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regarding facebook pics

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pokeypants · 26/07/2012 12:53

I will confess to being a bit wary of putting too much on sites like facebook especialy when it comes to my children, there are so many sicko's about and some people just don't seem to realise the dangers. But I have tried not to become over cautious and reasoned that a few snaps of the kids on there is fine as both me and my partner are sensible and only have actual friends or family viewing our profiles.... I am however rather annoyed to find my niece has been taking my pictures of our little girl and adding them to her own profile....which i know seems harmless but she is a typical teenager and has upwards of a thousand so called friends on her list most of whom I'm guessing she doesn't actually have a clue who they are so we our little girls pics are practicaly public viewing!! Am i over reacting? I have simply asked that she not do it with our pictures, but maybe we should not put anything on there in future ourselves incase. what do other mumsnetters think to this?

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catgirl1976 · 26/07/2012 20:25

I expect (and I am not Beanie so I am guessing) she feels upset caused by baseless paranioa and hysteria is not a good reason, where as something with reason behind it would be fine

I would take a pic down if someone asked me regardless, but as I say, I'm not Beanie so maybe ask her.

catgirl1976 · 26/07/2012 20:27

Yes catgirl, most parents don't want naked pictures of their children on the internet and it's not your place to put them up Well I don't, so that's alright isn't it :)

SilkySmith · 26/07/2012 20:29

"I expect (and I am not Beanie so I am guessing) she feels upset caused by baseless paranioa and hysteria is not a good reason, where as something with reason behind it would be fine"

so another one who wants private details of child protection nightmares before someone's feelings are considered, by which time the person's feelings have been DISREGARDED by the insistance that they divulge personal information to a stranger in order to not have personal images shared!

You don't know someone's reasons when they first ask, you don't know if they themselves have had internet predators target their family, and you have no right to insist on their history before deciding if their personal discomfort is more worthy then someone elses!

catgirl1976 · 26/07/2012 20:30

Um. I said I would take down a pic if asked regardless

And pointed out twice I think that Beanie and I are not the same person and as such have different views.

Sorry if that's difficult to grasp

Pandemoniaa · 26/07/2012 20:31

Who does want naked pictures of their children on the internet? I see no evidence that anyone has suggested they do so, with respect, it's not really a point worth arguing over. Let alone start talking about killing people.

catgirl1976 · 26/07/2012 20:35

Pandmoniaa - I mentioned that I have a few pics of my baby naked on fb and that I don't see an issue with that. That appeared to drive a few posters to muderous levels of hysteria

bobbledunk · 26/07/2012 20:40

No catgirl, it was your response to Olympics reaction to another person putting up naked pictures of her kid as if she was being completely unreasonable and the one in the wrong.

Floggingmolly · 26/07/2012 20:41

Catgirl to be fair, you made comments about doubting your DS will want his privacy as he grows older, so you're happy to make that decision for him, which is a pretty bizarre stance to take on behalf of someone else. It could have weakened any other logical points you may or may not have made.
It did for me, anyway.

catgirl1976 · 26/07/2012 20:41

Ummm - what reaction?

When I said threatening to stamp on someones head was classy or when I pointed out she was incorrect in stating that people did not have the right to take photos of children?

I think stamping on someones head is unreasonable.

I think saying people do not have the right to photograph children is inaccurate.

OlympicTeaDrinker · 26/07/2012 20:44

He isn't on facebook (he can't use a computer)

He said he didn't know anything about it and he doesn't have parental responsibility so can't consent to pictures going up.

TBF I just reported her and gave her a mothful about doing what she wanted to do with her own child but not mine.

Yes bloody right I wanted to kill her my naked child is not for public viewing I don't care who you are I will want to stamp on your head whether its classy or not.

catgirl1976 · 26/07/2012 20:44

Flogging

I do feel the issue of privacy is an area that is shifting as the internet and social net working increases and that our DCs will have different attitudes to it than us. I think our DCs will find living life on-line much more the norm than we do.

I don't think that's bizarre.

LentillyFart · 26/07/2012 20:46

All this stamping on of heads - did you do that within the marriage as well? Hideous ghastly thing to say - shame on you.

bobbledunk · 26/07/2012 20:47

Wanting to stamp on the head of someone who has put up naked photos of your kid is a perfectly normal reaction. Not stamping on her head was very restrained. Putting up naked pictures of somebody else's kid is despicable, I notice you have no problem with that, just the reaction to it.

OlympicTeaDrinker · 26/07/2012 20:49

Cat if you don't mind your friends and family seeing naked pics of your child that is your choice.

EX's wife's friends and family are not my friends and family. I do not know them so I can not decide that they are safe to see pics of my naked DS.

Also why is it ok to look at pics of naked children??

Don't people get prosecuted for this in child pornography cases???

DS was 5yo in the picture not a baby!!!

catgirl1976 · 26/07/2012 20:49

Pictures of child in bathtub = despicable

Stamping on someones head = perfectly normal

Ok............... Hmm

It's like an issue of Take-a-Break come to life

LentillyFart · 26/07/2012 20:50

Not stamping on her head was very restrained

Yeah - well - it's good that you're saying these things - at least we're getting a good idea of what you're like. Nasty.

OlympicTeaDrinker · 26/07/2012 20:51

I didn't stamp on ex's head no he isn't as much as a moron as his wife is. also we weren't married hence the no parental responsibility. Glad you read everything I said.

LentillyFart · 26/07/2012 20:51

It so is catgirl - I always wondered if those people were, you know, really real. Seems they are.

bobbledunk · 26/07/2012 20:52

Olympic; I would have reported that to the police tbh, how disgusting of her.

OlympicTeaDrinker · 26/07/2012 20:54

[Hmm]

Do all actually think I stamped on her head???

Have you all read what I said??

Wanting to do something and actually doing something are 2 different things.

I'm worse than her for wanting to something because she actually did something Confused

catgirl1976 · 26/07/2012 20:54

bobble - could I just ask.......what crime would you be reporting?

Lentilly - it's just scary! :(

OlympicTeaDrinker · 26/07/2012 20:55

Bobble don't worry the picture was down instantly and she hasn't made the same mistake again.

catgirl1976 · 26/07/2012 20:55

No I don't think you actually stamped on her head.

I think you wanted to.

Which is just so much better of course.

OlympicTeaDrinker · 26/07/2012 20:57

Cat for publishing a naked photo of a child on a public page.

Are you saying that isn't illegal?

bobbledunk · 26/07/2012 20:58

That's good to hear, OlympicGrin.

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