To not send thank you cards?

[Cydonia]

When DS was born at the end of May I was genuinely amazed and touched by the amount of cards and gifts we received. Having never really been a 'baby' person I was surprised by how much people got excited about other people having a baby! At the time I vowed to make/order some nice thank you cards with a picture of DS on and send them out so everyone knew how much we appreciated their kindness.

However, over 2 months later and I haven't done it. It's just such a faff, I'm not great with technology so can't do it at home. I got as far as looking on the Internet for sites that do it for you but that looks like a faff too. And then I'd have to find people's addresses and post them all. I know I probably sound really lazy and whingy, but most of my time is taken up by looking after DS, the rest by keeping the house clean and tidy and looking after DDog and DHorse. Occasionally I sleep. DP says we've left it so long now there's no point in sending any.

So....WIBU not to bother? If you had sent me a gift would you be offended? ( FWIW I personally wouldn't if I had sent someone a gift and not received a thank you ) Should I just do it so people don't think I'm an ungrateful bitch?

YABU

I would be a bit hurt, but that may be because I've never had a newborn and am naive.

Can you do it along with christmas cards? Or prioritize expensive ones/send out a big thank-you email/facebook message?

YABU

YABU.

It doesn't have to be a faff. Just get some thank you notelets and post them out. Its the least you can do and I would find it rude that you couldn't be bothered at all.

I don't know.

It's one of those things I think people do expect thank you notes for.

I suppose it really depends on how you received the present. If you had it handed to you and said thank you at the time, YANBU. If it was sent through the post and you haven't verbally thanked the sender by phone (etc), then YABU.

If you have said thank you to everyone in some way that wouldn't bother me, no thanks would piss me off though

Don't worry. Sleep deprivation is a brilliant excuse to be a tiny wee rude lazy. I wouldnt be offended. I would just think you're too exhausted to bother and that's fine.

You don't have to send cards, but a late thank-you - via email, facebook, phone, in person - would be infinitely better than no thank-you... I would be very upset if someone was too busy, and so rude, as to not say thank you!

YABU.

I managed to send out thank you cards when the twins were born, also when we got married, we had the twins and a baby by then AND I was back at work.

Mind you, I didn't have a horse

Just buy a pack from Tesco and send them out.

YABU. You don't have to send a posh card - just get some of those 10 in a pack ones from Tesco. How bloody rude! Get the cards sent!!!!! Yes, I'd be very offended. And yes, you sound lazy!

As long as you call/email to say thank you that's fine. Most people will understand that you are an exhausted new mother.

ring or email them then

print out some photos and bung in an envelope with card to people non techy types and friends of your parents

Yabu. It isn't too late. Just add a bit about the baby & how time has flown,people would understand.

Yep. That is A-class rude, especially if they've been posted to you. Delay is excusable but no acknowledgement at all is very poor.

Got to admit, I am not normally a huge thank you card person (much to my MIL's disgust) but we did send them out after DD was born. We received presents from people who we hadn't seen in years, often passed through other relatives or friends or posted so we hadn't seen the giver to say thank you. So we got some made up with her picture, some standard "thank you for my present" text, and just added names.

Didn't take any length of time and people liked them because they got a photo of her too!

(as a side note, my MIL drives me batshit with her thank you cards -if you have insisted we go out to dinner with an old family friend, and they pay, and we said thank you at the time, stop nagging me to send a card!)

Ok, maybe a compromise then of 'normal' cards without photo? Most people were thanked in person but there are a few that were posted or passed on via someone else. Better late than never I suppose. I already feel guilty about the mountain of clothes we've been given that will barely be worn before they're grown out of. I spend ages deciding what DS is going to wear based on what he hasnt worn yet and what looks most likely to be outgrown the soonest.

We ordered ours from Photobox (looked lovely!) and they were very much appreciated. I love going back to visit my colleagues in the office, friends and family and seeing the card stuck on fridges, notice boards and in cabinets. You'll feel relieved once it's done!

I had a baby the middle of May and only got my thank you cards out this week! Busy busy with the baby and a 3 year old but it is only right to say thank you for people's kindness. I think YABU. Just go to a shop and buy a pack of thank you cards, they don;t need to have pictures etc. Its the thought that counts.

Birth announcement photo cards

We used this site. They have a good selection and no hidden costs (have been burned on hidden costs with other sites - yes I'm looking at you Vistaprint). They came really quickly, I think in about 3-4 days.

YABU.

I am pretty crap at stuff like that (always forget birthdays etc) and I always used to wonder how busy new mums found the time to make and send lovely thankyou cards.

However, when my turn came, I actually found that it took about 10 minutes to make a card with DS's photo on the front on boots.com, and sent them out quickly as well (I hadnt made a list of who got what I dont think, so it was 'thank you for the lovely gift').

There is no excuse for not sending thank you cards when someone has made the effort to send a gift. Same for weddings.

Sorry bootsphoto.com - its so easy!

Well i wouldn't think think you were an ungrateful bitch op. But then again I didn't send out thank you cards either, although I did verbally thank people when I saw them. But then again I don't expect thank you cards either. I send a gift and then forget about it.