To have been repulsed by DH fainting?

[meMillyme]

I?m a regular user who has name-changed as I know I will likely be flamed for this! Not a wind up either ? promise I know I am unreasonable and a horrible person. Sharing my horribleness with you.

So yes DH fainted in Tesco today. We were standing by the bread when he suddenly went white and started staggering around, finally sinking to his knees in a very dramatic fashion. I rushed to him but was elbowed out of the way by loads of people trying to drag him to his feet. He was given water and gradually sat up ? then went faint again when he stood up, que more tottering and slumping over and a load more fuss.

Anyway I have taken his home and fussed over him all day, he says he still feels weak. Now the horrible bit: I just found my 6ft 3 husband staggering abound and being all weak and woozy and needing support to walk repulsive.

I know, I know I?m a cow.

Yes, YABU, and you are being a cow. Is there anything more that needs to be said?

Do you mean you think he was putting it on a bit?

Yes, you are a bit.

Are you not worried about why your presumably otherwise fit 6ft3 DH fainted in the first place?

I do think that is a bit mean of you :( your poor DH! The word 'repulsive' is a bit strong IMO. I do understand your finding it strange and a bit disconcerting, but repulsive?
Sorry but YABU.

Do you really need me to say it? YABU!

Poor fella, is he ill?

Not the best reaction to have no, but seeing someone you love behaving in a manner that doesn't fit into your perception of them makes anyone a bit shakey.

Don't be too hard on yourself and take it as a reminder everyone is human and vulnerable.

Hope he's been checked out and is ok now.

Does he have any health problems?

repulsive? Why repulsive?

YABU. How would you feel if he said the same about you if roles were reversed?

your husband was ill and you were repulsed you are a cow and really should be ashamed if he threw up would that be more manlier for you ,

Do you think he was faking, is he lacking attention?

YABU. Are you sure you don't mean you were (very understandably) scared, and have converted this into anger/revulsion?

if he'd thrown up or shat himself I could understand - but fainting?

Was he there when you gave birth?

Does he have any health issues?

Is he actually ill?

History of stroke or heart attack in his family?

Bloody hell, I would be really worried if my 6ft plus DH fainted. Not repulsed, worried.

Think I´d feel the same tbh.

And yes, I know it´s wrong/unkind, but we feel how we feel!

Is he being checked out if he still feels weak today?

I won't flame, you felt how you felt, we don't always get to choose the most noble emotions to unexpected events. Hopefully when you havea chance to think about it you'll feel more sympathy

I don't think it's repulsion you are feeling - I think it's dread and fear. I get like this when my DP is not well because it scares me.

You are being shallow and unpleasant, yes.

The people in the supermarket should have backed off, not tried to "drag him to his feet".

I once told my Mum off as she staggered about the kitchen and then fainted....my future SIL was visiting and I thought she was being over dramatic.

I said "God Mum...if you feel ill go and lie down!" and rolled my eyes.

It's a kind of refusal to take iton board OP...it's not weird or unnatural to have reactions like that.

Has he sought medical attention? He should get his blood pressure checked.

To find it "repulsive" is a very strong reaction - maybe it's a knee-jerk reaction to a shocking event though?

What did you find repulsive about it?

That's rightPancake well put.

Oh dear your poor dh. Hope he feeling better, yes you are being vu but you seem to know that already! I would be very worried but definitely not repulsed what if there is something seriously wrong with him?!

I think you feel embarassed tbh and not repulsed I hope that is what you are feeling,