to be annoyed at the snarly/growly woman?

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Standing in a busy queue with dd 4yrs (who is small/average) she accidently stepped on the lady' toe. I saw so i immediately said "sorry" and said to dd she should be careful and stand still. The woman turned and looked at dd then growled said in a nice voice "ouch that was my toe". Shw paid for her things then made a point of limping away. Now if that qas you and you already had a broken toe/foot/poorly foot then i'm sorry but it wwas truly just an accident otherwise aibu to think that was a massive overreaction and the woman was a complete cow a bit harsh and really upset my dd?

YABU and incredibly 'PFB' about this

I'd love to read the reverse thread on Gransnet.

No, your dd wasnt in the woman's house, she was on her foot, which hurt, and whether you like it or not, that does give her the right to say something to your dd. if you don't want to risk strangers talking to your dd, keep her in or make more effort to keep her still in a busy queue.

You need to realise that just because you do things one way, not everyone else is going to. Your child is not your possession, she is part of society, and therefore other people have the right to talk to her when she causes them pain.

ilove my colleagues are proffessional enough to tell me of dds shortcomings.
salmo again words cant quite paint the picture she wasnt bent down but as you werent there need to take my word that she was aggressive, starey (not a word i know) loud...

outraged talk yes id agree and wouldnt have a problem with

ilove my colleagues are proffessional enough to tell me of dds shortcomings

I doubt you'd be terribly receptive.

And of course a member of the public has a right to react if your daughter treads on her foot. It's not as if she bellowed and yelled at her.

I am sitting on my hands here to avoid pedantry ....

And laughing at the irony too ...

Resistance is futile ...

I think you mean ffutile.......

I am sitting on my hands here to avoid pedantry

Me too. I don't want the OP to have any reason to whine about being a victim as it would be a cheap shot.

Hahaha!

ilove again judgy!
If we accept that i can read a persons body language and that she was very angry at an accident and intimidating (which is how it looked to me) would you stand there and let a stranger reduce your 4yr old to (almost tears) over an accident (assuming my dd wasnt being unruly/naughty)?

why have you posted this in aibu if you are so adament that yanbu?

thepeoples - oh yes indeed.

I think I love you

'Snarly and growly'?! When my DS was 4, my neighbour's sister offered his friend choc but said to my DS "No, you can't have any because you're naughty. Even your daddy doesn't love you. That's why he left" ... Then every time she passed us in the street for the next 6 years or so, she literally growled, complete with bared teeth and animal noises! Now THAT'S 'snarly and growly'!!

Oh - thanks LeMarchand.

I used to read Clive Barker years ago

I dont mean to go on but the situation was that after an accident an adult overreacted aggressively to a child. You werent there so cant despute whether her reaction was aggressive or not. Im 'ranting' because i was annoyed at her response not asking if people can behave like that.

I know! Neither of us had any idea what it was all about... But with hindsight I now wonder... Maybe he stood on her toe...

Oh that's horrible flow4 What a horrible person.

• rather puts things into a bit of perspective, don't you think OP?