does having a few sexual partners make a person better at sex

[McHappyPants2012]

i have had 2 sexual partners, 1 we only did it the once when i was drunk so don't remember a thing 2 is now my husband.

so my question is does having a few sexual partner make a person better at sex.

I don't think a lot of one night stands necessarily makes you better but a handful of short- mid length relationships would probably help.

As a teenager I used to change partner after about 3 months once the novelty had worn off.

Practice? meh. I don't want it the same every time, even if I do have to do it with DH forevermore. I'd hope that my partner had the confidence to try new stuff whether he'd slept with loads of people or only me.

A willingness to experiment means I was good at it straight away

Nope, Definitely not.

I've only slept with 2 people and I'm amazing in bed.

:o

I don't think so. My DH lost his virginity to me and apart from the first time (which was a bit iffy) he's the best lover I've ever had and I've had a few.

ive had 4 sexual partners .but the one im with now is bloody fantastic

its a difficult question to answer on the one hand if you have only one partner its possible that you are wont reach your full potential sexually

but on the other hand as someone else suggested loads of sexual partners could be due to low self esteem, and again you maybe wont have the confidence in yourself or the person you are with to experiment

really as long as both people are satisfied and enjoy themselves Im not sure that the numbers actually matter

I am of course an absolute bloody stud muffin

Absolute trust in a partner and love does add an extra dimension to sex and make it much more exciting shame it didnt happen with exh so I will look for that

Definitely not.

But sex is not an absolute, and there is no way of comparing what people think is good.
For some it's a sensual experience, for some it's an expression of love, for others it's just another form of exercise.

I guess the key is whether you're satisfied and happy.

Nope. I was the third partner for my DH and he's a great shag - because he's open minded, listens, and really really wants me to enjoy sex. The one before him (his best mate actually, but that's a different story) had shagged hundreds of women and was absolutely clueless.

And for some it's just a way of making babies!

intresting reply's which has given me food for thought. I would never explore my therory as i love my DH with ever fibre of my body and could never hurt him.

in a nutshell sex is about experience and the more you do it with the same person the better it gets

No. The person's attitude to sex makes the most difference, one of my exes had loads of previous partners and was fucking awful. Purely because he was utterly selfish and couldn't care less about how sex was for his partner. Having loads of sexual partners made no difference in that case. Whereas someone who'd only had one partner but who wanted to make sex enjoyable would undoubtedly be better at it.

I think having sex with a long term partner over a long period of time means better sex rather than having a string of flings/one night stands in the same period of time.

This is because when you have a long term sexual partner, trust can be built up and it makes you more willing to 'explore' and try new things iyswim?

well i dont think anybody can know for sure if they have slept with 1 or 100 if it is better or not , I have been with 2 men well my first was an arse but i think we are quite good at it and enjoy it thats all that matters imo

I cant help but wonder, if they're that good at sex why don't the partners stay around long term?

Or does it mean they're good at sex but crap at relationships?

ie maybe they just THINK they're good at sex but its really just the chat up lines that gets the other person into bed?

I've known people who are not short of partners, they like the thrill of the chase, the new relationship but as soon as any commitment is required it all palls and they're off again

jumpingthroughhoops got it in one.

What Titsalinabunsquash said.

yes.
at least one would be more relaxed, less self concious, etc

I would imagine if you have had hundreds of sexual partners isnt it a bit like....well, floating a pin in a bucket

NO. DH has had a fair few partners and needed teaching how to have sex and that it wasn't just chuck it in, pump for two seconds then roll over.

It depends on the person IMO.

It depends.

Someone who has only had one partner but is horribly repressed and has never had a trusting sexual relationship is not going to be much fun. Conversely, someone who has had dozens or more partners but has failed to notice that e.g. women have clitorises will also not be great.

I've had more than 10, less than 20 partners. Best sex has been with someone who is my best friend, who I can say anything to, and who I trust.

I think that might be the crux of "good" sex, as opposed to acrobatics.

I suspect the "raight" answer is "of course not, lurve is all you need". The correct answer is yes it does.

sexual liberation is overrated anyway. I hate the idea that being promiscuous and shagging just for sport is acceptable for either men or women. It increases the risk of cervical cancer and sti's are rife amongst young people at the moment. What's wrong with being selective and only doing it with someone you care deeply for? Loveless sex is nowhere as good as loving sex.