BBC interview with the mother who lost her son in Burnham at the weekend

[davinci]

I can't believe that they interviewed her, she is clearly in a state of shock and should be left to mourn. The voyeuristic nature of the interviewer whose only goal appears to be to upset her even more for the benefit of his viewers made me ashamed to be watching. I can't see any justification for this type of interview

Oopsi - you say that 99.9% of the population wouldn't have done what Dylan's parents did. If that is true then 99.9% of the population can rest secure in the knowledge that this will never happen to them.

In which case there is no need to castigate these people, since no-one else is at risk of making this mistake. There is presumably therefore no need to point out their shortcomings since there is no lesson to be learned.

In which case the only purpose of slating them on the internet is to feel good about yourself.

Or is it actually the case that 99.9% of the population would like to think that they would have acted differently, but quite possibly wouldn't? In which case, yes, there may be a lesson to be learned, but it is quite a specific one, about the dangers of tides and currents even close to the shore, and about this particular stretch of water particularly. Not a lesson about parenting, not a lesson about parental shortcomings, just a lesson about how dangerous something that seems benign can really be.

Or it may just be a lesson that no matter how careful you are, accidents can still happen, so just do your best and hope you stay lucky.

i think the point this thread has proved that most people do not give water and in particular the sea , the respect it deserves

Ah. So 99.9% of the population wouldn't have acted differently then.

So no need to talk about these parents as though they are idiots who caused their son's death then.

jesus oopsi your comments are vile and despicable.

it was an accident. a horrible, tragic, heartbreaking accident.

my heart goes out to Dylans mother and family.

I think letting a preschooler jump up and down, unrestrained on the edge of a wet slipway whe there are signs warning of the dangerous currents is inadvisable. I originally thought that is the conclusion 99.9% of the population would come to.However in the light of the comments received from Mners on this thread i have revised my opinion. It seems that most Mners are either ill informed about the danger of the sea or the unpredictabilitry of young children or both.
Hope tghis helps to clarify the situation.

lemarchandsbox you swear at me and then tell me my posts are goading?

Oopsi. This incident has been widely reported in newspapers, on tv, and with the mother herself being interviewed.
If what you claim is true, and you are innocently trying to 'raise awareness' of the perils of the sea, has it not occurred to you that your audience on here have already read and watched about this incident? And if it makes some people even more acutely aware that the sea is dangerous and accidents can happen in the blink of an eye, then fair enough.
So what exactly do you hope to achieve on here?

Actually that's a rhetorical question- we all know exactly why you're on here- to try to pile guilt onto a family who are already utterly destroyed, and to smugly make yourself feel better

what are you talking about? this is a discussion forum, not a support thread for the family.
Look at the top of this board
'this topic does canvass opinions, it is not a fight club. You may disagree with other posters but we do ask you please to stick to our Talk Guidelines and to be civil. We don't allow personal attacks '

1)i am expressing a valid opinion. I am being abused by told to 'F*ck off' called a vile cow etc.
2)Lots of people on here ,despite what they have read in the media, are saying the parents' judgment was sound.I find that very worrying .

I just keep thinking that she or a family member could read this thread. It does make us all sleep easier and feel better to think that it couldn't happen to us but it could. Freak waves, a parent stumbles themselves, a moment's distraction.

Yes but that isn't what did happen though (according to his mother)

For gods sake, stop the bitchfest, ignore oopsi and stop giving her any attention.

It could happen to any one of us in a blink of an eye, that poor, poor family.

I saw the interview, FWIW, I think she had told the reporter she wanted to say what she did at the end, so thats why he prompted her.

My heart really does go out to her, and her husband.

I was crying watching the interview, DH asked why I was putting myself through it, I said, if she didnt want people to listen, she wouldnt have given the interview.

I give up!
The moment you lose a child you obviously become a paragon of parenting virtue and retrospectively infallible!

and of course the idea that this might not actually the case, and having empathy for the family and sorrow at a young child losing their life are mutually exclusive. (rolls eyes)

Paragon of parenting virtue? What are you on about?
No one has claimed anything other than that they are totally normal parents. Not perfect, not negligent, just ordinary people, doing what countless other parents do, but sadly it ended in a terrible tragedy.

It's called empathy. Here.

I think when you a tourist its harder.

A locals more aware of danger,
so sad never been burnham have been weston and brean.

we normally holiday in devon and cornwall on beaches with visible lifeguards

perronorth cornwall lovley with kids as lost hallow rock pools so kids not begging to go go in sea every 5mins.

went devon end of june and every time mine went near the water me and hubby were holding their hands but saw so many parents not paying attention and small kids in the sea by themselves or being supervised by a sibling made me wrroy just watching.

its just so tragic.

am also wondering something else.the parents both say they instantly jumped in the water to try and save him, so who was minding his 2 sisters who was looking after the 2 younger children

firemansamisnormansdad your post is creepy and threatening

Maybe other family members, are you really slating them now because they both went into the sea to try to rescue their son.

You really are low

Not slating them necessarily-just wondering whether they were left unattended

I haven't seen the interview but my kids are a similar age and my thoughts are with Dylan's family. These tragedies happen so quickly, and looking back my kids have had numerous moments when everything turned out ok in the end but it could so easily have gone wrong and become another tragic accident.

We have been caught out by fast incoming tides on a NW beach this summer - left stranded on small island of sand and had to wade across inlet with the DCs - it was deep enough for a bit of panic to set in (me & DS1), fortunately DS1 was able to hang onto DH's hand & be coaxed across - but still very scary as to what might have happened. We were local-ish but do not know the beach/tides well, and it showed - and I consider myself to be usually very cautious with the DCs.

That was the first thing that occurred to me... Their son is DYING and they jump in to save him and I think, hmm what about the childcare for their other children?

Actually the first thing that occurred to me is that I would be destroyed if I lost DD and would never recover.

Or maybe a nice member of the public. They do exist, you know, although judging from some of the posts on hereOOPSIyou wouldn't.

How do you know the other two children were there ?