to change dd's nappy on the bus?

[amieis]

When we are still 30 mins from home and she's whingey?

haha "a pursing of the lips that somewhat resembles a cats behind" (quoted from my lovely sister) my mil is the same 5!!!!

Im sorry you have had no sleep lurking and Im glad that you have done some soul searching. however what you post has taken us back to what others have said at the begining and through out this thread is that many mothers, myself included can do a very swift nappy change with no one even noticing or at least with as little fuss or attention as possible and so making an anouncement just draws attention to it and invites, people who would other wise have no idea, discomfort. Of course if someone caught my eye i would smile or even interact with them as that is just common decency and assuming any mother would not is just plain ignorant and judgy.

..Why does my perpetual kitten sleeping next to me all of a sudden look a lot less cute?

Mum and I call that 'pursed.' Ooh she's certainly pursed isn't she Lurking? (If you have a heckling parent like mine haha)

its a phrase I'd never heard of til I joined mn lurking .... it was also just "pursing" to me to! catsbum makes light of it though, when its being directed at you (particularly when it comes from old women who are sporting this face + making remarks about your parenting "ohhh poor child shouldn't be wearing THAT" or look how she's holding that poor child")

Didn't you get the memo, that the mothers place is in the wrong?

One thing becoming a mother has taught me is that no matter what I do, someone will be there to jugde me.

Just do what you feel is right and you can't go wrong

*It should work like this: you show consideration to other passengers by, for example, apologising and asking if they mind if you change the nappy. They show consideration to you by saying, yes, fine, please change the poor little thing if she's uncomfortable.

If you don't consider others in the first place, then you can't expect them to consider you either. You can't have it both ways, you can't demand strangers care if your child is sore, if you don't care about how exposing them to the contents of a dirty nappy might affect them.*

This is the best post and sums it up completely.

Again, what happens if they turn round and say no?

Glad to see the disgusted are coming around to realise that emergancy nappy changers are not all ferrol ignorants with no manners and the situation can work for every one with some decencey and understanding. How many pages has that taken.

oh but i still dont think asking will be at all usefull other than drawing attention to something that would barely if at all be noticed.

I don't have to question if I should be doing it or not, the nappy will still need changing

No dangerous I'm not 'coming round' at all, so drop the satisfied tone. Its still disgusting.

so why post what you just did then, you dont mean what you posted? There was no tone, if you chose to read it with a tone that is your problem.

Since when has it been 'good manners' to not do something that could leave a child in pain?

my post was actually light hearted as i felt this thread was begining to come to an end with some understaning being shown. But clearly i was wrong then. ho hum.

Don't worry I will. And I'll make sure that I'll be as trampy, common, and feral as I can

If you had a baby boy, you mightn't be so quick to assume changing him on a bus would be an easy proposition that would disturb no-one. I had to wear an apron when changing DS. Would you be willing to risk having other passengers sprayed with pee or ending up with a soaked seat? Or would you put up with some crying and expect the other passengers to grin and bear it too..

I would be disgusted if anyone sitting next to me changed a babies nappie on a bus and would tell them so.

math the trick there is to open the offending article to the air, count to ten then put the nappy back over it again. Took me a while to work that out though :o

another the op was on a bus with only 2 adults and their 4 kids, she wasnt sitting next to anyone. If I had to do it I would do my damndest to make sure I was as far away for other passengers as possible. i dont think anyone is suggesting sitting down next to someone and asking them to hold open the nappy bag.

Changing babies dirty nappies on bus? Absolutely disgusting that anyone would do this so unhygenic and disrespectful to fellow passengers. Like the people on a thread some time ago who thought it fine to change a habies nappy in a restaurant where people were eating, the op is a butter if she thinks this behavior is normal or socially acceptable.

Nutter , even.

Aren't you just charming theinets?

Unhygenic?

How?