so they can sell stuff on. I would have challenged as well. For all we know the stuff was destined for ebay not a destitute child. If it goes to the charity shop everyone on a low income gets a chance to get some really nice stuff for not a lot of money. YANBU to be miffed.

crikeybill I have learnt my lesson and will be taking the items to the charity shops myself.

Justme23 it is a huge achievement for me not to buy DS nice things that's for sure.

ObiWan I don't always think before I type that is for sure.

Bartusmaeus As I said before I sometimes type without thinking.

PeazlyPops it wasn't a brag and I'm sorry if it appeared that way. John Lewis do do some nice items.

McKayz they did last just under 3 months to be fair and those that have been worn are in beautiful condition.

IvanaNap we have the money to spare and I do love to shop and I buy because I want nice things around me.

perfectstorm it is unpleasant to steal full stop, but extra unpleasing when it is from charities.

DoesItComeInBlac that is my thinking and it helps the charities so their work.

I agree, yummymummy, but when it's someone on the absolute breadline, and they steal from say Asda whose ethics are questionable, it's less wrong (please note I think less wrong - it's still bloody unfair on all the shoppers who will have to pay more for their goods to cover the loss, or the staff whose bonuses shrink) than it is to steal from Oxfam or the Red Cross.

Don't care how poor someone is: they're still rich compared to a baby in Somalia, a granny in Sierra Leone, an HIV infected child in Rwanda or a street kid in Manila.

Well put perfectstorm

Or, buy a bit less, or return the items and give the money directly to charity - it's very unlikely the charity will get anywhere near £1000 even if that is what the items cost originally.

And then come on here with an imaginary problem which allows you to tell us how much money you gave to charity

Rollersara I have tried to spend less honest. My problem was very real.

Yummymummy this might sound snide, it genuinely isn't intended too, but so you see that every thread you post includes a reference to exactly how much money you have spent/ wasted, hence the earlier comment from catgirl? It makes it very hard to see this as anything other than a brag, especially when, as other threads show, people are really struggling for money.

Just because shes looking through rubbish/charity bags does not mean she is poor & in need of charity. Some people will take anything & sell it on if it makes them money. This would mean that the charity misses out.

I dont think it was unreasonable.

Oh God not you again OP.

Vanilla scented bin bags? What a wonderful world we live in. I'm sure they cost 9x as much as a regular bin bag, so I'm very glad you shared that with us.

I'm really sorry if you are struggling with a shopping/spending problem, but you do seem awfully keen to give people a price tag for everything you own. The whole thread would have made just as much sense with no reference at all to the value or brands of the clothes in the bags.

Can't believe the OP is for real. What possible reason is there for mentioning whether your binbags are scented or not?

People are getting a bit first world problem on the ops ass.

YANBU at all. Why do people think she is poor to do this . Some people are freeloaders who just want to get something for nothing, the woman could be very wealthy but also very tight

I think the problem is valid. I'd be a bit pissy if someone did that to me, if I had put something outside to be collected by a specific charity. I would probably also feel a bit weird about my attitudes as to why I felt pissy about it, so might question myself about that. and then give up and make myself some tea

It's the brands/values/binbag bit that made me a bit .

Vanilla scented bin bags do sound quite 'out there'.

I suppose it's a bit like the scented loo roll you can buy, so that your bathroom is infused with the heady combination of lavender and poo.

But each to their own, and I reckon if I had hundreds of thousands of pounds to spare I'd go a bit peculiar too at first.

But I hope I'd still allow people to take my unwanted baby clothes if they felt the need to raid my bins.

It's not raiding her "bins" it's things she wanted to benefit a particular charity.

To those of you who don't mind a bit of garden raiding, where do you live? I'll be around with my swag bag

FWIW my mum has a small plastic table and chairs in the garden for my DS and my little sisters.

They had moved it near the bins and had set out there tea set before coming in for dinner, when my mum went to do the dishes she liked through the window and saw a woman in the garden (about 20ft from the gates) sitting her DS who looked about 2 in the seats add if measuring him up. She then proceeded to attack the chairs, mum went out and asked what sure was doing and the woman replied in very broken English "I take for him" so she was told put them down to which she threw them down and began shaking her head and meeting whilst dragging her DS away!

I was gobsmacked that people would do this.

Oh dear is emile et whatever dear stuff then? Someone bought Ds1 a hideous baby grow thing from there and its currently being used as a cloth to clean the windows ooops

I think it is. My mil got me a snowsuit in the sale and it was still fourty quid.

That's an expensive dish cloth!

rollersara, yes fantasy bragging is a bit distasteful. It's almost incredible that someone would have so much money that they didn't know things with labels on could be returned to shops, isn't it?

I have scented dog poo bags.