to think money does buy you happiness

[poorasachurchmouse]

Whoever came up with the saying "money can't buy you happiness" obviously never lived without any.

I feel so desperate today, I'm currently living on £163 a week for a family of four due to a few changes in circumstances - Weekly income isn't £163 as some of that is paid monthly, usual weekly income is £118.

It's been a bit of a shock to the system but I'm just about managing. This week however the worst has happened.

Not only has dd gone on a residential trip which I had to finish paying for and give spending money for, I've had 2 bills taken out of the bank.

luckily I've probably got enough in the freezer to do meals til Monday(next payday) but no bread or potatoes and no Gas(prepayment meter)

I've just had to walk half an hour to the nearest cashpoint that doesn't charge £1.99, just so that I could have an extra tenner - but had to pay everything I withdrew into my current account to cover the direct debits. I've now no money left in my savings account at all.

I don't know how I'm going to make it through the rest of the week, I feel sick, I feel like crying, I feel totally and utterly desperate. I just want to get into bed, pull the covers over my head and pretend my life doesn't exsist.

I'm afraid money does buy you happiness, or rather lack of it buys you a whole shit load of unhappiness

Just wondering if you are feeling okay OP.

No, how the fuck have you come to that conclusion qo?

Do adults actually use the phrase 'so what you are [all] saying is' ?
I thought that it was just stroppy teenagers with no proper argument who did that.

qo - I don't think anyone said that.

How fucking rude to dismiss the posts of people who have lost children in that way.

Now now people

This is why I said there were two separate things going on.

1. The op's situation would DEFINITELY be alleviated by money

1. Money cannot necessarily make up for everything.

I agree that the lack of money is shit.
Where are you OP? Hope you're ok.

"Happiness is subjective, and personally I think somewhat over-rated. I think being content is far more important than being happy. One can't be happy all the time, but being content most of the time with lots of moments of happiness sounds pretty damn perfect to me."

Yes, this, basically.
I don't mean being rich makes you happier than not being rich, but just having enough to stop worrying about homelessness/bills etc does help your level of contentment. How could it not?

I'm so sorry and I do apologise, I obviously should not post while in a bad mood and definitely ought to think before posting. Sincerest apologies to anyone I've hurt or upset :(

There that's better

Thats ok qo
Apology accepted.

Second gracious apology on MN tonight! (two seperate posters). Am v.impressed

group hug

OP - I'm sorry you are having such a rough time - I cannot imagine what you are going through.

I have never been poor - I have every material thing I want and two adorable teenagers and a wonderful husband. I have everything in life that most people aspire to. However, I would give up everything and live in a caravan if DS2 could have survived. When I knew it was touch and go (immediately), I prayed for a miracle, for a mistake, when I knew he had serious congenital disabilities, I prayed for him to live so I could look after him and care for him even for a few years, even after he died and they took him away I prayed that that it was a mistake and there would be a little cry from the morgue to bring everybody running.

I cannot imagine what your life must be like and I don't know how I would cope with it. I hope you are happier again soon. My life is wonderful but 15 years ago a little bit of me and a little of what was me and DH died too and we will never regain that youthful, untainted optimism again.

Good luck OP - hope it gets better.

I'm equally as impressed that you accepted it so graciously MrsDV, many wouldn't have - so thank you for that :)

These are all very emotive and difficult things for everybody

Hully, it is just me that thinks you are being very patronising here? Do you have an opinion, or do you just want to be queen of niceness or something?

oh dear

no, absolutely not wanting to be patronising, just thinking that people are at cross purposes and that a lot of unhappiness is thereby being generated that could be averted. Surely a good thing?

thanks everlong!

And are you planning on doing that on every thread where people disagree?

Cos it is fucking irritating.