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To think DS’s teacher shouldn’t act like this?!

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TTLL · 06/07/2012 16:28

Hi everyone. This is something that happened a few weeks ago but it?s been playing on my mind, I?d appreciate it if you could tell me if you think I?m unreasonable here!

DS started secondary in September at an all boys comprehensive. He had trouble settling in to start with and his form tutor was brilliant at helping him. She is young (about 22 I?d say) and an NQT. She is very nice and DS thinks the world of her. She went way over and above her call of duty for us ? spending a lot of time setting up counselling for DS , helping him to make friends and on one occasion coming out to our car and persuading DS to go into school when he was point-blank refusing one day.

She also teaches DS English and has been very thorough with marking (unlike most of his other teacher?s) and does brilliant fun lessons where they lean loads (according to DS)

She is very, very attractive and thus has a fan club in the form (there are older lads in the form too) so obviously she could bump into them at any time outside of school.

My problem is this; a few weeks ago DH and I went to see Coldplay, and who should I bump into in the Lady?s but this teacher. She said ?Hello Mrs TTLL? and we had a quick chat, fine. She then came and sat in front of me and DH with her boyfriend. (She didn?t see we were sitting there I don?t think though) anyway her and her boyfriend proceeded to snog like teenagers for the next hour and a half with her sitting on his lap Hmm It was like watching a pair of 15 year olds at the back of the cinema. Am I being unreasonable to think this is totally inappropriate behaviour for a teacher?! Any of the boys she teaches could have seen her after all....

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Birdsgottafly · 06/07/2012 17:11

"Used against her"

Thinking about this more deeply, i think i would rather be caught having sex outdoors than everyone knowing that i went to a coldplay gig.

Lots of people i knew were giving tickets away (that they had won) and there were no takers.

FunnysInLaJardin · 06/07/2012 17:11

actually i think YANBU. DH is a teacher and he has to bear this in mind when out in public. I think her behaviour was inappropriate.

uselesslife · 06/07/2012 17:12

oh bloody hell
at first i thought your son was with you
but he wasn't even there
YABVU

FallenCaryatid · 06/07/2012 17:13

I think that there should be a curfew for all children of school age of 9pm.
If they break curfew, the parents should be fined, break it again and the parent should have to wear a punishment yoke.
www.flickr.com/photos/24443965@N08/3453619561/

FallenCaryatid · 06/07/2012 17:15

The boy wasn't even there? Shock
What sad. emotionally shrivelled person looks at a young couple in love and feels like the morality police?
The Red Letter anyone?

FunnysInLaJardin · 06/07/2012 17:15

oh sorry, I thought your son was there too. In that case you are over thinking it. But she does need to consider what she does in public rather more now, if only because she will get the piss ripped out of her should any of her students see her snogging in public

Mrschristiangray · 06/07/2012 17:21

Recently in the supermarket there was a couple in front of me and the woman had her hand right down the man's tracksuit bottoms feeling his bum.
Good grief I thought, then realised my DS (14) had changed into a tomato - it was his Form teacher - No way did I think oh no he is a teacher and should refrain from PDAs although he was the feelee not the feeler!!

This OP must be a wind up - Teachers can never get it right can they Confused

TTLL · 06/07/2012 17:22

Birdsgottafly : How bizzare to enter a competition for a prize they don't want [Confused]

No he wasn't there and I wouldn't dream of telling him!

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usualsuspect · 06/07/2012 17:24

Hmm sounds like the OPs fantasy to me

Is it the school holidays now?

futureunknown · 06/07/2012 17:24

Perhaps you should move to the Middle East OP. Women there know how to behave in public Grin.

Birdsgottafly · 06/07/2012 17:25

It was a radio competition that just said concert tickets.

KatherineKavanagh · 06/07/2012 17:25

Ha ha, that's you told op!!

Reminds me of when I was 15 at a packed Bruce Springsteen concert at roundhay park. Announcement over the tannoy for the man dancing in the aisles to sit down! Me and friend looked over, as did the thousands of others, and oh, the shame, it was our geography teacher mr simmonds! Teachers eh!?

TTLL · 06/07/2012 17:25

Usualsuspect: Eh? Well my Ds dosn't break up until next week..

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TTLL · 06/07/2012 17:26

Birdshottafly: Ah I see!

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tethersend · 06/07/2012 17:27

IME, nothing ruins a night on the piss more than the words "Hello Miss!"

usualsuspect · 06/07/2012 17:27

sounds like a schoolboys fantasy is all I'm saying.

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 06/07/2012 17:28

Eh?

I don't like seeing people snogging in public, but you can't object on the grounds that she is a teacher

TTLL · 06/07/2012 17:29

Well maybe; but then I'm not a school boy Grin

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usualsuspect · 06/07/2012 17:29

I went out on Saturday night and got hammered with a teacher friend.

usualsuspect · 06/07/2012 17:29

Are you sure you are not a schoolboy?

GnocchiNineDoors · 06/07/2012 17:32

How absoloutley disgraceful of her to have a life outside the classroom.

Lock her in the stationery cupboard.

hairylemon · 06/07/2012 17:35

You are mayoress of unreasonableshire op

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