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to let an obviously poorly DS (6) still go to the Olympics?

349 replies

lechatnoir · 09/08/2012 07:51

DS has been so excited about to going to the Olympics all year (he's written stories about it, made a countdown calendar, sleeps with his Wenlock toy, boasted to anyone who'll listen - typical 6 year old over excitement) and at bedtime whispered to me that it was going to be the best day of his life!

Unfortunately not long after then twice more in the night & again this morning, he's had his head in the toilet being sick. Initially I thought it was just over excitement but 4 times in one night must be a bug (family macaroni cheese is definitely not the culprit). Of course he swears blind he's fine despite clearly not being right BUT I just don't have the heart to say he can't go Sad DH is still ok about taking him & thinks he can't miss this once in a lifetime opportunity but AIBU & should I make his stay at home?

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HexagonalQueenOfEveything · 09/08/2012 09:51

Yeah because his dad will really be able to prevent vomit particles leaping several feet and infecting others won't he? His dad being with him won't stop the bug spreading

PenelopePitstops · 09/08/2012 09:51

This thread is hilarious!

Are parents of kids with chickenpox supposed to stay indoors for a week... I think not!

If I'm sick in the night I still go to work the next day if I feel ok, I can't afford time off, people who keep kids off for 2 days for one vomit are ridiculous!

Stangirl · 09/08/2012 09:51

TheJoyfulPuddleJumper It cheered me up too! I've been so busy on it I still haven't got the kids dressed. Mind you that limits the time I have to take DS out and infect the world with his pox - so it's probably for the best.

BupcakesandCunting · 09/08/2012 09:52

FYI, most stomach bugs and bugs in general are contagious before the ill person has puked/sharted. What shall we all do? Stay at home in case we have to share oxygen with a sick person.

Get a grip fgs.

Nancy66 · 09/08/2012 09:53

FFS - love how everyone has decided he has the norovirus.

Have we ruled out the black death?

Sirzy · 09/08/2012 09:53

Yes Penelope that is exactly what they are supposed to do.

HexagonalQueenOfEveything · 09/08/2012 09:53

Erm, yes they are actually PenelopePitstops. chicken pox could kill someone with a compromised immune system.

PenelopePitstops · 09/08/2012 09:53

And if you have an imuno compromised child then don't take them to crowded places, most people I know don't!

HexagonalQueenOfEveything · 09/08/2012 09:54

Well he's not well is he, Nancy66? He's vomited four times overnight. Not the action of a well person

HexagonalQueenOfEveything · 09/08/2012 09:55

Ah now I get it, PenelopePitstops, it's the people that are vulnerable to infection that should stay in permanently, rather than people with infectious illnesses being inconvenienced for 48 hours and having to stay home.

How selfish can you get? Hmm

peggyblackett · 09/08/2012 09:55

Of course you're supposed to stay inside with a child with chicken pox. FGS. Selfish pricks.

LookBehindYou · 09/08/2012 09:55

If someone was that ill Hexagonal, something would have got them before the chicken pox did.

peggyblackett · 09/08/2012 09:56

You know what Penelope, I don't take my dd many places as she is in a wheelchair so we can't. We have a great quality of family life. HTH.

PenelopePitstops · 09/08/2012 09:56

A whole week indoors, couldn't afford the time off work or kids climbing the walls with boredom. When I was young people came round to catch the pox from each other!

LookBehindYou · 09/08/2012 09:57

He vomited 3 times Hexagonal.

Sirzy · 09/08/2012 09:57

So all those people with cancer should never leave the house incase somebody is so selfish as to take their child with chicken pox/d and v out? Pregnant women better isolate themselves for 9 months to.

EightiesOlympicGolds · 09/08/2012 09:57

Life is a process of risk assessment. Anyone going out will come into contact with bugs. One earlier post mentioned this boy spreading germs all over the tube - does anyone really imagine the tube isn't like this every day?

OP, glad he's gone.

Sirzy · 09/08/2012 09:58

See Penelope that's the type of selfish attitude that pisses me off. YOU don't want to be inconvenienced so sod everyone else hey. Doesn't matter if your child passes chicken pox on to someone who ends up hopsitalised with complications as long as you don't have to be bored!

EasilyBored · 09/08/2012 09:58

No one is saying that the immuno compromised people should have to stay in all the time, but going to a crowded event with tens of thousands of people is pretty damn risky even if no sick people go. You can carry diseases without being I'll, you can be contagious without before getting I'll. Stop with all the hysteria and just accept that if you send your immune compromised child to this kind of event then you are taking a risk. The kid might not even be bloody contagious.

EmilieFloge · 09/08/2012 09:59

It's interesting...it comes down, basically, to where you put yourself in the grand scheme of importance.

I would put my needs on a level with other people's. Therefore I would not knowingly expose other people to a virus, unless I had an overriding need (eg my ill child needed rescuing from a burning building - that would qualify, I would still call the fire brigade). But I also would expect other people not to expose us to a virus, unless they had an overriding need.

In my opinion, and I accept this is not universal, the need for an exciting day out (OP) does not exceed the need not to be exposed to a virus (everyone else they meet today).

To override other people's needs in order to fulfill something less relevant, is putting ones own importance above that of others. Unless those are your particular priorities and you would be happy to be treated in the same way by everyone else. Which I doubt most people on this thread would be. They just hope it never happens, because most people don't knowingly do this sort of thing.

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 09/08/2012 10:00

I'm thinking from his point of view - it's crowded, hot, full-on at the Olympic Park. I suspect it might be too much for an ill 6 year old.

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 09/08/2012 10:01

... also I would not want to be sitting next to a vomiting child. I just wouldn't. It's not as if you can get in an out of the seats all that quickly or easily if you are in the middle of a row

EmilieFloge · 09/08/2012 10:03

LookBehindYou Thu 09-Aug-12 09:55:45
If someone was that ill Hexagonal, something would have got them before the chicken pox did.

I hope Mrs Devere doesn't read that, LBY. Her daughter died because of it. You're talking nonsense I'm afraid.

BupcakesandCunting Thu 09-Aug-12 09:52:55
FYI, most stomach bugs and bugs in general are contagious before the ill person has puked/sharted. What shall we all do? Stay at home in case we have to share oxygen with a sick person.

Not true, most are contagious by contact with the droplets from the vomit, or bacteria from unwashed hands, not from breathing the same air unless the person has just vomited.

LookBehindYou · 09/08/2012 10:05

I'm very very sorry for Mrs Devere and family, sincerely.

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 09/08/2012 10:05

I agree with you Emilie