To ban strapless wedding dresses being manufactured over a size 12?

[AnnaMosity]

Bloody things. Everywhere. Cliche. Dull
But fat arms backs ew.
And back hamsters.

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Fair enough. But when obsessing over something pointless, fuels other's body insecurity (or their own), especially when it is pointless, well it seems at best, well, pointless and at worse pointlessly nasty.

I am very much a good time girl. I like to live life to the full, read, travel, eat etc. And wear what I want without narrow minded judgements about flab and skin getting folk down.

And yes I do look down on that sort of judgement. The OP wasn't just discussing fashion harmlessly, there was judgement about body size

I have seen voluptuous women look lovely in strapless dresses. Judgey cat's bum mouths are invariably hideous, however. The OP should bear this in mind.

Rubberglove. I don't think anyone's obsessing, just sharing a few gobby opinions whilst trying to multi task a busy life. It's mumsnet.

Besides, looking at trivia is never pointless, it's a break from the important and is pleasantly diverting. I stick my nose in Heat sometimes and switch my brain off. Lovely.

'Why spend it obsessing over what is essentially abstract and pointless?' I thought that's what we were here for..

Oh well..um..

Personally I took this thread to be about the lack of choice provided to brides-to-me by a (often male) dominated fashion industry which sells 99% strapless dresses with no alternative because they are more profitable. Maybe the OP didn't mean that as her angle, but that's what I take from it.

Interesting thread, and perhaps the lack of choice that so many brides on this thread who wore strapless dresses have referred to as being a major part of their decision making in choosing that dress, will inspire others to dig deeper in looking at other options.

I skipped over all the back-fat comments, as they are indeed pretty bitchy. But hey-ho, this is Mumsnet.

barredfromstella, having a larger chest helps in keeping a strapless dress in place. At the time (breast feeding at the moment) my flatter chest did not do such a great job at keeping it in place and although from Monsoon, a seamstress did adjust it but it still fell down and I ended up wearing a jumper at the reception disco as I couldn't be bothered to keep pulling it up. I have a wedding photo of myself and my dad wearing a jumper over my bridesmaid dress- they put it in the main album!

Nothing to do with size. One of the worst examples I have seen was an extremely slim bride with a rather bony chest - it looked truly terrible. Very few women look good in this style - a good friend of mine is the only bride I've seen who truly looked lovely in strapless and that was because she has a beautiful decolletage.

But mainly they are just boring and all look the same - it's become like a bridal uniform, the bride walks in and you think, "didn't I see you get married last year?" I had no trouble finding dresses that weren't strapless and am very excited to walk down the aisle in a bateau neck gown later this summer!

Gasp that someone might judge body size.
Yes. As we get increasingly obese and unhealthy I
Bloody do!

I kind of agree with the OP went to one wedding bride was probably about a 16, spilling out all over the place, dress just looked too small and wrong and it was a church wedding, poor vicar.

My BF had a strapless dress and the dress was lovely but she had lost so much weight she had no boobs and we spent much of her wedding morning tit taping her dress to her chest to stop it gaping.

Having never been married I cannot comment on my own dress but it would not be strapless, BFing 4 DC has seen the end of my boobage

rubberglove i agree. Youve said what i was trying to say but youve said it better than me.

Just how SHALLOW is the OP? What a knob

I had a strapless dress because there appeared to be almost no other option, but wore a tulle bolero with it, so eliminating the problem, basically.

If I were getting married now I would probably have a nice dress made, but not by a bridal shop, I suspect.

I was a size 12 BTW.

I wanted sleeves on a my wedding dress as I hate my arms!
But they were so hard to find - bought mine in 2004 for wedding in 2005.

I remember taking a picture of a dress with sleeves covered in lace to one of the shops - and the owner was very dismissive of it. Bet she wouldn't now though!

Just like those leg of mutton sleeves were all the rage at one point, Strapless dresses were/ are just of their time and I think they can look very beautiful.

I wish I'd had a bolero to go over mine but couldn't find one so I wore my wrap to conceal my arms in the church.

I was a size 12 + a 12 week baby bump when I got wed and the only picture I have without my wrap on I look great!

I did have a strapless gown, not because that's all that was available but because this was the style that best suited my figure-I was a size 10 with a small bust & had absolutely no need to 'hitch the dress up' at any time during either of the 2 occasions it was worn (wedding abroad-reception in UK ) As I stated previously, if the dress is correct for your size then it will (very) comfortably stay in place.

Oh & yes I do think I looked gorgeous on my wedding day, as a bride should & any bride to be who has chosen a strapless gown & is reading this with a growing sense of dread, don't-you chose the dress because you knew you looked stunning & fuck what any bitches other people think, enjoy your lovely day.

I got married 8 years ago and I remember being appalled at the amount of strapless dresses.

I was adamant that I didn't want strapless, I knew they wouldn't suit me, so much so I hadn't bothered wearing a strapless bra. Nevertheless, the shop assistant brought over strapless ones, one after another. (Despite me telling her I didn't want them.) I felt very uncomfortable considering my bra-straps were on show.

I had mine made. I was lucky; it cost me much less, as I've known the dressmaker all my life and she'd offered to do it.

rubberglove perhaps everyone here has had read plenty of great literature already this week? You'll find people happy to have a conversation with you about Daniel Deronda (if you've read them it, of course ) on other threads. This one happens to be for discussing strapless wedding dresses. How good is the internet? You can do both!

Ah, now you mention it...

btu wihtotu teh typnig lkie tihs

That was always optional, wasn't it? I thought so, anyway...

I'm a size 6-8 and can honestly say I look terrible in stap less tops/dresses where as I've seen bigger women look gorgeous in them.

It's nothing to do with the size of the person!

You seem like a twat