to just curl up and die of shame?

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Me and DS's father are not an item.

So I'm currently on the period from hell, the other day I was out and about with DS, changed my pad, stuck it in a nappy sack (and tied it) and stuck it in the changing bag as the toilet had no bin. Completely forgot about it and today sent DS and the changing bag off to his dads.

Absolutely.Mortifying.

It would have been bad enough, but I found out when DS was dropped off my his fathers mum, who said she was dropping him off as she wanted to have a private word, they'd found a used pad with blood on, they were both very distressed and wanted to know why it was there. So not only did she open the closed nappy sack, she took the pad out and opened it?! (This was confirmed by my sons father)

I'm absolutely humiliated, but is it just me or is she bonkers? Wouldn't it be perfectly obvious why it was there? Or am I a complete tramp?

I feel like I've been deliberately embarrassed more than I needed to be by how she dealt with it.

Any thoughts while I dig a very large hole to hide in forever?

Could be worse. I heard about a lady that was changing her towel, but was startled by her cat meowing at her, shrieked and dropped the towel, which landed and stuck to the now startled cat, who promptly legged it out the house, with towel in tow.

She may have thought the OP was making a horrible statement of her own, by sending a used nappy sack on purpose. However OP's mortified reaction should have made it quite clear that it was a mistake. (I would hope the MIL would feel mortified at having made such a dreadful assumption about her motives, too, but some people have no shame.)

A very long time ago, when washing machines were something of a luxury, my mother used a door-to-door laundry service. (Yes folks, it was cheaper in those days to get someone else to do your washing for you!) She bundled up a pair of sheets into the bag, label on, out for collection etc, as you do. They duly returned a nice clean, ironed pair of sheets, plus an envelope on which was written "We do not launder these". It contained a used condom.

Now THAT's embarrassing.

You're right Annie, I can't believe they gave it back!

OP, the only reason this woman did this is to be cruel. Who wouldn't know what it was and make the link? What grown woman would try and humiliate a 21 year old like that?

mygladheart -your friend's mum sounds like a total cow.

Where's the sisterhood? We shouldn't be embarassed about periods but we are so help each other out!

OP, I think that while there was plenty that you could have said to grandma at the time, it's probably not worth bringing it up again. You might want to say that the arrangement of you handing over your changing bag clearly isn't working well so you're giving them notice that from next week, they'll need to provide their own. You'll make sure you notify them of any change in creams/nappy size etc so that they can buy their own.

Karma will get the old witch.. someday she'll shit her knickers in M&S!!

multipoodles!

Great replies here, hope you are feeling better OP. You have nothing to be ashamed of. The granny has though, pure nastiness.

Blimey everyone knows that a sealed up nappy bag is not ever going to conatin anything anyone wants to see again. Self inflicted distress on their part.

How strange! Why would you open a nappy sack as wtf would you touch another persons sanitary pad? Yuck!

I'd gather up a collection of bogies and snot on a tissue and leave that for her next time. That'll distress her!!

She sounds cruel. I have done similar but with knickers as well when I forgot as dd got sent to hospital so mil came and got a load of things for washing. Mil didnt say anything just washed them and put them with rest of things.

She should have just thrown it out op, dont feel foolish.

They were distressed at the sight of a bloody pad??!!

Hahahahahahaha

Rotten fruit and veg.
Matches and empty pack of fags.
Minitiature bottle of booze ( empty).

The possibilities are endless ...

DH suggests a condom filled with watered down yoghurt

If it makes you feel any better...The other weekend we attend DH's new boss's cocktail party at his millionaire mansion home. As the night dragged on my boobs became heavy and sore (breastfeeding still) and leaked into my pads. When to the loo to change the soaked breast pads and misplaced one. Assumed it had dropped down the loo as i searched the room and couldn't find it.

As i returned to the table the Boss shouted "there's a bit of loo paper stuck to the back of your dress" and removed it. Upon grabbing the 'loo paper' breast pad it leaked milk into his hand. He shouted "what the fcuk is that its wet" and dropped it on the table. Stupid DH replied "is that your breast pad". As i dashed forward to retrieve it i accidentally knocked his wine glass over his lap. His wife muttered "there's something to be said for formula feeding". I died. Am still dying infact.

Oh grey elephant ... Just oh

greyelephant - I'm so sorry for you, but it is hilarious!

My youngest son went for a playdate with his friend. He packed a child-sized suitcase of favourite toys to take with him. Some time later, when I knew the mother better, she admitted that after I'd gone, my son had unpacked a variety of my panty liners and sanitary towels and stuck them all over her house.

At least they weren't used .

Weird on several counts - opening the bag, opening the PAD (OMG), freaking out at the sight of blood on a pad, and going to the great lengths of telling you how distressed they were.

I don't believe it - that they were distressed - and if they were, meh....get a grip, people.

I'll never forget having an impromtu drunken sleepover at a (VERY) gay best chum's house. My period started, and not only did he dig out a couple of pads left behind by his recently-left lodger, he let me stick them in a pair of HIS undies.....and I was sleeping in bed with him!!!!!

Come on, guys - a woman who's had periods and a man who has sex with women of childbearing age - freaked out by periods.......

Serious problems going on there......

Ha ha - yes - Rainy....get a tissue and spell out "Fuck You" in several weeks' worth of bogies!!!!!!

Can't decide whether grey elephant or toffeewhirl's story is funnier.

O.M.G. GreyElephant. I think I might have cried at that point. And I'm a fairly confident person. for you!

I'm still laughing at the idea of a woman who has undoubtedly had many a period in her life, brought up a child etc being very distressed by a used pad.

I would definitely leave (unused) tampons in the bag just to see if she finds this distressing. Where does it end.

She obviously has made some judgment on you and is exerting her authority because she feels all judgey.

Suggested response:

Perhaps being a dried up old crone you don't remember, but once a month women bleed. They use pads to soak up the blood and these need to be changed regularly, often when out and about. I hope this helps you to figure out what must have been a complete mystery to you.

Just be grateful she's not your mil!

My dd (2yo) found a used sanitary towel in the bin I'd left at the front door for dp to empty whilst I was at work. DP didn't realise but was mortified to see her sticking it to the bum of her toy sheep whilst the fire brigade were there to install our new smoke alarms.

Think i would cringe at this so YANBU for that, but they are very U for even mentioning it!

It was bin collection day and I emptied my bathroom bin into it as I was leaving. Used San products in virtually transparent bag. I buried it a bit and rushed off. Arrived home later to find the wind had overturned said bin! I collected other litter blown around. Never did find the embarrassing stuff though although someone obviously did

Do the blue thing! Get a pad, mix up some gloopy colour less stuff, add lots of blue food colouring and pour it over the pad. Then bag up and place in dcs changing bag. Or make it green - that would give her something to worry about.

Water and icing sugar; that's what you need.