to just curl up and die of shame?

[ISwearImNotATramp]

Me and DS's father are not an item.

So I'm currently on the period from hell, the other day I was out and about with DS, changed my pad, stuck it in a nappy sack (and tied it) and stuck it in the changing bag as the toilet had no bin. Completely forgot about it and today sent DS and the changing bag off to his dads.

Absolutely.Mortifying.

It would have been bad enough, but I found out when DS was dropped off my his fathers mum, who said she was dropping him off as she wanted to have a private word, they'd found a used pad with blood on, they were both very distressed and wanted to know why it was there. So not only did she open the closed nappy sack, she took the pad out and opened it?! (This was confirmed by my sons father)

I'm absolutely humiliated, but is it just me or is she bonkers? Wouldn't it be perfectly obvious why it was there? Or am I a complete tramp?

I feel like I've been deliberately embarrassed more than I needed to be by how she dealt with it.

Any thoughts while I dig a very large hole to hide in forever?

i swear... all she has done is made herself look inconsiderate and unkind and lacking empathy.

perhaps you couldquery whether she s going senile as she has obvioulsy forgotten what periods are

or you could hint that technology has moved on in the last 20 years and one no longer has to wear towels an inch thick that made you walk like a cowboy just back from a very long ride...

They were distressed that there was blood on a used sanitary towel?? Since when is blood on a sanitary towel something to be distressed by? Are they also distressed by poo in a nappy?

Just contact his mother and say "I put it in there because there was no where to dispose of it in the ladies when I was out. I meant to throw it away, but forgot. I'm sorry to hear how distressed you were, but it really was just an accident."

Perhaps she thought your ds had murdered you and mopped up the blood with your sanitary towel

@crumpet I did babble something along those lines to her at the time, although I was in a rush to get her away from my door so I could cringe for the next twenty minutes lol.

Your MIL does not like you and by telling you she knew what was in the nappy sack, she wanted to have an effect on you.

I would have opened the bag if it was not obvious what was inside. Being a changing bag I may have thought it was something to do with your child's personal cares.

Do not know the history between you. You done anything to her in the past?

It was an innocent mistake. At least you do not throw the used ST's into the toilet which is good. :)

I would agree to the private word and if the nappy bag is the issue spin her! ask her what kind of weirdo she is opening used nappy bags and does she realise how many health issues that raises about whether DS can stay with her or dad? I mean ffs I can tell a used pad, just bin it MIL!

You're not a complete tramp.

they are bonkers! why open a dirty nappy sack?!

@Sole I've been nothing but nice to her, unless I've unintenionally offended her somewhere along the line.

Me and DS's dad were never an item but I've still always involved his parents and welcomed them into my home. But she's always seemed judgey and uptight. It all feels extremely unsisterly.

I think solesource might be right. It does sounds as though your ex-MIL was trying to embarrass you/make you feel awkward. Rather mean. Hope you soon forget all about it.

You've nothing to be ashamed of, they are the ones who should be mortified for having outed themselves as weirdos who open nappy sacks to check period pads just so they have something to claim to be upset about. What idiots, purposely trying to embarrass you like that....

Perhaps they thought it was a very small horse's head and you were trying mafia-style intimidation.

That would explain the opening of the bag and the distress.

I got my period during the night in my friends spare bed when I was about 17. My 'friend' delighted in telling me and i was mortified but her Mother never said a word. Why people lower themselves just to point score in that way, I cannot fathom. See not just you :)

Why were they worried? Did they think ds had been using a pad?! A nice, normal person would discretely throw it away.

at small horse's head

Perhaps buy a child's book, explaining the menstrual cycle clearly and simply, and put that in a nappy bag for them to find?

What the hell, you have no reason whatsoever to be embarrassed.
Perfectly obvious what it was, why would anyone get distressed over it.
If you open a tied nappy bag then finding something unpleasant is the risk you take, what a pair of freaks.

mygladheart PMSL

What reasons did they give for their distress?

Did they think DS had cut himself and that pad was used to wipe his blood?

Ask her nicely if she has any concerns about DSs bowel movements as she so keen to see the contents of a nappy bag.

You made a silly mistake, It wasn't a big deal until they made it one.

Distressed indeed!

Put in a jam sandwich in a sandwich bag next time.