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AIBU to think that it very sad that young girls

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fartattack · 18/08/2012 13:59

nowadays seem to believe that all hair on their bodies must be waxed off entirely.

I know some people say they prefer it but IME young girls ALL seem to think it's normal to be totally hair free. WHY??

AIBU to think this is terribly sad that they are put under this pressure to wax it all off all the time.

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Evasmum12 · 18/08/2012 15:59

Sigh. Ok, so now I am old enough to decide for myself, but last year my decision was solely down to peer pressure, men, porn and marketing. Glad we cleared that one up.

The last thing I will say is, if the situation were reversed, and removing pubic hair was a huge taboo, rather than an acceptable choice, would you be defending a woman's right to remove it? Would you be saddened by the fact women want to remove their pubes but are too scared of the ridicule?

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fartattack · 18/08/2012 16:00

So now you are patronising me by laughing Worra. It's not particularly nice.

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Viviennemary · 18/08/2012 16:01

I don't think it's anything to make a huge fuss about. It's just a trend. Like long hair on men was a trend. I hate body piercings. But there again it's up to the individual.

Kayano · 18/08/2012 16:02

We are talking about trends and which ones we are glad to see gone/ sad to see come back Which is relevant to the discussion, and about showing our vaginas to our school friends (I haven't either worra!)

I am full of sadness about crop tips though. Really sad.

anditwasallyellow · 18/08/2012 16:03

Worra you clearly grew up in the 'good ol days' before peer pressure to chop your pubes off. That's why you have no idea what the op is talking about. When I was at school fanny shaving was practically an initiation.

And I have found that the erm younger generation of men think that shaved lady parts are the norm.

peaksandtroughs · 18/08/2012 16:05

I'm a bit confused about why this is so heated. We've all been teenagers. Some of us (certainly me) will have felt quite vulnerable and concerned about having to fit in, worries about going through puberty etc, and others will have felt very confident and not had many worries.

There are all sorts of people and all sorts of teenagers. It isn't a criticism of teens to say that many people do find the teen years have certain difficulties, peer pressure being one of them.

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fartattack · 18/08/2012 16:05

Eva
Sorry if I'm not making myself clear but I think there's a big difference between late teens and 20 and of course everyone matures at different times. I really wasn't thinking of 20 year olds though in my OP.
Yes, if the situation was to be reversed I would be defending the right of women to be able to take off their hair. I've personally have never heard anyone IRL be upset about comments about being shaved though.

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alexpolismum · 18/08/2012 16:05

My school friends never got to see my fanny, either Worra and I never saw theirs (am 35). After PE we were all too busy going "God, I hate hockey!" to show each other our pubic hair. Perhaps we were all too lazy.

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fartattack · 18/08/2012 16:06

Thank you peaks.

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anditwasallyellow · 18/08/2012 16:06

Tattoed on pubes could be a real money spinner in the future.

Can you imagine, tattoed on leg hair too for those of us with blond hairs.

Kayano · 18/08/2012 16:08

Wait...

You have 'never heard of anyone being upset in real life about comments about being shaved?'

Kayano · 18/08/2012 16:11

I remember my catholic mother telling me that if you shaved down there it meant that you had loose morals and people would get the wrong idea

But no one ever talked about it at school!

Evasmum12 · 18/08/2012 16:13

Agreed Worra, maybe I spent to much time bunking off P.E, smoking behind the sheds and flirting with boys to discuss my pubes with friends.

OP maybe then the issue is A) you perceive young women to be a lot more gullible and vulnerable than they actually are, and B) you wish to rally against whatever the current trend in personal grooming may be. Ask yourself why, take a deep breath, and move on.

BeeBee12 · 18/08/2012 16:13

Im in my 20s and have never felt pressure to shave it all off.I dont think there is much pressure its just a think like tanning some do, some dont

bumbez · 18/08/2012 16:13

I'm a midwife op and last night was talking about this with my colleagues, we all agreed that it is really rare now to see lots of pubes on any women, not just the very young.

I think pubes are maybe going the the same way as big hairy arm pits, I remember the shock of seeing my mothers substantial arm beards in the 70's!

at pencilling them in!

YABU unreasonable at it being sad though.

peaksandtroughs · 18/08/2012 16:17

Smoking behind the bike sheds is a cliche of peer pressure though, isn't it?!

Isn't it exactly what the particularly vulnerable teens do? Most teens don't smoke now and didn't when I was at school.

GhouliaYelps · 18/08/2012 16:18

I recently had a wax before holiday and went for a Brazilian style.. What was weird was st the end the therapist said " there you are, totally clean now" I was clean when I had hair on it thank you!

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fartattack · 18/08/2012 16:22

Eva
OP maybe then the issue is A) you perceive young women to be a lot more gullible and vulnerable than they actually are, and B) you wish to rally against whatever the current trend in personal grooming may be. Ask yourself why, take a deep breath, and move on.

I think you are taking my post too personally.

I stand by the fact I think teens are much more perceptible to peer pressure, I have never said gullible, there is a difference. I certainly am not rallying against the current trend in personal grooming, I think that those who choose to trim only should be ridiculed for it.

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Evasmum12 · 18/08/2012 16:23

Touche peak. Yes it is. However you don't know when/why I started smoking, only where so your being a bit presumptive. Although groups of teenage girls veeting their pubes behind the bike sheds would alarm even me.

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fartattack · 18/08/2012 16:26

I meant susceptible not perceptible sorry.

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WorraLiberty · 18/08/2012 16:26

Smoking behind the bike sheds is a cliche of peer pressure though, isn't it?!

No, not always (which makes the point rather nicely)

I smoked

I was addicted to nicotine

The school day was 7 hours long

I (and many others) couldn't have given a shit who did/didn't smoke as long as we got our nicotine fixes.

No all teenagers bow to peer pressure...some do and some don't - it's the way it's always been.

Evasmum12 · 18/08/2012 16:27

Fart- I can see you're not willing to accept you may be rallying against an issue that dosen't really exist so I'll bow out.

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fartattack · 18/08/2012 16:29

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Groupthink

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Dawndonna · 18/08/2012 16:30

My twin dds are sixteen in two weeks time. They're not interested in shaving and in fact, talk at school is who is closer to Thetford Forest!

peaksandtroughs · 18/08/2012 16:31

Nobody is arguing that all teenagers bow to peer pressure, but many do, as do many adults.

If you're not the sort of person who bows to peer pressure or has to work hard to resist that pressure, do you have much insight into the situation of people who do?

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