to think that being a fussy eater in someone else's home is actually quite rude?

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And never even to TRY new things? Or appreciate the efforts of the host (who has multiple food sensitivites) to cater for everyone and try to provide healthy fare? And to not even feel a little bit bad about being fussy?

Absolutely, Pictish, if people were hungry and not confident of more food being available later on I bet they wouldn't be so fussy.

There are clearly different versions of 'pickiness' here. The version I described above about myself when I was younger was not a 'first world problem'. It was a disorder of sorts created by a father who 'punished' me for trying new foods by making me eat them if I didn't like them, and by a mother who let me eat only what I wanted to eat.

fussiness doesn't both me

with guests, i check for dislikes, then cook something fairly non-controversial (no cerviche or vindaloo or anything)

i would however prefer that if a guest doesn't want to eat something, that they do so without comment. I don't really care if you don't like swede - just eat it or don't bloody eat it.

YANBU. Some people are really rude and precious. Obv allergies and/or autistic children should be catered for but I would expect to be told beforehand.

If that's what you think, wrath then you have no idea what you're talking about.

It's not like people want to be fussy, it's actually a royal pain in the arse. If it were a choice, I'd choose not to be in a heartbeat.

If you disregard anybody with moral/health/religion/sensory or eating disorder issues and children then yanbu.

However as a host with things like fish spicy or very much aquired tastes you should say at time of invite I'm doing such and such.

I have a friend who eats nothing bar chips and plain burgers I love his company but would never cook for him as I personally think it's pathetic I am very happy to decend on a harvester and pay for a meal.
If you arrive at my house and obviously turn your nose up make comments like "yuck" or make it clear you like pretty much nothing that a reasonable mature adult considers to be food then you will not be invited back.
Say for example you refuse to eat fish of any type but then ask for fish fingers then your rude and quite probally also stupid obviously not if you fit into the previously excluded groups.
Obviously if your just casually having a snack or lunch it's different but if you have been invited to a dinner party and your just a compleatly immature fussy prat then you really shouldn't go unless ofcourse your reasonable enough to state this and ask what the menu is likly to be and then make a choice as to attendance.
Fussyness is really something I've only encountered in this country most other places I have lived have very different attitudes towards food.

mamma you would be more than welcome with your dc just not on a weds as that's a White food only day for my dc's I very much hope you never ever have to deal with a blue Tuesday

I think it works both ways: the host should ask and the guest should check. But I also think that there's almost a medical problem (bad wording but ykwim) and just being bloody fussy, eg I only eat X brand or sauce if it's been stirred four times anticlockwise. Don't mind the former, hate the latter.

Noble if people try to get you to eat food that you have already told them you cant eat then the problem is with them. But calling the OP a prick when she wasnt actually talking about someone with issues like yours is not on.

She and I and others were talking about pissy people who seem to delight in being awkward and make a host feel bad when in fact the guest could have done something to prevent the whole situation ie: informing the host of any foods they dont like.

But rolling up at someones house for dinner, never having mentioned any food issues and then picking and complaining is rude. It just is.

See, I'd rather go without then eat something I don't like

OP, if you invited me to dinner and said thats what you were planning to cook, then I would refuse the invite as I don't like any of the food you were offering.

What annoys me is when you get invited round for dinner say a roast, which I like and the host adds spring onions to the mash or some other weird shit, then no I wouldn't eat the mash. But then I don't make a song and dance over it, I'd just leave it

Tbh I would more often then not rather stay home then risk the embarrasment. People here have said that they would like to be told what their guests would and wouldnt eat. I can't quite see anyone I know being happy having issued a dinner invitation for me to turn round say sure I will be there, heres a list of what I won't eat ta very much.

It annoys you that people try to liven mash up with spring onions?

It's one thing to leave bits of the meal (if I am having a roast at someone's house, I'm not going to be eating tons of, say, green beans cos I'm not that keen) it's when people just don't want ANYTHING. That's the bad bit.

That's funny, bogey because if you read the OP and subsequent posts she nowhere says anything about people who delight in being awkward, merely fussy about what they eat, and suggests that they should suck it up and eat the food anyway for her pleasure at seeing them eat.

Spring onions are 'weird shit'??

If that's what you think, wrath then you have no idea what you're talking about.

Actually its you that is wrong.

The human body can adapt to almost anything and in a starvation situation you would eat anything rather than die. We are programmed to keep living at all costs. You would hate it, and probably be quite traumatised by the experience, but you would do it all the same.

Tell the men that ate their dead colleagues after a plane crash that no food wouldnt affect fussy eaters.

Yellowraincoat Yes, and sit at the table with an empty plate looking like a slapped arse!

I make everything for Christmas dinner. Bit of British, bit of Italian, everything. I'd cooked for weeks. And she couldn't even try anything!

Yellowraincoat Spring onions in mash would horrify me I just couldn't Onions is one of my I just can't foods Another thing I love cheese sauce but if something is made with full fat milk (It's not the fat issue) it's the fact that it tastes just wrong and makes me gip

Ok. But the OP wasnt discussing someone with a pathological aversion to most foods (as you appear to have), yet you chose to believe she was and called her names. Not big, not clever, not going to win you an argument anywhere.

To me spring onions are weird shit, can't stand them

How silly.

I dont like colcannon, which is hard to do when your family is irish, but I do eat it if put in front of me.

Sorry posted to soon so I could say sure I like macaroni cheese but then turn up take one mouthful and have to start thinking of excuses as to why this food i said was fine and now i can't eat it without it sounding like "sorry but it's your cooking"

Erm, suggesting that people wouldn't be fussy if they weren't confident of more food being available later in the context of a dinner party is slightly different to a plane crash where you have to eat human flesh to survive.

Everyone is luxuriously fussy about food in that case, given that pretty much everyone would turn their nose up at roast baby.

Lol! Can't deny that's true noble

BlackOutTheSun, when people put stuff like spring onions in mash they are trying to be nice and make things a bit special and different. To then turn round and say it annoys you that they do that does make you seem quite rude. Just don't eat it. How it can possibly annoy you, I don't know.

bunnywhack, you're not horrified by spring onions in mash. Maybe you don't like it, but if you're actually horrified you need to get out more.