to move my child to another school because of PJ wearing parents and other things.....

[fiftieslover]

Hi there, your views would be appreciated.

My ds is currently in yr 3 (8 yrs old) he is in a mixed class of years 3 and 4. Since Christmas I have had really serious doubts about the school he is in.

He has asked to move schools a couple of times in the past 6 months and I am seriously considering it. BUT I know at 8 this is a massive change for him. He is a social little boy who makes friends easily and can articulate his thoughts really well. The issues I have with the school are as follows.

1. Parents dropping their children off still wearing their PJs. I not talking lounge wear here, I'm talking fullish sheep adorned pink things. I turn up at school dressed for work, smart and ready for the day.

1. Leading on from 1 is the reason for the PJ wearing. There is a very high number of unemployed parents in the school. I live in a nice part of not a very nice area IYKWIM. Unemployment has always been a problem. I have lived in this area for over 30 years and alot of the children in ds class are 4th and 5th generation unemployed. So I assume the pj wearing is because they have nothing to get ready for? I need to add that sometimes the children are picked up from school at 3pm with said parents still adorning the sheep attire.

I have never been unemployed so struggle to empathise really with the other parents. I work in recruitment and know there are always things you can do to improve your chances but I have never been there so know I dont fully understand the effect unemployment has on you.

1. There are ALOT of kids in the class that are morphing into absolute horrors. The behaviour is getting worse as each school year passes. Once lovely little 4 year olds are now 8 year old swearing, disrespectful kids. My ds went over to one of them the other day to show him his homework. The other kid looked at my ds as if he were stupid and said I dont do homework - I wouldnt dare!.

1. I'm aware this is getting long so going to cut it short. The teachers appear to spend alot of time on discipline - taking actual teaching time away from the good kids.

1. In the past out of 26 kids, there are approximately 8 that behave really well. If the other 18 are playing up, the whole class has been punished. This really annoyed me.

I could go on and I think I have answered my own question seeing it in black and white but would still appreciate your comments.

Thanks fifties x

Golden Virginia SP .

I best shout my toddler in. I sent him to park with his frosty jacks and his mates, getting bit dark now though but with street lights on it might be too early. I'll see what time the neighbor shouts her toddler in

I'm a Mayfair girl

Where's usual?

Off getting a light off the cooker?

I'm here, just went to roll a fag

I'm waiting for a some drama to happen outside , but it looks like the boring sods have all gone to bed.

Toddler back home. He's sharing a cig with me. I don't believe in him having a full one yet. When he's 4 then Mayne

I'd take it out of his CB if i were you SP.

My kids nick my tobacco all the time.

The bastards little loves.

And i never have a freaking lighter cos they nick them too.

And they're only toddlers.

WTF can i do?

Ground them?

Ach well,that's my Morrisons plonk gone.

Suppose i should go to the offie bed.

GAH.

confiscate their xbox, playstation , DS, Wi, blackberry ,Ipad, laptop and iphone

My asbo toddler as sold his for his weed habit. Cheeky sod thought he could smoke mine! Kids these days, too entitled

I love Morrisons.

There aren't any in Bournemouth,i have to make do when i come up to the Midlands.

Fucks sake...DS2 hasn't even got a phone atm.

Twat left it on a bus.

None of us has an Iphone/pad.

I have a second hand laptop and we have a second hand computer that is shite.

DS2 has DS1's playstation that he left when he moved in with his GF.

Maybe it's an x box...all the same to me.

I don't have an IPad but I'm sure mu toddler will nick one for me if I ask. Such a mummys boy

Tell him to get me one too SP.

I'll pay him.

I've told him. He said pay him in fuzzy pop and sausage rolls

Fruit shoots and Greggs sausage rolls do?

Unless i eat the sausage rolls first-- .

He said "Yeh, tha fine. Owange shoo shoo pwease''

He can't even talk properly, must be the estates fault

I'd blame Heat magazine.

Terrible grammar.

I bloody KNEW i should've got two bottles.

Haven't read whole thread, but our school borders a large estate with high levels of unemplyment etc, and I wouldn't be surprised if I looked carefully to see some PJ's.

The difference is that the school is amazing, we have a bull dog of a head who won't take any nonsense from parents (she would not allow swearing in the playground, and will follow up on anything she considers to be detrimental to the kids) The kids love her, the standards are high, discipline is tight and they take a lot of time to get the children's aspirations up (eg taken a bunch of bright year 6 to visit Oxford University etc) Kids love her and know she would do anything for them, but know they can't get away with stuff.

I used to teach in a school in a rough part of the East End, was brilliant til the head changed.

This isn't about the op's area or the parents or their unemployment really, it is about the school, and the head, who isn't coping well with the situation it is in.
Move him, if he is unhappy he will be relieved and happy to be moved. My son has been to 3 schools, he was fine. I went to several schools, I was fine. It really isn't such a big deal. Even if your area is poor, you can find a good school. Ask around. Ask about discipline, walk past the school at pick up time or lunchtime and have a look. Ask other parents.

I went to boarding school.

It was crap educationally.

Have not read all thread, way too long, but YANBU to want to move your child/get the best for them. I got slammed on here a few months ago for saying that I would monitor my 6 year olds friendships. Do what is good for you and your child. And it is NOT snobby to do that.