Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

to let an obviously poorly DS (6) still go to the Olympics?

349 replies

lechatnoir · 09/08/2012 07:51

DS has been so excited about to going to the Olympics all year (he's written stories about it, made a countdown calendar, sleeps with his Wenlock toy, boasted to anyone who'll listen - typical 6 year old over excitement) and at bedtime whispered to me that it was going to be the best day of his life!

Unfortunately not long after then twice more in the night & again this morning, he's had his head in the toilet being sick. Initially I thought it was just over excitement but 4 times in one night must be a bug (family macaroni cheese is definitely not the culprit). Of course he swears blind he's fine despite clearly not being right BUT I just don't have the heart to say he can't go Sad DH is still ok about taking him & thinks he can't miss this once in a lifetime opportunity but AIBU & should I make his stay at home?

OP posts:
LisaD1 · 09/08/2012 08:46

I'm torn really, part of me thinks YABU to let him go as he is clearly unwell and it wouldn't be fair to risk passing on to others. The other reason I personally wouldn't et him go is that I went yesterday as a fully able bodied, healthy woman and it was knackering! The travel is full on, the atmosphere is awesome but quite frankly the thought of doing all that while unwell fills me with dread.

On the other hand I say YANBU, the crowd was full of inconsiderate people in my opinion, all wrapped up in their own bubbles and not giving a toss who they or their screaming children ruined it for (I say this as mum who did not take her young daughter so as not to ruin it for others!)

Personally though I would keep him home for no other reason than I think it will all be too much for him to cope with when ill.

NigellaTufnel · 09/08/2012 08:47

I'll match your bronchiltis and raise you a double pneumonia in a 9 week old with tubes and assisted breathingWink.

Again, I don't think that you should start ringing the unclean bell with every sniffle, but going to a densely populated place with a vomiting child is not a good idea.

This is all academic though. I bet you a Smile she's gone.

Scrounginscum · 09/08/2012 08:48

I can't believe the number of people saying just take him. You don't knowingly take an infectious child somewhere crowded, you just don't.

griphook · 09/08/2012 08:50

I used to be sick with excitement or nerves all the time, once we got going I was fine.

Take him with some bags and spare clothes.

If sick again bring him back

JumpingThroughHoops · 09/08/2012 08:52

You don't knowingly take an infectious child somewhere crowded

What's your diagnosis? Because I'm going with the majority excitement.

Northernlurker · 09/08/2012 08:53

The child isn't unwell though is he? Last we heard he was eating toast. The OP doesn't know he's infectious. All she knows he has had an episode of vomiting. Plenty of people there will have had the same - any pregnant woman for a start. D&V is one thing. Just V is completely another and yes I would send my dcs to school in that scenario.

seeker · 09/08/2012 08:54

"The mumsnet answer is that you and your child must wall themselves up at home until 100% well with a certificate from 6 doctors. And even then you could stay in for another 3 weeks just in case........"

Such a silly thing to say. Personally, I don't want to be vomited on. Presumably th child's father is taking spare clothes for the child- is he taking a change for anyone within splatter range too?

Stangirl · 09/08/2012 08:57

peggyblackett She may have been. It was Day 5 of the pox and all the spots I could see were crusted over so probably not. One lady (with 4 kids) came up to me to give my daughter a balloon and I warned her off. She said "oh all mine have had it no worries" and picked my daughter up to give her a cuddle. The woman the other side then joined in and held my daughter up and gave her an ice cream.

My DS (1 yo) was on Day 2 of the pox at the weekend when I took him to the bouncy Stenhenge thing - we went with 4 kids who had all had it and just patrolled around him whilst we bounced about. Everyone seemed fine with it.

Northernlurker · 09/08/2012 08:58

Oh Lord Stangirl - duck and cover!

Original poster
lechatnoir · 09/08/2012 08:59

Well he's gone. Toast & water so far so good & DH is armed with clothes, bags & anti-bac gel - they've got a drive first so chances are they'll be back within the hour but we've decided to chance it and hope it's nerves!

OP posts:
LookBehindYou · 09/08/2012 08:59

I would take him. It really is once in a lifetime and he will probably be fine with the dh. They'll have a great day.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 09/08/2012 09:00

Stangirl, words fail me there

MrsRobertDuvallHasRosacea · 09/08/2012 09:02

Bear in mind it is going to be very hot in London today.
Don't know what event you're going to see, but sitting in direct sunlight with a dodgy stomach........

Nancy66 · 09/08/2012 09:05

Hope his stomach settles and he has a great day OP - isn't lemonade/Coke meant to help settle a stomach or is that an old wives tale?

PeggyCarter · 09/08/2012 09:06

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Lepreporn · 09/08/2012 09:07

Hope he has a fantastic day. Let us know how he gets on.

verytellytubby · 09/08/2012 09:09

Stangirl Shock I can't even believe you would do that. What about those who have their immune system suppressed? Fucks sake.

limitedperiodonly · 09/08/2012 09:09

We should have banned that Laura Trott. She could have infected everyone watching her spew into a bin before winning her golds.

It's probably excitement, OP. Tell him even the best people get nerves. I hope he has a lovely day.

verytellytubby · 09/08/2012 09:12

I was so shocked by Stangirl I didn't respond to the OP. He's puked this morning and you want to take him. I'm really laidback but he's obviously ill. Hope he doesn't puke on anyone on the journey and there! Get your DH to take an empty icecream tub to catch sick!

Stangirl · 09/08/2012 09:12

Northernlurker and Fanjo IRL I just haven't had much of a reaction. As I am still on maternity leave I meet several local women and children on a daily basis so have been checking with all of them if they still want me to come along whilst my kids are pox ridden. They've all said to please still attend - including one pregnant woman - and several have visited my house too. IRL no one seems to care. I did keep my daughter out of nursery for the week though.

dreamingbohemian · 09/08/2012 09:12

I'm glad he went, and hope he has a good day!

I think as long as your DH does frequent reassessments it should be okay.

Even if he can't go into the venue and sit for long, just walking around and seeing everything for a while should be great for him. Maybe he'll see Wenlock! Smile

EmilieFloge · 09/08/2012 09:13

Northern, are you really saying you would send your child to school on a day when he had been sick that morning?

Does the HPA advice mean nothing to you? I'm baffled.

Vomiting can very often be followed by diarrhoea as the virus/bacteria works its way through the digestive tract. It doesn't have to be simultaneous to indicate that it is an infective condition.

This is partly why the HPA guidelines are in place and recommend isolating a child for at least 24 hours, from school and other places where they could infect people.

Sirzy · 09/08/2012 09:13

When you go out in public standgirl you don't give others that choice.

HexagonalQueenOfEveything · 09/08/2012 09:15

YABVU

HexagonalQueenOfEveything · 09/08/2012 09:17

Can't believe so many of you are condoning the OP taking her child out and potentially infecting others with D&V. No wonder bugs spread around so quickly with those kinds of attitudes