to say no to people bringing their dogs when they come to stay?

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I am 2 weeks from due date. Cannot cope with the extra mayhem and mess large dogs coming to stay as well bring. AIBU to say please don't bring them? I think it'll start a big argument, but I really don't think I can cope with the canines coming too.

You are not being unreasonable at all. I wouldn't want people bringing their dogs to my house and I'm not pregnant!!

Good grief, I don't think anyone even vaguely reasonable would think it was appropriate to bring several large dogs with them when staying with someone 2 weeks from due date!

It would be really unreasonable of them to take offence if you ask them not to, so if they do, please don't take their strop on board!

Congratulations, btw, hope the heat isn't too much for you atm!

Not unreasonable at all, why should you have to have someones dog?

YANBU. I would never presume I could take my dog to visit anyone.

When my friends come to stay they know that i just "don't do" dogs and they make other arrangements for the dog.

YANBU whether you're pregnant or not. Unless the people you're visiting are loopy about dogs I think it's extremely odd and really quite rude to take your pet on visits. Assistance dogs an exception of course.

Gosh. YANBU pg or not. Big imposition. And I say that as a dog owner.

Just don't respond to any row generation. No is a complete sentence and all that.

Not at all. Nobody has the right to bring their pet to someone else's home.

If they choose to not come because you don't want their pets there, that's up to them.

YANBU - nothing else to add
except "CONGRATULATIONS"!!!!

Who is visiting you?
And have you always embraced the canine visitors?

They might think, after you have the baby they wouldn't bring them?
But they probably think dogs fit into daily life which includes being pregnant.

You should be able to broach the subject and just say you don't want the dogs (I don't have dogs BTW, but my parents did years ago.They can bring their own brand of chaos to a house. And you've got to put yourself first now)

YANBU. Is it your partner's parents or your own?

It's family, and the dogs are considered family, and huffing will ensue (has before), but I'm not a hugely doggy person anyway but do usually put up with it, but right now it'd send me round the bend!!

I will definitely be met with long silence, huff and narky comments for years to come. Sigh.

Not unreasonable at all. I'd like a dog but we have 2 cats that could not cope with a puppy. Darling MIL insisted on bringing her half dead spaniel for the day a couple of months ago. By the time it had chased the cats, crapped on my lawn where the toddler was crawling and licked me with its hideous halitosis tongue I was ready for the funny farm. Your house, your rules.

It's the in-laws.
I think I need a dose of assertiveness.

Get your DH to tell them that the dogs are no longer welcome. They might well take snuff but never mind; it's their choice whether to visit you (sans canine companions) or not.

There is a family I know who had a collective strop and stopped attending church because they weren't allowed to take their dog in. Honestly, I think they are fruitloops but apparently this kind of precious behaviour is more common than I thought!

YANBU at all.

YANBU
I have cats
NOBODY brings a dog to my house without prior permission - even for a single meal, let alone two weeks.
They are taking the piss.

YANBU If you don't want dogs in your home you have the right not to have them.

YANBU! Your house. I don't want people bringing their dogs here - our cats hate them and get very distressed by them.

YANBU and I love dogs. No way I'd impose mine on someone who didn't want them though.

Dogs might be family in our house, but then I've never seen my dad take a dump in the garden.

What do I say though to cause least offence? I can't just say no, because they'll ask why... And isn't it rude to say because they're big and smelly and drop hairs and get under my feet??

Say, 'No dogs. I'm unwell and can't cope.' And be FIRM. Don't apologise, you have nothing to apologise for.

What's wrong with telling the truth?

Because in 2 weeks I will be giving birth. I am hot and bothered, tired, grumpy, heavy and fed up. I don't WANT my home being taken over by dogs. They are noisy and they make mess. I don't WANT to be tripping over them. I want to rest, relax, not have to mop up after dogs, I don't want barking, I don't want to be jumped up at, I don't want hairs everywhere, I just want to sit on the sofa with cups of tea and rest. In two weeks I am pushing a person out of my body, I don't think it's unreasonable to think that YOU SHOULD ALL JUST DO WHAT I BLOODY WELL WANT

When you are 2 weeks away from giving birth - you get to be as rude as you like

The truth is fine. Just say it without being in any way rude about the dogs, doggy people always get a bit huffy if you are rude about their dogs (me included.)

YANBU to not want dogs staying in your house if you don't like them. I take mine to visit close family who also love dogs but wouldn't ask or expect to take them elsewhere. I think 'I'd find it a bit much now the baby is nearly due' is a reasonable excuse. However if you normally 'welcome' the canine visitors they would not be unreasonable to think that you might continue to do so and unless you give plenty of notice it could be hard for them to find a suitable alternative, so you would be unreasonable to be upset if they then couldn't visit.