piercing a young childs ears........

[charllie]

I really don't understand why a parent would want to take their young child out and get their ears pierced!! Having a stranger, or even someone you know, either using a piercing gun to pierce their ears, or using a needle (not sure which one is used for young children) I personally think it should be illegal for a parent to make this decision. Or maybe not that strong, but at least an age limit. Why can't the child make that decision for themselves when they are older. Why take a baby, or even a toddler out to get their ears pierced!!?? In my eyes, its a form of child abuse. Its no different to hitting your child, etc. You are causing them pain, quite often making them bleed, all so they 'look nice' well i think it looks horrible! I've not seen one child/baby that i think awww cute. I have piercings myself and i will not be getting my DD's ears pierced until i feel she is old enough to make that decision for herself and only then, will it be after she has been talking about it for a little while.

YANBU.

I remember my dad taking me to have my ears pierced when I was 4 maybe 5? After 2 weeks he decided to change the gold sleeper for silver hoops, which would look better.My ears weren't even healed properly. It was very painful and my ears went septic. My dad was a teacher btw.

RubyFakeNails articulated perfectly what I would say to that Morethan

Brandy! Be gentle!

Its not sexualisation that's the issue.

Its the pointless need to make our babies cute by poking metal through them

Be careful ruby its bumsex night tonight LOL don't lose a nail.

I am completely against piercing a child's ears, it should be their decision.

How dare you put your child through pain just so she looks better in yours and other peoples eyes. So she can have a nice twinkly stud just for your benefit.

And this is coming from me, who thinks teens should be allowed piercings :o

Some posts on here are awful, and I think some Claire's stores should have been complained about.

Claire's are supposed to dual pierce if the customer is under 16. They cannot pierce anyone if they are distressed - so if a baby/toddler/child/teenager/adult is saying they don't want it done or are crying, they cannot be pierced.
The blog that was linked to earlier on in the thread is awful too, as a baby/toddler/child cannot be restrained to get their ears pierced. If a baby is wriggling (as babies do), they cannot be pierced.

IMO, 6/7/8 years old is old enough to get ears pierced.

I don't think it is sexualisation. But it is telling young girls that they need to go to the extent of physically harming themselves in order to be beautiful and even to be considered normal! It starts us off with a skewed set of ideals, that anything is worth the pursuit of beauty and therefore beauty is paramount.

Ear rings make dd's prey for paedos?

any stats on that?

So for the people who believe in piercing babies or toddlers, if your primary school child didn't like her earrings would you make her keep them?

I don't have stats I just read the report and several others after reading various books on the subject. I think it would be a difficult job getting stats tbh. There were results and research findings attached to reports etc.

Zuciecat, I have neglected to do several things where my dc are concerned. We are all human, I don't get offended if somebody points them out to me.

'going to report you now'

Oh dear. zukiecat please remove yourself from this forum if that's how you're going to go about it.

Don't get involved in the debates if you don't like what is said.

What exactly do you think you're reporting her for?

We have never had ear piercing attracts peedos before.

That's a new one.

My DD had her ears pirced when she was about 8

You can't report someone for being a bit stupid TBH.

If she wanted them pierced then there's no harm done is there, I wouldn't say that's negligent at all. :)

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Rise above it zukiecat.

I apologise if I have offended anybody by using the term negligent to describe parents choosing to have childrens ears pierced. I was using the literal meaning of neglecting to do something like look at all the issues concerning/ surrounding a particular thing. This to me is what it means

You can report her, but you won't get so far. She can suggest what she wants. She made a general comment, not a personal attack.

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