to have bollocked my mother for cutting off DS curls when she babysat today

[pinkpeppa]

so I had a rare day out shopping with my sister today

mother, father and brother offered to babysit my DS 5 and DD 3. dont often see them so thought it would be a nice time for everyone.

came back to find she has taken him to the barber and all his curls have gone.

I still feel sick and upset. I shouted at her earlier this evening about it, and still really gutted she did this.

We have a strange relationship as it is, quite a lot of abuse at home towards my older sister during our adolescence, so I did doubt whether I really should leave my kids with them at all

just seems like she did it to get a reaction, which she did get

help me to calm down and forget about it! i just hope the curls grow back

ilovesprouts I would have been tempted to get the scissors out and lop her hair off the cheeky cow! That's made me angry

Op, it sounds like your 'd'm has a lot of issues re controlling you.

The posters who've come from happy families may have a lot of difficulty in believing what some parents can do to their children, especially when we're talking about emotional / psychological abuse. Children of such parents still want things to be okay in their family and keep hoping that things will change and be alright which is why they keep trying to make it work. But that will never happen.

From what you've told us, your mother was not trying to be 'helpful' in any way at all. She took a decision that was yours and your dh's to make.

This is only my opinion, really you need Attila to come on and tell you what's going on here.

Please don't blame yourself but do understand that you can never leave your children with your dp's unless you or dh are present to directly supervise. I made this decision when I had my first dc and have never regretted it despite all the aggro I've had from my siblings.

Hey op how did things pan out in the end? Are you home now?

thanks for the replies, yes, thanks for asking Whiteyelloworchid

am back home early, safe in our own home now

thinking seriously about moving abroad with our family, DH could easily take a job transfer...drastic? maybe. Exciting? Very.

I will never be able to leave my kids with her, that is the unfortunate truth, but I am their mum and they need me to do that. Regret Saturday very much, but thought she would behave. I really thought she might.

The hair is growing, slowly, he eats eggs for brekkie everyday I think it helps his hair!

I noticed 5 curls today, keeping fingers crossed for more

thank you all for your support

i meant, I am their mum and they need me to do the best thing, which is NOT leaving them with her

oh glad your ok peppa

sounds like your doing the best thing.

my dad would say, chalk it up to experience