does having a few sexual partners make a person better at sex

[McHappyPants2012]

i have had 2 sexual partners, 1 we only did it the once when i was drunk so don't remember a thing 2 is now my husband.

so my question is does having a few sexual partner make a person better at sex.

Never said you dont enjoy sex if people want to have sex and wait thats up to them.I have only ever waited about a week to shag all the guys I have been with.Normal men dont respect you any less for it they want sex as just as much as a female and dont have one rule for one and not the other unless they are insecure and sexist

No-one said they were mutually exclusive peanutbutter. I had great sex with my first boyfriend when I'd never had sex with anyone else.

Its not about the amount of partners at all. Its about having partners that you can talk openly with about sex. Who can tell you what you do that works; or offer constructive criticism if you could meets their needs better. Some people are just naturally good at sex regardless of numbers too. Quality experience matters whether with a couple of partners or a string of them.

Hmmmmm....well: DH and I have only ever shagged each other, and the sex can range from furniture-breaking filth to really quite dull.

Not sure what that proves other than that it's time I replaced the busted bedside lamp

That was ages ago

Peanut no I don't particularly relish the thought of a daughter of mine having one night stands in the future - but nor do I relish the thought of her being stuck in a relationship with a miserable old bastard because she's been taught to believe that once you've had sex with someone you're tied to them.

in my experience yes, sorry to say (but then i am only comparing men)

the men i have had sex with that have had more than their fair share of parnter have been better because you learn new tricks and everyone likes something different

saying that if you are happy with your sex life what does it matter you can experiment together

women are exchanging sex for a meal out oh please it is not 1955. could it not be that they enjoy no strings sex many women do, i know i have

I read threads like this and to me people are/were much more casual about sex than I was as a teenager and young adult. I wonder if I missed out but then I know how long it took me to sleep with my boyfriend, how I felt about sex (wanted to wait until marriage/had virginity taken from me so felt no point waiting now ) and I am also influenced about how I feel regarding sex now.

I will provide nothing but support and give contraceptive/emotional advice as and when needed in a totally supportive, non judgmental way

Not quite sure how you'll manage that

I missed the 'exchanging sex for a meal' comment

I do think it's sad that some women think it impossible to enjoy sex for its own sake - they need to get a bit more experience IMO

More skillfull, maybe? I don't know. Is it important to have skills? A friend of mine (quite a conservative good-girl you would think) was in three long-term relationships between the ages of 18-28 then slept with about a dozen guys over a couple of years, some one-night stands, some casual dates, then she met her DH in her early thirties.

I never had the impression that she enjoyed that shagging around period in her life. I know for sure she was desperately searching for Mr Right and had her heart broken repeatedly. One guy attempted anal, without asking. Another wanted to ejaculate on her face (she let him). Another (a muslim) called her a "filthy white whore" during sex. I fail to see how any of these experiences are empowering.

On her hen night she said she would gladly have swapped all that to have met her DH a decade earlier and thought sex skills were overrated.

I have very few moves. Sex is sex, no? if you've got to try that hard, it's not worth it.

Empowering or not Puffpants, some people do enjoy those things. Maybe you don't, maybe they're taboo, and of course both partners should be happy to do them.

Calling someone a filthy whore as part of a sex game = fine. Calling someone a filthy whore because you think they ARE a whore = not fine.

One night stands are probably not always going to be the best places to experiment, but if you want to try something, why not?

Absolutely not.

I don't know who made the exchanging sex for a meal comment. Not me.
This is another example of how Mumsnet differs from reality. In the real world, I don't know anyone who'd want their children to have one night stands.
In the real world I know plenty of people who think teenagers have sex too young with too many different people.
You make it sound like we should all spend our teens going out clubbing with a handbag full of condoms waving placards which read: free love, free sex..in support of the sisterhood.

It definitely differs from rl.No one has this archaic views nowadays not even my nan.

No one has said that peanutbutter.

People are saying that once you're an adult you can choose your own sexual partners.

Why are you making stuff up that no-one has said?

Peanut I think yes it's a tough one with teenagers - I would prefer my teens of the future to not have sex at all. I would prefer it to be illegal for them to go near other people's bits until they were 21. But heyho, that's not going to happen!

But once they are a bit more emotionally mature and in their 20s/30s, I hope they get enough experience (safe experience) for them to not end up settling for somebody.

you're not really choosing a sexual partner though if it's someone you chatted to in a bar, after four glasses of wine, then end up shagging in his car an hour later. That's not so much a choice as a spontaneous act of slightly reckless behaviour!

It is a choice.........if someone chooses to have sex with someone they have just met in a bar then it's up to them.......its not reckless behavior at all! Just because you dont personally agree with it, that doesnt make it wrong.

That makes no sense peanutbutter.

So unless I weigh up his credentials for some indiscriminate length of time, I'm not really making a choice?

We get it. You don't think people should go out shagging loads. Great. No-one's making you. What's the problem again?

it absolutely is reckless behaviour. How very odd to suggest otherwise. This is someone you don't know, who is physically stronger, who may or may not have any number of STI's, who may or may not have a history of domestic violence etc.. I'd say popping back to shag him an hour after meeting him is reckless.

Much to my shock I agree with yellowraincoat :o

Surely most of the things you do when your young are reckless sex drugs drink parties etc.If you cant be reckless when your young when can you be.

Fuck me, Whatmeworry, that must be a first.

peanutbutter, by that reckoning leaving the house is pretty reckless. I don't go into every situation thinking what danger I might put myself in. I would never leave the house.

God, you cant keep going on about him being physically stronger, he may or may not have STI's (what do you think condoms are for), may have a history of DV???????

I may get run over crossing the road, does that make me reckless then if I cross that road??

I dont think I am the one who sounds odd to be honest.

I believe there was a big university study a few years ago about who is having the best sex. If I remember rightly it was women in their 40s and 50s who had been married for 20 yrs +. (also few if no other sexual partnets). It might have been an American study but can't remember. They concluded that quality of sex increases with commitment, intimacy and familiarity. The study also found that the worse quality was young and promiscuous... quite the opposite of what society tells us. I think we are a bit messed up in our thinking. I would be interested to hear if others feel 'tied' 'connected' to past lovers (of their own or dh) as I feel haunted sometimes like their presence is in my house! (do I sound mental now?)