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Men hitting back in self defence?

166 replies

tittytittyhanghang · 21/07/2012 16:59

Have just been shown a shocking video on you tube of a girl attacking a man (i assume it was her friends taking the video on their mobiles?) and the man punched her back and knocked her out. AIBU to think that it served her right? DP seems to think IABU and that man should have just run away. I kinda feel conflicted now, violence is never good but i am struggling to get past the feeling that she reaped what she sowed.

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OP posts:
Dprince · 21/07/2012 18:52

I am not saying you purposely gave a false impression. I can see why you have interpreted that way. I think she fell over because she didn't expect it.

edam · 21/07/2012 18:56

It looked like self-defence to me. She hit him several times and he was trying to get away. I don't approve of the strong attacking the weak, but self-defence is legitimate.

redwhiteandblueeyedsusan · 21/07/2012 18:59

I think that people should use the minimal force to defend themselves... eg a good shove to push them away or more if they are say coming at you with a knife. if someone went on to hit repeatedly that would not be self defence. men should not have to put up with violence just because the perpatrator is a woman.

ZeldaUpNorth · 21/07/2012 19:01

I think he was well within his right to defend himself. She got what she deserved. However how many people are now going to 'defend' themselves and maybe not have the same restraint as this man and actually do some serious damage. Hopefully this will stop things like this happening , though I doubt it.

norfolkinchance · 21/07/2012 19:03

He was perfectly entitled to do what he did, she was following him down the street repeatedly hitting him and when she appeared to trap him he used force to get out of it. He hardly gave her a full right hook anyway, she fell to the ground more because she wasn't expecting it. Should hopefully teach her a lesson, if you become violent with another person then don't be surprised if they hit back.

pictish · 21/07/2012 19:04

Also - I feel the need to point out that she is young and physically fit, whereas the man is (I would guess) in his late 50s early 60s and does not appear to be nearly as agile as the girl.

What a little monster she is - she is laughing her head off as she attacks him. He looks fucking scared!!

Sallyingforth · 21/07/2012 19:10

"You don't always need to retaliate to defend yourself. He could have run. Two wrongs dont make a right and all that."
Did you actually watch the video? He was trying to get away but she caught up with him and attacked him from behind. It's quite clear she could outrun him.

DuckingHell · 21/07/2012 19:15

Silly bitch deserved it.

minimisschief · 21/07/2012 19:48

i hate the attitude that some women like the one in the video have. Based on the concept that it is wrong to hit a woman some use it as a weapon to hit men knowing that they wont be hit in return. When i grew up at school alot of the girls did it and actively taunted the oy they were hitting saying they couldnt hit them back

there was a judge judy episode where a woman started a domestic violence incident and the guy got arrested after hitting the woman after she beat him with a frying pan. judge judy had to explain to the woman why she had no sympathy for her injury after what she did to the guy and the woman was like...but he hit me.

annoying

bobbledunk · 21/07/2012 19:52

Everybody's entitled to defend themselves from attack and the scumbags who attack innocent people for fun wouldn't do it if they knew they'd get a. Hopefully this will make the little cow think twice before she attacks someone again.

pigletpower · 21/07/2012 20:04

I only wish the man hadn't kicked her teeth out whilst she was down.Stupid cuntbitch.What did the fuck she expect? Poor bloke being puched by some random twat with her 'gang' cackling.I feel like punching her one too.Grrr.

SmellsLikeTeenStrop · 21/07/2012 20:46

It's completely reasonable to defend yourself and I think that's what he did. When she was on the floor he backed away, that suggests his aim was to stop her attacking him.

ShellyBoobs · 21/07/2012 20:47

The only thing the guy did wrong was not punching the rest of them senseless, too.

Stupid nasty thick bitches.

shouldkeepquiet · 21/07/2012 22:00

I had a sort of similar experience when i was about 25 outside a pub. A drunk girl / woman went for me for no reason i never met her / knew her. After a few cuffs around my head i managed to grab both her wrists and just her her thrashing about for a min or so. I think she thought i was someone else maybe?
Anyway she did calm down when she realised she was not going to get anywhere and i let her go. I didn't need to hit her as i am 6 foot 14 stone and she was not going to do me any damage. Saying that if it had been a bloke her size i would have smacked him one.

SPsFanjoLovesRussellHoward · 21/07/2012 22:10

She deserved it!

Silly bitch and her friends were as bad. He should have hit the lot of them

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 21/07/2012 23:57

pigletpower, I'm curious where you get your "kicked her teeth out" comment from, I don't see that in the video and I've watched it several times. To me, what I saw was an adult man being chased and tormented by a pack of young women, one of whom was actually attacking him and the rest giggling/poised to move in at the first sign of weakness.

After attempteing to flee, he is finally cornered and retaliates with a slap (which I think connected) and then a punch (which looked all dramatic but I doubt had much force.)

She got what she was asking for.

LucieMay · 21/07/2012 23:58

He didn't retaliate instantly did he? He tried to push her away a couple of times but she kept on and on at him and finally he snapped. Don't blame him, I'd have snapped much sooner if some silly little bitch had been pushing at me like that.

WorraLiberty · 22/07/2012 00:00

Hitting anyone who you don't think will hit you back for whatever reason is cowardly.

Moominsarescary · 22/07/2012 00:06

Looked like he was trying to run away but she caught up with him, serves her right

seeker · 22/07/2012 00:09

Yearn, right, he looked such a sweet defenceless soul , didn't he? And we have no idea of the back story. Looked like six and two threes to me.

And what the fuck is all that "lesbian" stuff?

CogPsych · 22/07/2012 00:20

Feminism - 1
Inequality - 0

ShellyBoobs · 22/07/2012 00:35

Looked like six and two threes to me.

You're obviously watching a different clip to everyone else because there's no evidence whatsoever that the man had done anything to provoke the attack.

Birdsgottafly · 22/07/2012 00:36

Were they have got him cornered is at the top of some stairs.

It is a common place for alcoholics/homeless to sit and there are increasing amounts of attacks by groups of girls around there.

It is becoming more and more dangerous for people to walk around on their own.

There have been cases of lone men being threatened with the police, by girls, if they don't hand over money.

I don't know what the answer is to this sort of thing, tbh.

Deepvertigo · 22/07/2012 00:42

I only wish my old school friend had hit back the woman who attacked in the street for no reason. He might have been alive today to see his two little girls growing up. Sad

pigletpower · 22/07/2012 01:38

Sorry OldLady-a typo! I did mean to say I wish that he had of knocked her teeth out.

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