DH signed text to work colleague "XILF x" AIBU to be very angry?

[sockonwilly]

DH worked away for 7-8 weeks a couple of months ago and has been away lots of weekends recently.

Found a text to someone he's been working with signed "the XILF x".

The "X" is something else which I have changed but imagine it being a job title so for example if he was a manager it was MILF or if he was a doctor it would be DILF.

We all know what that means right?

Clearly been at least some sort of innappropriate conversations going on here hasnt there

I am 32 wks preg.

There is an awful awful lot wrong with our relationship in other ways but I didnt think faithfulness was one of them tbh....

Sock, I have to agree with the others who told you to get in touch with MW asap. If you're feeling this way now, it really doesn't bode well for after the birth when you don't have work to take your mind off the situation and you undergo a massive hormonal shift.

MW or GP can help ensure you have safe, confidential sources of support around you up to and beyond the birth and can also offer appropriate AD's if you need them.

I don't know what to say re: DP, but the MNism "cocklodger" does spring to mind...

The fact that he has this massive debt that he never told you about does suggest that he's not particularly practical with money matters. He's now using you to try to get this other business off the ground - totally fine if you were happy to support him, and not at 32 weeks pregnant about to launch into zero maternity leave. Yes, he's doing the childcare (and I assume the share of the housework and cooking that comes with the SAHP role). But I'll be honest, OP, that hidden bankruptcy debt would be enough to send me through the roof, and that's before this whole text flirting thing.

The text and all the time away from home would get my mind going, I know. I don't want to sound any more negative than I already do here, though. I agree with above: what are his good points?

if he was my husband he would be getting another acronym GTFO

You are carrying the entire load here. All of it.

Please let someone help you carry it.

how are things sock?