To think DS’s teacher shouldn’t act like this?!

[TTLL]

Hi everyone. This is something that happened a few weeks ago but it?s been playing on my mind, I?d appreciate it if you could tell me if you think I?m unreasonable here!

DS started secondary in September at an all boys comprehensive. He had trouble settling in to start with and his form tutor was brilliant at helping him. She is young (about 22 I?d say) and an NQT. She is very nice and DS thinks the world of her. She went way over and above her call of duty for us ? spending a lot of time setting up counselling for DS , helping him to make friends and on one occasion coming out to our car and persuading DS to go into school when he was point-blank refusing one day.

She also teaches DS English and has been very thorough with marking (unlike most of his other teacher?s) and does brilliant fun lessons where they lean loads (according to DS)

She is very, very attractive and thus has a fan club in the form (there are older lads in the form too) so obviously she could bump into them at any time outside of school.

My problem is this; a few weeks ago DH and I went to see Coldplay, and who should I bump into in the Lady?s but this teacher. She said ?Hello Mrs TTLL? and we had a quick chat, fine. She then came and sat in front of me and DH with her boyfriend. (She didn?t see we were sitting there I don?t think though) anyway her and her boyfriend proceeded to snog like teenagers for the next hour and a half with her sitting on his lap It was like watching a pair of 15 year olds at the back of the cinema. Am I being unreasonable to think this is totally inappropriate behaviour for a teacher?! Any of the boys she teaches could have seen her after all....

Even if the OPs entire family had been there, what exactly is inappropriate about a kiss? She wasn't exactly giving her a blow job, was she?

I want my dc to know that being in love can be a very beautiful thing, in fact I'd be the one causing the embarrassment them by going "aaawww, aren't they sweeeet".

I think YANBU to feel uncomfortable watching your DCs teacher having a good snog. That is how you felt, and shouldn't need to apologise for it.

I don't think she should be more careful in public though. I am married to a teacher, and it would be impossible to always be careful in public as his student numbers run into the hundreds most of which he doesn't remember teaching anyway

She's 22 and you want her to behave like a nun in public?? Frankly, a bunch of teenage boys knowing she has a bf she's really into would be no bad thing anyway. You need to get a grip and quickly, one day she might be pregnant then what would that imply to a bunch of teenage boys??

Well done for admitting unreasonableness, OP.

I do hope you got photos though

'Aw don't be so rude. She can ask can't she?'

I'm a teacher, and I've said this before. If you want to own me 24/7 then pay me 24/7 and I'll consider it.
Then you can tell me what to eat, how much I should weigh and what shade of eyeshadow you think is decorous enough. I will also cease to snog my OH of 30 years in public. But it will cost you dearly.

You must know that you are being totally unreasonable don't you? Maybe you need to look into a monastic school for him??

Fallen - I agree she's unreasonable, she agrees she's unreasonable. People are allowed to ask if they are being unreasonable on here. It's what it's for.

I have agreed I'm being unreasonable three times.

Prehaps I'm not the only Dyslexic on here

TTLL
Good comeback - you're getting the hang of this AIBU lark

Not all the parts of the site are quite so feisty - there is a lot of warmth, support and expert advice if you need it.

This is the kind of AIBU I like. Normally, by now, the OP would have 'remembered' that actually her son was there, that the teacher in question was topless and doing coke off her tour programme/DH's buttocks, that actually she's totally NBU because the teacher is paid by her taxes and therefore accountable to her as a taxpayer and a mother at all timeszzzzz...

Quick op, ring the daily mail hotline.

Honestly...

At least you've admitted you're unreasonable though

Quick roundtable READ THE THREAD PROPARLY

Yes I have!

This could go on for paaages

Can we have a debate about public snogging?
One poster has said 'everyones seen their Mum snogging' and someone else said they feel their partner's bum in front of their teens.

I kiss and hug my dh in public, but I snog and feel his bum in private. I'd be so embarassed if someone saw us doing that and I can't imagine why I'd do it in front of my kids, particularly when they're easily mortified teens...Is that not normal?

I feel repulsed when I see public groping, particularly when the other person is not responding/trying to unload trolley (I feel it's really creepy when I see men doing it-it's like they're trying to assert ownership in a public place) and, unless they're hormonally challenged teens/early 20s I find snogging a bit odd too-it's not very British is it?

I'm aware there's no particular justification for my views, feel free to flame

Oooh yes defineme - I find PDA's excruciating.

I do sometimes wonder whether women being felt up in public really like it that much. It seems disrespectful to me. Possessive.

OTOH, I'm sure it's a turn-on for some. In which case Yay for them , but I'd rather pay to see that kind of thing at a time of my choosing. Or not

What does it matter - she's off duty. You may have been less unreasonable say if she was doing it during class time when she was supposed to be doing a her job.

She may be a teacher and have to act in a correct manner at school but outside school hours she is still a person in her own right.

sigh

Should I bother saying it a forth time?

Sorry TTLL I thought there was only one page (new to MN and keep forgetting how to get to page 2 onwards)

Nah, many of us can't be arsed to read the whole thread, nothing personal 9although it's only 5 pages in this case)

It's like all these public conversations (work/asda/post office-I can't get away from it) about 50 shades of Grey-someone always makes a comment about their own sex life.
Like the public groping, it's a window into someone elses sex life and I don't want to see through it EVER.
I honestly don't have sexual hang ups, but Some of my friends do know me as prudedefineme