does having a few sexual partners make a person better at sex

[McHappyPants2012]

i have had 2 sexual partners, 1 we only did it the once when i was drunk so don't remember a thing 2 is now my husband.

so my question is does having a few sexual partner make a person better at sex.

If i ever split with DH i don't think I would be celibate I would probably not know what to do with somebody else

Well I've slept with 25 guys....My Dh has slept with 2 girls (including me) and he's easily the best guy I've ever slept with. So it may not make you better at sex, but it definitely makes you appreciate good sex when you find it. :o

Yes. Unless neither of you have had an other 'partners', in which case I suppose you'd never know what you're missing

True true flump!

peanutbutter isn't there a happy medium, though, between shagging for sport and being a nun?

And IMO drumming the need to use condoms into young people is more useful than trying to stop them having sex at all.....

Jumpingthroughhoops I've had loads of sexual partners and it has nothing to do with low self esteem. I just like having sex.

I know, right. Shocking.

No because someone may have had 20 drunken one night stands and someone may have gone out with one very experienced man who taught them every position the karma sutra and a few more tricks to boot ;) Quality not quantity for sure.

Or a man may have gone out with one very experienced woman Kelly

peanutbutter38, really? Maybe for you, loving sex is better. I've had sex with virtual strangers and it's been great. I've had sex with long term partners that's been, maybe nice, but nothing to write home about.

As for cervical cancer/sti's...well, that's really the business of the person doing the shagging. We all take risks with our health.

If you don't want to shag around, great, don't turn your nose up at people who do though. It's really none of your business.

Theres a difference isnt there.

You can have a fuck or you can make love and I dont see anything wrong in either of them.

I am a mature woman, if I was single but horny what on earth is wrong with me having a one night stand!! I dont see the problem with it - consenting adults yada yada yada, and as for these blokes that dont want to go with women who put out ona first date - get a life, its just sex! Sure for young women then maybe they need to hold off a bit but when you get to my age, well, sex is sex - it's an animal instinct, a bit like scratching an itch

Why should young women need to hold off though?

If I want to fuck someone on a first date, I will and if they don't like me because of it, super, I've saved myself some time in discovering they're a twat.

I dunno yellow if I'm honest.....it just seems more acceptable for someone my age (41) to make the decision to have some no strings sex rather than a girl of say 17 who is just starting down that road. Totally contradictory, I can see that reading it back but its just the way I see things rightly or wrongly. I just think I have the maturity now to handle non emotive sex, dont think at 17 or 18 I would have though. I would probably have turned it into something it wasnt.

I'm expressing my own opinion though, just as you are.
You might think it's snooty and nun-like behavior to prefer to have sex with people you care deeply for.
And I might think it's dangerous and damaging to have random sex with strangers. If that makes me a prude, bring it on!

At 17 I hopped in and out of beds at will. It wasn't anything emotional for me, it was exploring sex and revelling in men finding me attractive.

Hmmm, yes I see what you mean, BUT no-one says it about blokes, do they? No-one worries that a 17 year old boy will turn it into something it wasn't.

I think for a long time I did turn stuff into stuff it wasn't, I COULDN'T just have meaningless sex, but that's probably because women are socialised into being desperate for a relationship.

I know and thats bloody annoying and is definately double standards. If a guy does it loads he's a stud but if a girl does she's a slapper. I have never understood that!

I don't think you're nun-like at all peanutbutter38.

I just don't get why you think it's damaging. I can assure you I am totally non-damaged by my sexual exploits, I've had lots of fun.

well someone who has only ever had one night stands, while they may have had a lot of partners, are likely to have had less actual shags than someone who has been in a couple of LTRs with regular sex!

I mean say someone has 12 one night stands a year, that's a lot less sex than in most relationships isn't it?

Most 16/17/18 year olds were having casual sex when I was that age. It was every swapping who they were getting week on week in my job.

I will add to betty if you are 41 it was different back then now its not like that.

No, I think the opposite can be true, certainly of men. I have only had two sexual partners, one of them had slept with a LOT of other women and it showed, in a bad way. He had ideas of what was sexy and what sex should be, and what I would like, based on other women and possibly porn. Now my DH has had more partners than me, but not a vast number, and he is completely different, I never feel as though there is a whole agenda there, as though he wants to act things out. Its just us, together. I think good sex is instinctive, rather than learned.

Molly - what's different?

just when I was at school and starting work it was very rare if at 16/17 people werent having some sort of casual sex/short term flings.Most were chopping and changing frequently.Its definitely not seen as rare for young people to be doing that (very much the opposite ime!)

I think it can be damaging, especially for younger women, because one night stands can be risky, from an sti and stranger danger (date rape) point of view. And dangerous emotionally; you're exposed both physically and emotionally during sex. I had loads of friends shagging around in the eighties who were very hurt and humiliated when the guy they'd slept with didn't want a second date. They wanted something more than a 90 minute fumble. He wanted sport sex.
So I don't think you can pretend that casual sex is always just a barrel of laughs. Not for everyone it isn't.

Maybe people are just to embarassed to talk about it now so its not so open..........I grew up in a village and was a bit sheltered