to just curl up and die of shame?

[ISwearImNotATramp]

Me and DS's father are not an item.

So I'm currently on the period from hell, the other day I was out and about with DS, changed my pad, stuck it in a nappy sack (and tied it) and stuck it in the changing bag as the toilet had no bin. Completely forgot about it and today sent DS and the changing bag off to his dads.

Absolutely.Mortifying.

It would have been bad enough, but I found out when DS was dropped off my his fathers mum, who said she was dropping him off as she wanted to have a private word, they'd found a used pad with blood on, they were both very distressed and wanted to know why it was there. So not only did she open the closed nappy sack, she took the pad out and opened it?! (This was confirmed by my sons father)

I'm absolutely humiliated, but is it just me or is she bonkers? Wouldn't it be perfectly obvious why it was there? Or am I a complete tramp?

I feel like I've been deliberately embarrassed more than I needed to be by how she dealt with it.

Any thoughts while I dig a very large hole to hide in forever?

@Sole no but seems as though the ABSOLUTE horror of seeing a used ST was all that was needed for maximum distress.

You've all made me feel so much better :)

You should make a habit of including one weird and unusual item in the nappy bag every single time now. You've set a precedent, don't stop now. The possibilities are endless

If you open a tied nappy bag then finding something unpleasant is the risk you take, what a pair of freaks. This just about sums it up and I like AllYoursBabooshka's suggestion Ask her nicely if she has any concerns about DSs bowel movements as she so keen to see the contents of a nappy bag.

Half eaten baguette. In a nappy sack.

Decapitated teddy bear. In a nappy sack.

The sleeve of an old t-shirt.

Toy car missing it's wheels.

I'd have fun with this one!

Why doesn't he look after his own child? What's his mum doing looking after him if he only has ds a couple of hours a week.

I used a friend's bathroom once; there on the floor lay her pants, smeared with blood from her period. I never said a word to her. It would have been humiliating for her and incredibly rude and insensitive of me. And, besides, I have periods too. It's no big deal .

Your MIL has an agenda here. She is rude and insensitive - possibly even cruel - to attempt to humiliate you like this under the guise of concern for her grandson. What a nasty thing to do. Any decent person would have kept quiet.

You have absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. She, on the other hand, should be ashamed of herself.

I would never open a nappy sack, DD playgroup puts a note on said bag. DD wet her clothes playing with the water table or DD accident bag. really there is no need

Ah, OP, I understand your embarrassment, although you have no need to feel embarrassed. Seriously, they were 'distressed'? Given that your DS's father managed to impregnate you, and that his mother has obviously had children, I assume that they are both familiar with the concept of menstruation. They both need to cop the fuck on. Also, opening a nappy sack? Weird. What exactly did they expect to find? Cake? An antipasti platter? Gold bullion?

piprabbit 'Perhaps they thought it was a very small horse's head and you were trying mafia-style intimidation'. A seahorses head, perhaps?

Love TheSpokenNerd's suggestion of popping a photo of you in a nappy sack the next time . Seriously, ISwear, they are being ridiculous. Shrug it off - believe me, we have all had our mortifying moments!

CouthyMow, brilliant. Love your suggestions!

Don't be embarrassed, a normal person would have disposed of it and not mentioned it (surely it's obvious what happened anyway). If anything, I'm embarrassed for her for being so socially inept - you just made a mistake, she's made herself look like a mean loon that roots through tied nappy bags for fun.

Miniature cow ornament from a charity shop?

Oh, that's very PA, how to tell her she's a cow without saying anything, and if she says anything, you know it's because she's very odd and searches tied nappy bags...

Don't let her upset you OP - she's being a twonk, and trying to get to you.

I really like CouthyMow's suggestions

[evil]

dirty protest ? :)
what daft bugger goes frummaging in a tied nappy sack and then is distressed by the contents ??

If I left a dog poo bag somewhere by accident, and someone cared to explore ... well serve them right !

I'd feel embarrassed too, but you didnt do anything untoward !!

I think she is trying to humiliate you. If I had found what she'd found, I would have immediately understood the situation, put the bag in the bin and said nothing at all about it. This, to me, sounds like she will use anything she can find to try to get at you. It's horrible for you.

Hahaha I would have denied ALL knowledge of it. I wouldn't care if they knew I was straight out fibbing, I could not admit to that.

Next time I'd pop in a Tampax leaflet explaining periods and a copy of Mr Nosey.

She's being a cow. Any normal person, even if compelled to open the bag, would either ignore and dispose or at the very most just quietly mention that they accidentally found something and perhaps you might want to check the bag before passing it over next time, no harm done though etc etc
Why does she have your ds? His father should be looking after him

Excellent Narked!!!

If it makes u feel any better my male workmate felt the need to come into my office the other week and announce loudly that I'd left some menstrual blood on the look seat and could I make sure to clean it up please. In a packed office. Talk about mortified!

I normally get on with him v well but don't think he could miss the opportunity for a 'laugh'. I'll get him back at some point.

Loo seat not look seat!!

Pinky - id just say not me ... Are your piles bleeding again??

Totally agree with everyone.

What a bitch, can't help feeling that this is only the start. Remember you don't know her very well and don't know how she really feels about you and the whole situation.

I can't imagine for a second why she needed to "have a word". She's nuts. It's quite clear what happened.

If she is in any way weird about it, practice this look --> in the mirror and say - "Look. There was no sanitary bin in the toilet. There was nowhere else to put it. And I forgot it was there. That's all there is to it. Yes I wish I hadn't but everyone's human."

Dropdead, good come back!