to be shocked by the unpleasant tone of some Mumsnetters?!

[oohdaddypig]

So - I've not been on mumsnet for very long. In the main most posters sound like lovely, supportive women - a bit like my mates but online. Sometimes there are good debates - and disagreements - nothing wrong with that.

But, deep breath, there seems to me to be a minority - but a reasonably sizeable minority - who seem to delight in being thoroughly unpleasant and downright aggressive to others.

I hasten to add this hasn't been directed at me (yet!)

But I read a number of threads - often about seemingly innocuous subjects, sometimes less so, and WHOAH - they turn pear shaped and, IMHO downright nasty or bitchy.

I know exactly what some responses to this will be (I'm thickening my skin in preparation) but is it too much to hope that internet posters adopt basic standards of politeness? Why does it sound like many mumsnetters are spoiling for a fight?

Which to my mind means, at the very least, not typing what you wouldn't be prepared to say to someone's face.

I agree with everything you have written OP

Thanks for that typical example kinkyfuckery, whatever would we have done without you?

You think this is bad, wait until a Friday when we're all pissed. It's chaos.

Mumsnet is like life in general, there a lovely people and there are nasty feckers, mostly we land in the middle somewhere.
Btw, don't read too much into aibu, this is not an accurate reflection of mn in general

That'd be because not everyone is busy pussyfooting around being false and fake and sniggering about it in some private group I suppose. Y'know - the hugz and hunz brigade who don't mean a fucking word of their fake syrupy sympathy?

Some people are frustrated with their own lives, unhappy, taken for granted, unfulfilled or just need a good shag. Whatever. It's gotta come out somewhere. I wouldn't take it personally.

There will always be more than one point of view on a subject. Some may have very strong feelings about it and may come across as harsh

Mn has a substantial number of users. It will be a mix. Like everywhere.

If you don't like posts then report them. If you are expecting the 'sizeable minority' to suddenly see the error of their ways I wouldn't hold your breath.

Report posts. Challenge people if you think they are rude. You are exactly as culpable for the tone of mumsnet as I am. Or any other poster. No more, no less.

But I called someone a tedious cunt today because he was.

But many people are rude And bitchy in RL why would it be any different online?

there are some nasty people on here(shock)
what do you expect
it is the same as rl
good and bad

We are all different people with different lives, ways of speaking to others, sense of humour, etc so some people may respond in a way you might not like. It's life OP. Mumsnet has broadened my horizons and you may find in a while you get used to the differences too.

i will give support in some threads in AIBU, especially when someone seems very low and upset.

but this is AIBU and when you post you should know it could go one way or another.

If i don't agree with something i will express my view ( or try i don't think i am good at getting my point across lol)

If you see impoliteness, pull up the poster on the relevant thread

Don't whinge and bitch elsewhere

Oh fuck off.
Hth

YABU - things can go either way on the aibu board. It's not a support group. Plus it's only for adults so there shouldn't be any need to pussy foot around too much?

Sorry you feel this way. I guess there is nowhere that is perfect. Just hide threads if they upset you.

if someone called me a tedious cunt I would laugh...it's probably true. I don't mind rudeness - I'm not easily offended.

It think it's the nasty feckers Rogers - perhaps they show their true colours on mumsnet. Sure hope I don't need their support any time soon.

Lentilly - perhaps I am one of the fake and syrupy brigade as I do like to be sympathetic when I can help. Isn't that what mumsnet is for?! Isn't life hard enough as it is?!

It's not even that some of the posts are worth reporting. But I get the impression you could post just about anything - and someone would take massive offence and start an extremely agressive fight.

(never before have I ever agreed that women can be more bitchy than men - rapidly changing my mind now)

Its only going to get worse over the school holidays TROLL SEASON begins lol

What Pag said!

I agree that there are some posters who exist only to be unpleasant to people. Ignore them. They are few and far between - and no more or less than you'd get in any cross-section of any society. And if it looks to you like a personal attack - report it.

Word.

Well then it's sort of up to you.
You stay and pick the arses up on it or you go elsewhere.

I have to say though that effectively saying 'well it's not worth reporting but someone else should stop it' is a bit of a cop out.

I don't like it. I argue with them and call them tedious cunts. Or I ignore them. But I don't avoid sections because it makes it seem acceptable.

I suppose am not sure who you are complaining to really.

"never before have I ever agreed that women can be more bitchy than men - rapidly changing my mind now"

seriously?? women are far more bitchier than men. Where most men will call you a twat to your face, most women will tell all their mates you are a twat and smile nicely when she sees you. The internet has given people an anonymity to be much braver/gobbier than they would be in real life.

YANBU, have been at the receiving end of some right nasty bastards on here, but the trick is not to give a shiny shite, I just ignore them on my threads.