To cringe a little bit when GPs say 'thank you' for grandchildren?

[IcouldstillbeJoseph]

I understand the sentiment of course, i just feel this is a slightly weird thing to say.
Why 'thank you' as if it was a present, just for them.
Maybe it's just because my PIL are vile said this...

(not that have actually thanked my daughter for providing me with a grandson yet but I will now, it could take her mind off the fact that I took her sunglasses without asking)

Maybe GP should say nothing then and be accused of not giving a shit...

We stayed at FIL 6 weeks after our son was born. They had a card on their windowsill to them to said ' Congratulations on the birth of your grandson' made me feel a bit when I saw it and I found it unexplainably offensive.

aww she just phoned to say 'that's so sweet' :) phew

just did a LOL at bearcub1

my parents got loads of congrats cards when DD was born. I thought it was lovely. Cannot understand why people are getting offended!

well who else are they going to thank for the grandchild being in existence? a stork?

Why do they need to thank anyone?

It's kinda nice to be nice.

Maybe you should try it?

I think it does depend on your relationship with the person saying this but the GPs I am/would have been had they lived long enough closer to wouldn't really say this.
When DD was born my PIL sent a card saying 'thank you for DD'. I do actually think it's a bit weird to say that. Not offensive, just a bit strange, as though DD were being given to them on a time-share basis. Hmm I feel mean saying that but sorry, still bloody odd to say it if you ask me!

it must be a way of expressing the happiness and excitement that just sort of floods you, very much like when your own babies are born?

I didn't feel the need to say thank you until tonight though, experimentally

Nobody has children to make their parents happy. So to say thank you for something that was not done for you is odd behaviour. Not intrusive and overbearing in itself.

I meant that MN is anti over bearing and intrusive GPs or people in general actually. Not that THIS PARTICULAR issue is intrusive and overbearing.

My IL's said this to me when I had dc1. My mind boggled. Thank you for what? For going through 6hrs of labour and giving birth to my baby? MY baby. I just wanted to bask in the selfish glow of what I had achieved. It was all about me and what I had just been through.

I just wasn't expecting it and it would have never occurred to me that they would respond that way. I'm not anti PIL and GP, I'm selfish!

Bloody hell , I'm gobsmacked at the resentment towards PILs on MN

Yes. Because it's always all resentment towards PILs over absolutely nothing of course.

This particular issue is nothing but odd mind.

Its a lot of bloody fuss about nothing.

What "to cringe a little bit"? Doesn't sound like a fuss to me. Sounds like a little cringe. No big deal.

Not the OP so much,more the rest of the anti PIL lot on this thread.

I got a considerable way through this thread before I realised that it was about grandparents and not general practitioners

The point OP is making is that to thank someone for your GC assumes that you own part of them? Or am I barking up the wrong tree?

You do kinda own part of them though.

Equally....someone on here said their DH got them a piece of jewellry to "thank her for giving him a son"

I mean...how fecking Medieval is THAT?!

Nobody "owns" dcs. Nobody.

Do you Usual can anyone OWN anyone else? Really?

Not own exactly, but neither do the parents own their children.