Why so reluctant to celebrate Father's Day?

[TheAlphaParent]

All the toddler groups I go to (I'm a bit of a group junkie) celebrated Mother's Day. Cards were made, flowers picked, hands printed, etc. Very nice.

None of them celebrated Father's Day. Not a single one. When I asked my local library (where one of the groups is held) why they celebrated Mother's Day and not Father's Day they said it was so they didn't "offend any single mothers". So it's okay to offend fathers? Okay to dismiss their contribution to parenting?

I have sympathy for single mothers (most of them are victims of circumstance) but isn't this PC approach of hiding Father's Day a little unnecessary? Children of single mothers are going to learn about fathers from a variety of sources - friends, media, books. So why hide Father's Day like a dirty secret? It sends the message that child-rearing is predominantly a woman's job, that a man's role is insignificant. Is that the message we want to send to kids? AIBU?

Change toddler groups

Yours sounds mental

I bet you it wasn't the single mothers campaigning for Father's Day to be banned so YABU.

I'm a single Mum and not offended by celebrating Father's day.
It is all a bit PC, and ridiculous imo.
DD doesn't have a Dad, tis a fact, but I don't expect other children to not make cards for their Dads.
DD could make one for my Dad, or an extra one for me.
Surely it's not hard for the schools/nurseries to do this?

This sounds like the sort of thing you would read about in the Daily Mail

(have I done that right :) )

F4J - is that you ?

weird, ours did. Surely lots of the children living with single mothers still have contact with their fathers anyway? Lots of threads here about NRP dads and getting / not getting cards - doing them at toddler group seems as much of a winner for them as for those of us with dads living in the same house who groan at the the thought of getting the glue and glitter out at home...!

I understand your point but your title is provocative (imo)

ours made cards for fathers day, as did the nursery and school- saved me a trip to the card shop!!

They dont celebrate fathers day because they hate their exes more like and want to hurt them for existing.

I was a single mum for years and dd1 was always encouraged to make fatehrs day cards/gifts. She gave them to her grandad as he was the closest thing she ahd to a dad, then when we moved in with dp she started giving them to him (it was a bit of a shock to him the first year she did that as he didn't realise she thought of him as her dad).

I don't know any single mum that objects to fathers day, but i do know plenty of schools/nurseries/playgroups that don't celebrate it. I think it's sad.

No I'm not F4J. Just pissed about the messages being sent out.

You need to take a look at your 'group' leaders, not the single parents!! Oh, and perhaps don't lean so heavily on toddler groups..... Try making your own!

My dcs have been bringing hom fathers day cards all week.
Where on earth do you live?
You go to lots of groups and they all decided this regardless of how many children didn't live with their dads?
That is really weird

Yup, my kids have made cards and presents both at school and at the childminder's for the pointless wastes of space who sired them their loving fathers, and have done for years at playgroup/nursery etc too. Your playgroup sounds bonkers and this sort of thing certainly isn't the norm. Thanks for patronising us poor victims of circumstance though, your pity sympathy is much appreciated.

Isn't it the children's feelings which should be considered? Not the adult mothers?

DS came home from nursery with a handpainted card for DH. I don't think all groups are like this. Maybe ones that know they have a high proportion of single mothers?

how odd

I seem to be posting that a lot on MN tonight

Op.... You are only one affair (see relationships section) from being a 'single mother' yourself you know!!

Who is your DH texting behind your back eh?

In school I have to confess I don't do Fathers day. Ive had too many little ones over the years getting upset about it due to absent Fathers. I just found it best to avoid the distress

I'm a single parent. My DC have a dad, he just doesn't live with us. I have no objection, and never have, to anyone making Fathers' day cards. I think you'll find the pc'ness comes from the group leaders.

I would imagine that single mothers had nothing to do with the decision. Some people just decided that some people may be offended.

What a pathetic OP.

A stupid thread heading. A stupid premise.

A bit goady, I'd have thought.

Our school makes a big deal about mother's day but never does father's day. While I completely understand the problem, I do think it's sad and further degrades the role of fathers inn today's society.

Although, to be honest, the card from school was all I got (sniff sniff) while I have made sure my DH has 4 cards and little pressies ready and waiting from the DCs tomorrow (polishes halo and scratches at hair shirt).

Well it is a tad damp to be parading round in batman suits tonight......

We made cards at toddler group and DS1 brought one home from preschool.

I think you've just been unlucky if you've been to several groups and not made a single card.