to just curl up and die of shame?

[ISwearImNotATramp]

Me and DS's father are not an item.

So I'm currently on the period from hell, the other day I was out and about with DS, changed my pad, stuck it in a nappy sack (and tied it) and stuck it in the changing bag as the toilet had no bin. Completely forgot about it and today sent DS and the changing bag off to his dads.

Absolutely.Mortifying.

It would have been bad enough, but I found out when DS was dropped off my his fathers mum, who said she was dropping him off as she wanted to have a private word, they'd found a used pad with blood on, they were both very distressed and wanted to know why it was there. So not only did she open the closed nappy sack, she took the pad out and opened it?! (This was confirmed by my sons father)

I'm absolutely humiliated, but is it just me or is she bonkers? Wouldn't it be perfectly obvious why it was there? Or am I a complete tramp?

I feel like I've been deliberately embarrassed more than I needed to be by how she dealt with it.

Any thoughts while I dig a very large hole to hide in forever?

Here, have my shovel

Why would anyone open a tied nappy sack?? You have nothing to be ashamed about

oh dear! x

why doesn't he have his own change bag?

DS's nursery always tie soiled clothes in nappy sacs so they do need to be opened to check if its clothes that need washing

Agree with DropDeadFred.

this sort of thing happens think your ex's mum is being really paranoid that you were trying to be insulting which you obviously weren't. Maybe share the story with a mate and have a laugh over it, tis quite funny really. Why she opened it I don't know!

Don't feel too bad. She would have seen one before. You're are right, it would have been obvious to me why it was in there - accidentally forgotten. I don't know wht she bought it up, it shouldn't be that distressing!

This is whooshing over my head. Seems simple enough to say "OMG! got caught short whilst I was out, in a rush, didn;t remember to empty the changing bag"

Barking mad to be peering in nappy sacks though. Who is she? Gillian Mckeith?

Unless of course it was leaking and she thought it was a bloodied nappy

FGS, they are idiots! Yes, it is embarrassing for you but you have nothing to feel ashamed about. How pathetic of them to say that they were "both distressed"!!! They need to grow up. Don't know what else to say to ease your discomfort but in any case they are BU!!!

@monkey my sons still young and he only has him for a couple hours at a time so he just uses mine, although I'm sure we both now feel it would be best for him to have his own!!

oh. my. god

why on EARTH would she have opened a tied up nappy sack?

Oooh don't feel bad! You aren't the one who went hoaking through a nappy sack, presumably to find something to embarrass you over. Honesty, who thinks they need to "have a word" over that?! Try and amuse yourself by coming up with other things for her to "stumble" across.

They've put 2 and 2 together and come up with 700.
You'd think at least his mum would have cottoned on tho.

Thanks so much already guys, I've been feeling so miserable and utterly humiliated!

:) Craic, my DM told me to set up a display of tampons around the room next time they come over haha

Maybe they thought it was some sort of dirty protest in anger against DS's father?

I bet my MIL would have opened it too! Next time he goes, pop a nappy sack in there with a photo of yourself grinning MADLY. That'll fry her onions.

monkey I see where you are coming from, but anyone with half a brain cell can differentiate between clothes and a sanitary towel!

OP you are not a tramp and although this must be humiliating for you, I suspect foul play from the 'other team'.

Someday you will laugh at this

What a nosey bag she is and to be distressed about it seems that she and your ex are making a big deal out of nothing.

Don't go justifing yourself to them, just smile and say opps forgot that was their haha and carry on as normal. Then ask why on earth she had to open a tied nappy bag and open what she should recognise as a used pad?

I could perhaps believe her opening the nappy sack thinking there was something (I don't know what) in there. But then OPENING a pad?! And asking me why it was there? I'd have thought as a woman and a mother she'd have known.

I just know if I'd have been her I would have immediately thought 'oh god how embarrassing for her, I will just ignore and pretend I didn't see anything'

She made me feel very small :(

Why would anyone open a tied nappy sack?? You have nothing to be ashamed about

Precisely?

Ouch. I feel your pain. Tbh though, she didn't need to open it, and even if she had, she really didn't need to say anything to you. It's obvious what it is. That was quite mean of her.
I like thespokennerds idea.

Oh god, this is something I would do and get bloody caught....but really, if you open a tied nappy bag you really are asking for trouble.....who does that?! Well obviously your DS GP but no "normal" person surely?

I feel your pain OP, but honestly have a glass of wine and ignore and put this one down to baby brain

I'm trying to think of a single explanation as to why she thought it was any of her business - and I'm coming up with nothing.

Don't be mortified.

My ex husband went to the loo at a friends house. He had been in there about half a minute when she blanched and said "ooh, fuck..I have left a used panty pad on the window sill of the bathroom". This was when we were eating. We did laugh when he came back in saying nothing. Particularly as my ex husband was a dick.

I was more by the use of panty pad.

As a woman she would obviously have known what to expect when she saw it was a pad so why open it for further inspection. She made a mountain of a molehill, don't let her make you feel like shit, you didn't plant it their just to 'distress' her. Seems to me that she wants to embarrass you, don't let her.