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to let an obviously poorly DS (6) still go to the Olympics?

349 replies

lechatnoir · 09/08/2012 07:51

DS has been so excited about to going to the Olympics all year (he's written stories about it, made a countdown calendar, sleeps with his Wenlock toy, boasted to anyone who'll listen - typical 6 year old over excitement) and at bedtime whispered to me that it was going to be the best day of his life!

Unfortunately not long after then twice more in the night & again this morning, he's had his head in the toilet being sick. Initially I thought it was just over excitement but 4 times in one night must be a bug (family macaroni cheese is definitely not the culprit). Of course he swears blind he's fine despite clearly not being right BUT I just don't have the heart to say he can't go Sad DH is still ok about taking him & thinks he can't miss this once in a lifetime opportunity but AIBU & should I make his stay at home?

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squeakytoy · 09/08/2012 08:31

If he feels up to going and hasnt puked so far today, I would take him. I very much doubt that amongst all the other people there he is the only one that was sick last night.

However, if you see Paul McCartney, can you ask your boy to give him a quick lick, just so it might keep him away from the closing ceremony.

peggyblackett · 09/08/2012 08:32

Was your dd contagious at the time stangirl? If so that was an incredibly selfish thing to do.

EmilieFloge · 09/08/2012 08:32

And how on earth is anyone going to clean it up? Unless your DH is armed with bottles of dettol and a bucket and loads of cloths...I can't imagine someone crawling around under the seats to try and mop up.

More likely it will be a case of muttered apologies to everyone around them and having to leave. Or everyone else leaving their seats.

It's just a daft idea, really it is.

seeker · 09/08/2012 08:32

But he has been sick this morning........

EmilieFloge · 09/08/2012 08:33

Squeaky Grin I am with you on that

MrsKeithRichards · 09/08/2012 08:33

Pack a sick bag?

NigellaTufnel · 09/08/2012 08:34

It'll be coming to Paris soon anywayWink but I suspect you have already decided.

I sometimes think "why do I bother?" when other people are quite happy to take their poorly children out.

Still trying to hold my screaming DS down so the doctor could get the tube up his nose to feed him because he was so poorly because of little vomiting bug has probably coloured my view.

And there is a difference walking about with a bug you are not sure of and taking a child you know has been sick multiple times in the last 24 hours to a crowded place.

alphabite · 09/08/2012 08:34

Ummmmm imagine that lovely warm tube air spreading those lovely warm sick germs all over the carriage. I wouldn't thank you for it that's for sure.

Will your son actually enjoy it anyway given that he'll be feeling rubbish and will also be knackered.

He could come into contact with someone who could really do without being infected e.g. someone having chemo.

It is like deliberately infecting someone. You know he's not well but you don't care if he infects others.

peggyblackett · 09/08/2012 08:34

Totally agree about giving macca a lick :o

RaisinDEritrea · 09/08/2012 08:34

Please keep him home

EightiesOlympicGolds · 09/08/2012 08:35

Let him go. There will be bugs around anyway. It's a large public event, it's inevitable. You can always come home if if is still ill there but at least then he got to go.

Sirzy · 09/08/2012 08:36

There is a difference between passing on illness when you don't yet know you have them to taking a child you know is contagious out, hence why taking a child with chicken pox out is stupid however you try to defend it.

OP - I think if you think there is any chance he is going to be sick again then you can't take him, as much as anything its not fair on him to be out when he is sick no matter how much he wants to go. Can you not look at going to one of the free public events later in the week of for the paralympics?

MrsKeithRichards · 09/08/2012 08:36

Nigella my pfb was in hospital for 5 days being tube fed at 12 weeks old with bronchalitis. It was shit but I can't demend or expect everyone with a sniffle to isolate themselves from society.

EasilyBored · 09/08/2012 08:36

Given how terrified everyone is of getting sick, on surprised some of you even manage to leave the house.

For gods sale, it's the Olympics. It's not a normal school day. And if someone gets poorly and missed a holiday, that's what travel insurance is for. A holiday can be postponed. This opportunity is never going to come around again. Give him some sick bags, some antibacterial hand gel, remind him to cover his mouth when he coughs or sneezes and let him go.

Yes it's annoying when your kid gets a bug, but that's life. I understand it's more serious if you have a weakened immune system, but surely that's a risk you take going to a massive event like the Olympics?

EmilieFloge · 09/08/2012 08:37

I would imagine the OP is busy getting her ds ready to go. I think she has already decided.

I can totally understand the sadness and disappointment but is that worth more than everyone else's risk of infection? Really?

MyTitsAreBetterThanYours · 09/08/2012 08:39

Oh take him for God sake. Don't ask the hysterical masses on here!

And I speak as someone who's parents have both had/have cancer and have lowered immunity. They would probably say the same thing as me about a small boy who has vomited a few times.

VioletStar · 09/08/2012 08:39

take him. Once in a lifetime and there will definitely be others there who aren't 100% well, as there are in any crowd. FGS when you go out there will be germs! And you might catch something. Does it stop you going out all you naysayers? If the poor lad is like my kids he'll not be throwing up now as its all out of his system and in that miraculous way that kids do, he'll be bouncing around, fit as a fiddle.

Sirzy · 09/08/2012 08:39

Of course you can't demand that but you should be able to expect that people display a little bit of common sense and not purposely spread bugs.

My DS is currently getting over pnumonia, he caught it from the cold I had nothing we can do to avoid common colds we just have to accept the hospital trip when it passes on to him. If people apply common sense though things like stomach bugs and chicken pox the chances of him getting can be reduced hopefully.

EmilieFloge · 09/08/2012 08:39

'Yes it's annoying when your kid gets a bug, but that's life. I understand it's more serious if you have a weakened immune system, but surely that's a risk you take going to a massive event like the Olympics?'

So that's fine then - let's send knowingly infectious people to the Olympics because chances are the folk there who are having chemo, and bear in mind it could be the last thing they ever go to, are taking a risk anyway.

Yay.

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Nancy66 · 09/08/2012 08:42

I'd let him go with the proviso that they come straight back if DS is ill on the way there.

Haemadoots · 09/08/2012 08:44

I remember I was about 16 and we were going on our first holiday in the sun in years, I was beyond excited, we travelled down to my great aunts where we were to stay before flying early in the morning, she made a massive dinner for us which I wolfed down, went to bed and woke up during the night being sick (really sick) we left for the airport which wasn't long and as soon as I got there I ran for the loos and was sick there, this went on until our flight was called. Now I didn't want to travel but my dm bless her was desperate for this holiday and told me just to get on the plane, which I did and was fine we put it down to excitement and a heavy meal. My point is to th op it may just be excitement and macaroni cheese isn't the lightest of meals.

Of course now I would never knowingly infect anyone.

Northernlurker · 09/08/2012 08:44

I would take him if no runny poo Grin It could be heat or excitement. Worst case is you come home early. And no, don't ever ask on here again. The mumsnet answer is that you and your child must wall themselves up at home until 100% well with a certificate from 6 doctors. And even then you could stay in for another 3 weeks just in case........

EasilyBored · 09/08/2012 08:44

For normal everyday activities I would be the first to say keep him in. But this is a special case. It's not an event that will ever be repeated. There are going to be people there from all over the world, I don't think this tummy bug is actually the riskiest thing there for someone who gets sick easily.