To be a little bit...doubtful about the way wine and alcohol are worshipped on MN?

[TheSpokenNerd]

I probably am going to get slated here...I drink now and then...maybe a bottle of wine a month with DH...there are SO many threads where people say

helps!

and "Is it wine o clock?"

and it seems like a real enabling kind of culture here...."Oh 4.30's not too early for wine!"

and that kind of thing.

AIBU to think that it's an unhelathy atitude?

[ducks]

My problem is not enough alcohol

I don't think that using emoticons on websites is a proven cause of any disease.

runner There will be a article on it in DM soon

Nope - because this is a thread about an OP who doesn't know the difference between on a screen and RL.

It would make an interesting thread on it's own merits though.

A percentage of the may be real - but how would you go about judging what is and what isn't?

I have had family members die of cancer that were tee-total and completley healthy and that is exactly why i know life is too short, as long as you haven't got an 'problem' with alchol i cannot see the problem as long as it is in moderation.

i refuse to drink a single drop near my children. im the daughter of a now recovery alcoholic and so go to the other extreme where im almost anal about it. i don't mind what others do but i can't drink near them.
friends find this odd- when i wont have a glass of wine or whatever but my good friends respect this.
i do however enjoy nights out, im not mummy, im not responsable for anyone but me and i look forward to these rare nights!

OP, YANBU.

On mumsnet, as is the same elsewhere, people think nothing of having a bottle of wine and more to wind down after a hard day.

This is excessive consumption. Some of the angry and defensive responses on here lead me to believe that some of you are more dependant on alcohol, and less honest about it to yourselves, than you would like to admit.

Those of you saying it is a vice like chocolate or cake, well I suppose it can kill you like being fat can, but more importantly alcohol is a drug that alters your perception.

Aah feck it.

I'm not all judgey...well only a BIT....it's somethng that interested me that's all...

I like having an altered perception tbh

is virtual on here, you don't actually think we send RL bottles of wine in the post to other mnetters.

Yes there is an epedemic in RL but this is not RL.

The culture of binge drinking here does and has always baffled me, but I'm not sure it extends particularly to a glass or two - virtual or real - at the end of a shitty day. But there's a line and it does sometimes get blurred.

I'm happy to receive bottles of vodka through the post.

Oooh, who got angry and defensive?

I LOVE wine......and lager......Just saying

Alcohol is a drug that alters our perception, along with caffeine, tobacco, sugar, E numbers and all sorts of other things.

On MN, as elsewhere, people think nothing of posting random shite (as it should be), a lot of which bears no resemblence to reality; I find it interesting that some people cannot understand that posts should be taken with a massive pinch of salt.

And for this to be the same as wine IRL - we'd all have to be leaning out of windows across the country, for it to be taken seriously!

Oh I would love to throw buns at people in RL

I suppose that Literal Emoticon Interpretation Sydrome could exsist, somewhere?

OP, I get what you're saying! I really do! It's not judgemental, it's just a bit odd for me.

On here, maybe not so much, but I am also on a mental health website where a lot of people post about how much they've drunk, what a laugh it was, what are you drinking tonight etc. I think it is very unhealthy there because it promotes a culture where drinking is ok and drinking + mental health problems can be a very bad combination.

Yes, YABU

I'd like to be able to do this in RL , but I can't raise one eyebrow

i constantley throw buns at people

I'm not entirely impartial here since I have an alcohol problem (one that crept up on me gradually) and I post regularly on a thread about drinking.

However, on here, and in RL, there is a huge acceptance and promotion of drinking as the way to deal with a stressful day or the way to celebrate the smallest of happy occasions or what to do whenever you are bored. There is also a option on here, but (as in real life) it is more likely that when someone has a hard day, or a faces a difficult decision, or gets a new job, it is more likely that some one will say "have a glass of wine" than "oh lovely, have a nice cup of tea" (and I think the same is true whether it is said in words or in pictures).

Of course it is 'virtual'. But is a virtual any less influential than advice given on the relationships board or the bereavement board? It is someone somewhere sharing their feelings, and someone somewhere making a suggestion.

I no longer drink, and I don't think I'm po-faced about drinking, but I am sad that is sometimes what is offered and accepted when actually a who do a grand job.

It wouldn't suprise me Line; I'm sure I recall reading about a syndrome that has that effect.

A RL bun fight would be so enjoyable, I can imagine the before-hand negotiations on what constitutes a scone etc!

maybe we should have [soya milk] incase we offend vegans though.
or simply just [water].
.....or if it's for comfort, how about [blanket]

I would like a [comfort blanky] emoticon. It would be little and tattered and all sorts of different colours.