to move my child to another school because of PJ wearing parents and other things.....

[fiftieslover]

Hi there, your views would be appreciated.

My ds is currently in yr 3 (8 yrs old) he is in a mixed class of years 3 and 4. Since Christmas I have had really serious doubts about the school he is in.

He has asked to move schools a couple of times in the past 6 months and I am seriously considering it. BUT I know at 8 this is a massive change for him. He is a social little boy who makes friends easily and can articulate his thoughts really well. The issues I have with the school are as follows.

1. Parents dropping their children off still wearing their PJs. I not talking lounge wear here, I'm talking fullish sheep adorned pink things. I turn up at school dressed for work, smart and ready for the day.

1. Leading on from 1 is the reason for the PJ wearing. There is a very high number of unemployed parents in the school. I live in a nice part of not a very nice area IYKWIM. Unemployment has always been a problem. I have lived in this area for over 30 years and alot of the children in ds class are 4th and 5th generation unemployed. So I assume the pj wearing is because they have nothing to get ready for? I need to add that sometimes the children are picked up from school at 3pm with said parents still adorning the sheep attire.

I have never been unemployed so struggle to empathise really with the other parents. I work in recruitment and know there are always things you can do to improve your chances but I have never been there so know I dont fully understand the effect unemployment has on you.

1. There are ALOT of kids in the class that are morphing into absolute horrors. The behaviour is getting worse as each school year passes. Once lovely little 4 year olds are now 8 year old swearing, disrespectful kids. My ds went over to one of them the other day to show him his homework. The other kid looked at my ds as if he were stupid and said I dont do homework - I wouldnt dare!.

1. I'm aware this is getting long so going to cut it short. The teachers appear to spend alot of time on discipline - taking actual teaching time away from the good kids.

1. In the past out of 26 kids, there are approximately 8 that behave really well. If the other 18 are playing up, the whole class has been punished. This really annoyed me.

I could go on and I think I have answered my own question seeing it in black and white but would still appreciate your comments.

Thanks fifties x

many of them victimised though

Poo poo, in my area it's the more affluent areas that have more drugs in the schools.

I am not ashamed of who I am, I have just chosen different for my family.

Noddyholder- its because deep down she knows she is only ever two paychecks from being back there and it scares her, so the more scathing she is about them in her mind she is not like them.

Sad.

don't be sad for amber leaf, I don't get pay cheques.

Poo, I've read some of your posts. By god is that really what middle class is?

Yikes!

*for me

Im not middle class, I'm working class

i dont fit into the stereo types you describe

Ahhhhh so YOU haven't pulled yourself ot of the gutter then?
You married someone who did it for you?
Nice career move.
No wonder you feel so able to sneer at others.

Unless of course you mean you are on the social In which case

My DP is from a council estate. He is what is known as A Master of the Universe in his field.

See the trash council estates are churning out hey?

No, I work for myself, and I get paid in cash usually, I don't get a wage as such.

So are you labelling council estates as gutters ohdamnit ?

A neighbours just knocked and asked if I wanted his to cut the grass in my garden as he is doing his. Hooligan!

Amberleaf that is what is wrong with this country.Those who should know better would rather run from what shaped them and then demonise it.

What he is he man!!! Ace!!!

You don't get paychecks? How do you pay your rent then?

I do hope you are paying your taxes before pocketing that cash!

damselintorndress so he doesn't live there still ? Did he move out of it ?

damsel I want to be known as that!

There's a policeman living in ny estate

WhosPicle, he is a he man, in his field. Honest. Google finance, and that term and you will see.

DamselInTornDress

I've never lived on a council estate. But I defend it. I have more class and cash than you and I say you are trash of the worst kind.

I haven't been following the most recent argument you've been having with recall so not sure about the context. But i must say that i find it strange that you feel informed enough to defend something you have never experienced. Sometimes i feel inclined to defend it too, but then i remember my childhood! I remember the things that i saw (kids laying in alleyways off their faces on drugs, the inside of the squats etc) and the things i narrowly avoided by the skin of my teeth. My actually experience of it is what really counts not the romantised image.

Recall, his mum is still there. He lives in Chelsea, but is selling up because I prefer something more inbetween.

Amberleaf self employed people are capable of paying the rent.

Ah ok then, I will rephrase, you are only two months of cash payments away from being back there-is that better?

And yes, I hope you do your tax returns properly!

interesting damsel