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To think DS’s teacher shouldn’t act like this?!

147 replies

TTLL · 06/07/2012 16:28

Hi everyone. This is something that happened a few weeks ago but it?s been playing on my mind, I?d appreciate it if you could tell me if you think I?m unreasonable here!

DS started secondary in September at an all boys comprehensive. He had trouble settling in to start with and his form tutor was brilliant at helping him. She is young (about 22 I?d say) and an NQT. She is very nice and DS thinks the world of her. She went way over and above her call of duty for us ? spending a lot of time setting up counselling for DS , helping him to make friends and on one occasion coming out to our car and persuading DS to go into school when he was point-blank refusing one day.

She also teaches DS English and has been very thorough with marking (unlike most of his other teacher?s) and does brilliant fun lessons where they lean loads (according to DS)

She is very, very attractive and thus has a fan club in the form (there are older lads in the form too) so obviously she could bump into them at any time outside of school.

My problem is this; a few weeks ago DH and I went to see Coldplay, and who should I bump into in the Lady?s but this teacher. She said ?Hello Mrs TTLL? and we had a quick chat, fine. She then came and sat in front of me and DH with her boyfriend. (She didn?t see we were sitting there I don?t think though) anyway her and her boyfriend proceeded to snog like teenagers for the next hour and a half with her sitting on his lap Hmm It was like watching a pair of 15 year olds at the back of the cinema. Am I being unreasonable to think this is totally inappropriate behaviour for a teacher?! Any of the boys she teaches could have seen her after all....

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TTLL · 06/07/2012 17:44

apostrophe failures where?

And what make you think they were deliberate?

I apologise if it has made it difficult to read - I am severly dyslexic so will make mistakes. I did check the post before submitting it.

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FallenCaryatid · 06/07/2012 17:49

This appears to be your first post, and the majority opinion is that YABU.
You may wish to investigate different sites that are more in keeping with your genteel and mannered attitude.

GnocchiNineDoors · 06/07/2012 17:49

nethun

FallenCaryatid · 06/07/2012 17:53

I was thinking more of the Forum for Distressed Gentlefolk.

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 06/07/2012 17:54

Aw don't be so rude. She can ask can't she?

TTLL · 06/07/2012 17:55

As I said earlier I am more than happy to be told I am being reasonable and will except it!

I appreciate people taking the time to reply too. It was indeed my first post.

I have a ?genteel attitude? which I call being polite. I think a lot of replies have been down right rude and aggressive however ? totally uncalled for. I don?t choose to respond in the same manner however ? two wrongs don?t make a right.

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TTLL · 06/07/2012 17:56

unreasonable rather!

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GnocchiNineDoors · 06/07/2012 17:57

See I don't find the replies rude or agressive, just a bit of straight talking which is what Mumsnet is.

TTLL · 06/07/2012 17:58

fuck off is rude.

mumsnet is a forum

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JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 06/07/2012 18:00

Suggesting she goes elsewhere was uncalled for.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 06/07/2012 18:00

err mumsnet is a sometimes blunt speaking and very sweary forum

KatherineKavanagh · 06/07/2012 18:01

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JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 06/07/2012 18:01

Nope

TTLL · 06/07/2012 18:02

Thanks Jamie, the suggestion that I shouldn't be here because I don't resort to personal insults and swearing I find a bit odd. Never mind!

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usualsuspect · 06/07/2012 18:02

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TTLL · 06/07/2012 18:03

Thanks Ladies, I am not a troll - I do accept I was being silly however!

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JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 06/07/2012 18:04

Phew - can we all be friends?

TTLL · 06/07/2012 18:04

I won't bother -thanks for the offer though.

Wink
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TTLL · 06/07/2012 18:05

That's to reporting posts, not being friends!

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KatherineKavanagh · 06/07/2012 18:07

Hope you stick around, we all have to have a first post after all....

TTLL · 06/07/2012 18:09

And my apology for being Dysleic was sarcastic....

Thanks Katherine.

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rockinhippy · 06/07/2012 18:09

YABMASSIVELYU - you should have seen the state of the teachers letting their hair down at a mini festival I was at with DD over the weekend - she recognised several as supply Teachers from her School & a recent School trip -

its a bloody hard job these days, they need to de stress - snogging like a teen in public might be a bit tacky, but its not illegal & she's still young

holyfishnets · 06/07/2012 18:11

very funny

TTLL · 06/07/2012 18:11

As I have said twice now, I accept I am being unreasonable!

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JosephineCD · 06/07/2012 18:13

If the OPs DS had been with her, I can see why it might be construed as inappropriate. But otherwise, what's the problem?