To have been repulsed by DH fainting?

[meMillyme]

I?m a regular user who has name-changed as I know I will likely be flamed for this! Not a wind up either ? promise I know I am unreasonable and a horrible person. Sharing my horribleness with you.

So yes DH fainted in Tesco today. We were standing by the bread when he suddenly went white and started staggering around, finally sinking to his knees in a very dramatic fashion. I rushed to him but was elbowed out of the way by loads of people trying to drag him to his feet. He was given water and gradually sat up ? then went faint again when he stood up, que more tottering and slumping over and a load more fuss.

Anyway I have taken his home and fussed over him all day, he says he still feels weak. Now the horrible bit: I just found my 6ft 3 husband staggering abound and being all weak and woozy and needing support to walk repulsive.

I know, I know I?m a cow.

but it is ok for men to be weak and ill sometimes I would be more frightened for my husband than scared for myself TBH, OP i dont think you would actually tell him it repulsed you

There is a condition where people pass out, not exactly for no reason, but not for any underlying reason, IYSWIM. I can't remember what it's called but my DP has done it a few times, although not for ages.

It often happens in situations that challenge the body's temperature regulation and circulation or where people are feeling tired, stressed etc.

In DP's case, it happened once when he got into a cool shower after swimming and sauna'ing the day after a massive night out.

The other time it happened was when we were shagging standing up . Scary at the time, funny now.

Hmm I don't know.... I was sympathetic to him, I have fussed over him all day.

To answer earlier post: I think it was seeing him vulnerable yes.....

Or maybe you are angry about something else?

Are you sure you where repulsed?! See I'm a bit unsympathetic outwardly and tell my DP to man up if he is unwell or if he is that bloody bad to see a doctor but this is how my worry and anxiousness about the situation presents itself. Luckily Dp knows this and understands this and every other aspect of my nursing skills are spot on. I just give the impression I don't care but I do. I just get tetchy when I'm worried

I hope he is ok now.

Oh dear Lady Clarice!!

Yes he has had a fainting 'problem' all his life and has been checked before. First time I've witnessed it though.

Poor old sod!

I think it sounds unreasonable to be repulsed, but as others have said maybe you don't actually feel repulsed but scared. You don't want to be scared, so unknowingly you feel something else and call it revulsion.

That's probably bollocks but it makes sense to me!

Sometimes we can't help how we feel. My poor mum laughed at her fathers funeral - it was pure nerves but her elderly aunts were disgusted.

Maybe something similar?

Hope he's ok :)

How would you feel if he had the same reaction to you if you fainted? Oh and he needs to be checked out by the GP, regular fainting is not normal.

OP how would you feel if you saw your husband cry ?

I hope it was covering up being scared!

Thanks ladies

Jesus I hope he is ok. How sad that you feel like that seeing someone vulnerable.

belgo

She had fEelings, not reactions. She behaved ok

Mrsjay I am fine with crying, have seen him cry a few times and felt pleased he could open up to me like that :)

Well if it happens periodically didn't he recognise the warning signs? sounding like a big girls blouse tbh.

sorry to get all analytical, but also, strikes me he's a big bloke. Maybe that has more impact than if a smaller person faints

do you actually feel repulsion or maybe it was embarassment(spelling) and annoyance at the fuss it caused in tescos ?

fainting is horrible, btw. You may feel the signs too late
to do anything

"Bunbaker he has been checked out"

Did they do a standing/moving blood pressure and a sitting one?
and a heart trace?

Not every doctor will, but low blood pressure cannot be detected without doing so.

I have naturally low blood pressure and if it drops at all, i can go very dizzy. I stop and sit down so that i don't faint.

You cannot fight against something that is happening internally.

Your OP sounds a bit like you want to be flamed in order to shake you out of this. Because you know it's not an appropriate or sympathetic reaction to have to your DP.

Yes, YABbloodyU.

But it is understandable to be freaked out when someone you see as 'strong' is suddenly weak.

Cheer up, maybe he's got a really serous underlying health problem that might explain all the unmanly fainting.

Whatever you felt, you really do need to have a good think about this, heaven forbid he be really ill, what would you do and how would you feel then?
At some point it's going to happen, whether now or in thirty or forty years. I think you need to learn to cope with your feelings on this and sort them out so that you feel better about yourself.

Birds: I'm not sure to be honest, they were with him about 15 minutes, took blood pressure etc. I was reasuring him at the time as he was still a bit spaced out.

good point dawndonna.

Yes it is a good point. You're absolutly right.

I kind of get it. My husband fainted about 1 month ago, he has never fainted like it before, and moments earlier he had been clutching near his chest complaining of a strong pain. I thought he was having a heart attack and my aunt who was visiting came to the room and thought it was a stroke.

I think maybe you were feeling some emotion you cannot really identify and have used the word repulsion because it is the closest thing you can think of. Did you think of repulsion because you felt physically queasy yourself? I know I had a sickening feeling when I saw my husband collapsed :(