does having a few sexual partners make a person better at sex

[McHappyPants2012]

i have had 2 sexual partners, 1 we only did it the once when i was drunk so don't remember a thing 2 is now my husband.

so my question is does having a few sexual partner make a person better at sex.

Why is it not damaging for young men?

Im ex forces and training was like a mass orgy so maybe that is different.However that 6 degrees of seperation thing can definitely work in my town with whoses shagged who!

I had lots of sporting sex and broke a few lads hearts along the way, lads who wanted more than I did. Lads. Shocking.

it's damaging for both, obviously. But a woman has more to risk. Whilst male rape can and does happen, it's far less common than the rape of a woman. A man finds it easier to overpower and intimidate a woman, because he;s physically stronger. And there's the cervical cancer risk, and the risk of pregnancy. But yes, casual soulless sex with lots of random strangers can be emotionally harmful for men too. At University I saw men picking off women like targets, notches on headboard. They were almost trying to reach weekly quotas sometimes. But all good fun, I guess..

and I'd argue that breaking lads hearts isn't all that clever either, even though it does turn the gender stereotype around. Let's play them at their game and be just as unpleasant? Is that it?

What has rape got to do with it?

It doesn't all have to be awful and heartless, peanutbutter38. In fact, I'd argue that it's normally not. Of course you get pricks, but you get that in every area of life.

I'd argue that men need to be educated to respect women enough NOT to rape them. It doesn't make sense to me to say to women, don't have sex in case you are raped. It DOES make sense to educate men.

peanut oh you are funny

I randomly shagged a fair few men still mates and see them about etc.Its just sex and is fun when your single. why not?

what does rape have to do with it?
Am I the only woman on here who knows more than one person who has been sexually assaulted in some way by a one night stand, a virtual stranger, someone they met off Facebook or a dating website or met once in a club, and assaulted them in some way? Getting to know someone the natural way, and learning a bit about them, over time, makes the chances of ending up alone in a room with a psycho less likely you weed the psychos out

At 17 I was a master at playing games and breaking the rules and turning the gender stereotypes around

OR I was a normal teenager exploring and enjoying sex. Not all of us are bogged by cosmic guilt and act like little 1950s women

And view all men as rapists and psychos!

the MN hypocrisy rears its head again! I know not a SINGLE woman in real life who would be happy for their daughter to pick up a stranger in a club, go back to his flat and then shag him.

peanut I have got 2 daughters and I expect its highly likely at some point they will have casual sex at some point

obviously Cockwomble, I wasn't suggesting that you were consciously playing gender games in your teens. Of course I wasn't. And you know it. I was raising an eyebrow at you making a joke at the fact that you'd broken hearts. Like breaking hearts is ok and just an unfortunate byproduct of shagging strangers.

Don't you think it would be better peanutbutter38 if some men weren't such knobs that they think they can do whatever they want to a woman?

Maybe some women don't want to think about their daughter shagging. Who does, really? But I think a LOT of women would accept that once their daughter is an adult, she can do what she likes.

molly, you expect it's likely (as do I, with three girls of my own) but you will worry about them and you'd almost certainly prefer it if they were selective about who they have sex with and when.

I know not a SINGLE woman in real life who would be happy for their daughter to pick up a stranger in a club, go back to his flat and then shag him

Well of course not, same as I wont in years to come want my DS to shag random women. However, he will, same as your daughter will regardless of whether you like it or not, its part and parcel of human nature and theres nothing wrong with it.

I bet I did loads of things growing up my mum and dad didnt like but its all part of growing up and becoming your own person.

I'd prefer, overall, that my daughter did what she wanted and wasn't judged for it.

I'd also vastly prefer that we were at a place in time where men didn't think it was ok to rape women.

They can have sex with who they want if they use contraception. I dont think they shouldnt have sex with who they want just cause they are girls tbh.

There is nothing wrong with breaking hearts it's part of life.

You shouldn't take it all so seriously.

I think your heart is far more likely to be broken by someone you are in a deep and meaningful relationship rather than a random shag anyway!!

ooo, where to start?!

OP, I think it really depends on the people involved. I know that having had a (quite) a few sexual partners before meeting my DH gave me confidence in bed that I probably wouldn't have had otherwise, but on the other hand, myself and DH have the best sex I've ever had. BUT, it took a while for us to get to this point, with lots of experimentating and talking about what we like and don't like. I'm not sure that if I hadn't had the previous sexual partners I'd have known that, initially, sex with DH wasn't that good. I might have just put up with it, iykwim?

To the person who said their friends don't go out on a second date with a woman who has sex on a first date - guess what? We don't care! What sexist knobs.

Loving the phrase sporting sex! Had a lot of that at uni, and no, I didn't want to see the vast majority of them again.

Surprisingly enough, I have needs too, and I was happy to go out and fufill them without expecting to marry the guy.

it's just possible that they wont though. I wont think less of them if they do, and I will provide nothing but support and give contraceptive/emotional advice as and when needed in a totally supportive, non judgmental way..
all the sexual partners I had were people I'd got to know over time. I have never had a one night stand. It's possible to go through life without having had a one night stand. And to enjoy sex. The two arn't mutually exclusive.

Hear hear yellowraincoat