To think DS’s teacher shouldn’t act like this?!

[TTLL]

Hi everyone. This is something that happened a few weeks ago but it?s been playing on my mind, I?d appreciate it if you could tell me if you think I?m unreasonable here!

DS started secondary in September at an all boys comprehensive. He had trouble settling in to start with and his form tutor was brilliant at helping him. She is young (about 22 I?d say) and an NQT. She is very nice and DS thinks the world of her. She went way over and above her call of duty for us ? spending a lot of time setting up counselling for DS , helping him to make friends and on one occasion coming out to our car and persuading DS to go into school when he was point-blank refusing one day.

She also teaches DS English and has been very thorough with marking (unlike most of his other teacher?s) and does brilliant fun lessons where they lean loads (according to DS)

She is very, very attractive and thus has a fan club in the form (there are older lads in the form too) so obviously she could bump into them at any time outside of school.

My problem is this; a few weeks ago DH and I went to see Coldplay, and who should I bump into in the Lady?s but this teacher. She said ?Hello Mrs TTLL? and we had a quick chat, fine. She then came and sat in front of me and DH with her boyfriend. (She didn?t see we were sitting there I don?t think though) anyway her and her boyfriend proceeded to snog like teenagers for the next hour and a half with her sitting on his lap It was like watching a pair of 15 year olds at the back of the cinema. Am I being unreasonable to think this is totally inappropriate behaviour for a teacher?! Any of the boys she teaches could have seen her after all....

YABU. Utterly.

YANBU of course she should have stayed in the nunnery. Bloody hussy.

Really?

But she wasn't teaching at the time was she?

And her boyfriend was not one of her pupils?

So, as a young woman in her early 20's who happens to have chosen teaching as a career, she isn't allowed a normal social life?

And really, as parents who have children old enough to be a secondary school, you shouldn't have been at Coldplay.

You should have been at home with your knitting and leaving the jiggling about at concerts and things to the bright young things.

You are being ridiculous.

OMG! A teacher having a life? At a concert? With a boyfriend? And actually SNOGGING? Like a NORMAL person? How fucking outrageous.

Of course YABU. Ridiculously so. After all she has done for you DS, your post made me really quite .

YANBU, what a harlot. Everyone knows teachers send the pupils home then stand in the supply cupboard smiling quietly to themselves until the next morning. She must be one of those real people, people who have lives. They shouldn't be allowed in schools.

YABU you said yourself that you don't think she saw you sitting there, and even if she had she can snog who she likes in public or otherwise (providing it's not one of her pupils)

Well tbh I would probably have been a bit as well. But shortly afterwards I would have given myself a slap and realised that teachers are actually allowed a life outside school..

I think this is a big fat wind up.

You're being perfectly reasonable. Of course a teacher should behave impeccably at all times. I trust you wrote an letter of complaint to the headteacher as soon as you got home? Teachers should have no right to a life outside of school at all.

Is the poor woman not allowed a life? If she'd been snogging a pupil then, yes, that would be out of order, but anyone else is so not your business.
I once copped one my son's teachers at a concert with a pint in one hand, a ciggie joint in the other and a bloke under each arm dancing the fandango but I didn't let it worry me. She shit herself the next day when I asked her if she'd enjoyed the gig last night but as long as her teaching was up to standard and she wasn't drinking on the job, I didn't care. It was none of my business.

I thought you were going to complain she was on a date with a student!

No, she can do what she likes-I'd need a good snog to get me through a Coldplay gig. If she does the same at the school fete, you will maybe have a point.

I really hope this is a wind up thread.

If not of course you are being totally and utterly unreasonable. Yes we are teachers but we are also people. When I first qualified aged 21 I went out drinking and kissed my husband in public - because I wasn't at work and it is none of anyone else's business. Get a grip

UABU for going to see Coldplay in the first place.

Oh ffs I just wasted half a minute of my life reading that OP!

My first ever. I've been saving it and there has been some stiff competition. But you have finally earned it OP.

Thanks for the replies ladies :) I am more than happy to be told I?m being unreasonable and will accept it! It?s not that I think she shouldn?t have a life ? just think she should be more careful in public..

It's not a wind-up no and I haven't been constatly thinking of it for weeks..

Write to the governors immediately. What a slag!

Wont someone think of the children!!

YANBU, obviously. When you start teaching, you become a moral exemplar to your pupils and you need to behave as though they were watching all the time. An impressionable young man seeing his teacher having sexual contact with another person will probably begin to lose all respect for authority and go off the rails.

I think this is also true of other people of standing in the community, such as doctors, politicians, bin men, etc.

YANBU This is why the country is going to dogs. No bloody standards any more. She should be sacked. That'd learn her.

You are being wildly unreasonable. I was actually open mouthed as I read the last part of your post!

Also what teen boys would go an see coldplay? you should be judged just for seeing them.

More careful? She was kissing her boyfriend, not running naked down the high street.