does having a few sexual partners make a person better at sex

[McHappyPants2012]

i have had 2 sexual partners, 1 we only did it the once when i was drunk so don't remember a thing 2 is now my husband.

so my question is does having a few sexual partner make a person better at sex.

Yes.

I doubt it. As with anything else, it's quality not quantity that counts, right?

My best friend has slept with in excess of 100 men. She tells me quite frankly that she has done 'so much' that she no longer knows what's 'appropriate' and has scared off a few nice men by coming on too strongly and pulling out her entire bag of tricks (so to speak) on the first occasion they sleep together.

I have slept with 5 men only, 4 of those were long term relationships (1 being my DH who I've been with 10 years). I've never had any complaints and tbh I'm glad I haven't slept with loads of men. I need to feel quite a strong connection with someone before I would sleep with them anyway.

No. Having a partner you trust makes you brilliant at it!

No I wouldn't say so. Getting plenty, saying what you like/dislike & listening to your partners likes/dislikes is what makes a good sexual partner IMO

Not always!

No. Trusting the other person enough to talk about what you like/do not like does.

Yes, sex like everything else requires practice.

oh yes, i've shagged 1000's of people and am fab at it now

if only i had the time and energy

I want to say, 'no, makes no difference,' blah blah, but deep down, I think, yes.

No as you can have 100 crap sexual partners or just one good one.

It's not mandatory but it helps.

I've no idea, I've only slept with 2 people. First I only slept with 3 times, and the second was DH who I've been with for 17 years. Although I must be good because he's never complained.

Yes but surely you could have 100 sexual partners and sleep with them all once OR you could have 2 or 3 and get lots of practice in with them so you know what works/ feels good/ turns the other person on.

I think there's a big difference between first night trying-to-impress sex and in a relationship give-and-take-and-(ideally)-please-both-partners sex.

Depends a lad who has shagged loads of women.I shagged him 11 years ago and he came in 2 seconds through tje years I know others who have shagged him and he still only ever shags people once and comes in 2 seconds after all these years. Its blatantly why he never shags the same girl twice

The majority of (the few) women I know who had excessive amounts of sexual partners were either pissed and vaguely remember crawling out of bed the following morning or had self esteem issues/low self respect and equated sex with love.

It of course different for men who will quite often poke anything on offer.

*disclaimer, some men are discerning and choosy. Some of the women are not choosy and have voracious sexual appetites and think they are empowered and in control. They very well may be. But I doubt it.

Some of our nicer male friends who are getting back into the dating game (40's) are amazed at the amount of sex offered on a first date by women who are desperate to hook a bloke long term again. They reckon they get more action now than when they were randy teens! They generally don't bother to arrange a second date with anyone who offer to put out on a first date.

I thought the days of sex as repayment for dinner were long gone. Apparently not.

Definitely quality not quantity.
Dh has only had 2 sexual partners compared to my lots more and he is great in bed.
I'm not too bad myself I have to admit but only having me and one other has not hindered him.

Jumpingthroughhoops - some women just like sex and have high sex drive this isnt 1900

Eh? Jumping through hoops,
Maybe the women paid for their own dinner.
Maybe the women weren't 'desperate to hook a bloke long term.'
I thought the days of seeing sex as something just for men were long gone. Apparently not.

I have only ever shagged my husband, and he has only ever shagged me. After 21 happy years together, we are both still completely rubbish in bed and have no idea what we are doing.

Hope that helps!

My husband and I have only slept with each other - I have secretly often wondered whether I have 'missed out' sex wise, but I have no complaints and neither does he. Quality over quantity, but then I would say that wouldn't I, having shagged just the one man!!

Haha Anonymumous - maybe we are both completely rubbish too, but ignorance is bliss I guess!!

If that were the case (multiple partners for women) then teenage girls wouldnt isolate each other and call each other sluts in the corridors. Sexual liberation would be generally accepted by the up and coming generation as the norm. But it isn't. Which shows that things haven't moved on at all in the past 50 years.

perhaps i am rubbish but DH isn't saying lol

I'd like to say it doesn't but honestly I think it does.

what would lead to better sex.
500 one night stands with randoms or 500 nights of sex with the same man?